| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:26:27 PM |
If gettin more than a half dozen (new mails) a year is a lot...then I really get a lot, cause I get a heck of a lot more than that! But, I still don't feel like I get a great deal.
Whoever said a few per year has to be crazy. On average, if you're active and reasonably normal, then you'll get a lot of e-mail I would think. I mean, just one chat with a girl is like 10 e-mails lol. Even getting e-mails from 2 new people per month shouldn't be that hard.
A more interesting statistic, that will control for your level of activity and location, is one's rate of return. I'd say an average guy will get 3 positive responses out of 20 e-mails sent out. And 1 of those will probably result in a phone call or date. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:32:04 PM | | I don't get a lot of messages, and I don't prefer to. I used to get them and want them for one reason: dating. But that's gone kinda obsolete by now and I prefer to look at the forums and see what everyone's discussing. Of course, if people wanna message me, it's ok, but I don't expect to see anything new anymore and that's fine. | |
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dpd22
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:45:47 PM | A lot will have to do with your geographical challenges. If you are in a area that has few POF members then you just won't recieve as much mail. That was my situation when I was actively searching. Now that I am just here for the forums it doesn't matter.
The ratio is also a factor. In my area, the men/women ratio is about 3 to 1.
Even getting e-mails from 2 new people per month shouldn't be that hard.
The first 2-3 months I was on POF, I received some initial contacts. The past couple months I have received only a few initial contacts. Probably because I'm no longer the new person that people want to check out.
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:53:36 PM | I get plenty of messages but it seems to come in spurts. The one thing I do hear a lot is that
women like a profile with some substance to it. So punch it up and tell them about yourself.
Good Luck. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/3/2007 9:34:29 PM | | I've been on here over 4 years and can count on one hand with 3 fingers left over how times a woman has wrote to me and one of those was just a woman commenting on a reply I made in a post. I'm lucky if they even write back to say "no thank you". What ever happened to that women lib stuff where the women were asking out us men? (lol) | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/4/2007 6:27:48 AM |
What ever happened to that women lib stuff where the women were asking out us men? (lol)
Well to start with now days women think that they get to pick and choose when they wish to be equal.
It doesn't work that way in my book but as long as others put up with it then they will continue to do it.
One thing that people need to remember is that according to POF women initiate contact less then 20 percent of the time. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:33:56 PM | I agree with the poster that said you have to put yourself out there. I've been on here for a while and I put out feelers to the women. One thing I've noticed and it's quite funny as well is the "Viewed Me" page. Most of the women I sent messages to I see later check out my profile and after a week, you can see that they've checked it out a few times but they never respond to your message. Are these ladies afraid or are they just insecure? It just seems common sense to me that if you check out someone's profile after or before they sent you a message, there's at least a curiosity there.  | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 7/4/2007 9:16:06 PM | I do put myself out there and write to women that catch my interest, to no avail mostly. And yes, I see they checked out my profile but choose not to respond, and do the delete thing. Most of the responses I've gotten are from women I'm not interested in at all, although I do write back to at least say no thanks.
I've come to the realization that POF is good at what its primary purpose is, which is the forums and the advertising, than it is about actually meeting someone. Its much better now that I accept it on those terms. | |
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