| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/19/2008 8:41:04 PM | []You guys who are claiming you've only received a few messages in a year must be joking or have a really bad profile. (which you can always correct)[ /]
Not joking not a bad profile ... 5'5", I've had a total of 30 people (men, gay men, and women) give me feedback on my profile and have changed my profile 12 times, the profile I post when I'm looking is very well written, the pics I post have been approved by several people (men, gay men, women) that they look like me and are flattering. Some of us just have to work at it a bit harder. I've noticed that the last few gentlemen that have mentioned that they do get messages from women that are not initiated are 6 feet tall or taller ... | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/19/2008 9:03:39 PM |
Not joking not a bad profile ... 5'5", I've had a total of 30 people (men, gay men, and women) give me feedback on my profile and have changed my profile 12 times, the profile I post when I'm looking is very well written, the pics I post have been approved by several people (men, gay men, women) that they look like me and are flattering. Some of us just have to work at it a bit harder. I've noticed that the last few gentlemen that have mentioned that they do get messages from women that are not initiated are 6 feet tall or taller ...
I can see where height might present a problem. Unfortunately, it's a big issue for a lot of women.
Believe it or not, I have run into a few women offline who are actually afraid of tall men. My guess would be that it has something to do with an abusive ex (or any other male, for that matter) who was tall, though. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 2:25:46 AM | uuufff... I guess that women said they want the same rights, but still thay want you to make the first move!! why?? they should beging to have trust on them so they can have tha same rights!!! LOL!!! Am I right or not?? | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 5:26:55 AM | Its pretty normal for guys to not get as many message as woman on here or any other site like this. WHY you ask yourself ? sinmly becuase there are loads of us guys and simply not enough real woman on the sites. Many of the womans advert are not even real pple but are instead spam bots, lucky that not to bad on this site but mostly thats true. Also most woman dont spend time looking to message guys simplly becuase they dont have to> remeber they are getting loads of emails most days and so dont have time to look for guys here.
Also women have far more choice so the ratio is bad anyway for us poor guys ;)
But the biggest reson is becuase most of us either dont contact enough woman here and when we do we make the email to short and un-interresting for a woman to bother to reply to. Like Hi, or Hi I am john wanna chat sometime. hahaha
the best sucess is when you take the time to read profiles and ask a few questions put out a few complements and most of all do it lots. Otherwise you might as well forget this site and go out to pubs and clubs cause the odds will be better. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 1:01:53 PM |
pixeiplay.......Many of the womans advert are not even real pple but are instead spam bots,
*new girl raises hand* What is a dating site spam bot? How would that work? I have heard of spam bots but how would one work on a dating site? Does the bot hit on you and offer you bacon?
If this is too off the topic then just ignore or delete it. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 1:07:50 PM | I get some-but they either think I'm not going fast enough; going too slow; chatting too much; not enough,BLAH!  Where is the middle ground? How can I know somebody without chatting ; talking on the phone; etc...?!  | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 1:12:12 PM | Mindy:
I haven't run across any spam bots. But on some paid dating sites, they have employees that operate a few profiles. Their job is to send out brief, yet enticing emails to paying members, in order to keep them paying.
So, you may get a sentence or two a week from a profile, for a couple of weeks. Then nothing. A week or two rolls by, and you get a similar response from another profile.
Some sites have "winks" or "flirts" that you can send someone to express initial interest w/o actually writing to them. If the "flirt" back, then you might go ahead and sens them a message. So, a spam bot might work in that realm...........sending fake "winks" and "flirts".
There is no bacon-like substance to them!
Besides, isn't offering a guy the bacon reserved for like the 4th or 5th date?? | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 4:26:22 PM | In the real world if i go out I have no problem having young good looking women interested and on the odd occasion even approaching me, but get online and zilch! No interest. lol!
I got a couple of messages when i first joined up.....they were lot older than me and I figured maybe they thought what the hell I am not getting many guys under 40 so i will give this bloke a try. Its a distorted reality this online dating. Too many men, some of them dodgy, and too few women, making it an ego boost for women who end up over estimating themsleves and set extremely unrealistic expectations, or they become so weary about guys on here it makes it impossible to talk to them. If you'r over 40 and looking for someone over 40 I think online dating is going to work. For younger blokes, the pub is a far better option. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 4:36:34 PM | I disagree to a point. I am 31 and have been on here about 2 weeks. I get about 5 pages of messages a day. I try to answer each one every night. Even if its a quick note. I have several that I have been talking to for the whole time on hear. I may not be near by all of them. But if you want someone to talk to or give you a return message. Send me one and I will get back to you. This site has been an awesome experience for me so far. So I would like to return the favor for those who need it. Good Luck  | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 4:42:14 PM |
Flawed2Perfection......Besides, isn't offering a guy the bacon reserved for like the 4th or 5th date?? Thx for your answer about the spam bots. If any bots are hitting on me I am afraid they will get lost in my mail deluge. I only give free bacon to those I turn down in real life. (that's a really funny inside joke but no one here will get it. It's making me and my best friend Amy laugh like that little rolling yellow man in your post) | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:24:17 PM | | For me, it happens in bunches. I get a bunch of messages for a day or two and then nothing for a week or two. But I have noticed that if I make some changes to my profile I tend to get new messages right away, or at least more profile views. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 6:46:04 PM | How many of you ladies actualy browse around the site looking for guys?
Not many I bet cuz I get next to no msgs if I'm not online. I think women just look at that line of pix up above when they're online and check out the ones that interest them. 9.9 times outta 10 I get msgs when I'm online.
Problem is ,the ones I msg aren't interested and vice versa. But, a weiner never quits ... | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/20/2008 9:07:51 PM |
How many of you ladies actualy browse around the site looking for guys?
raging heart-on........
Not many I bet cuz I get next to no msgs if I'm not online. I think women just look at that line of pix up above when they're online and check out the ones that interest them. 9.9 times outta 10 I get msgs when I'm online.
Problem is ,the ones I msg aren't interested and vice versa. But, a weiner never quits ...
My guess for the reason why you get messages only when you are online is because when people search they search using the function ...." last on line" ....I do. I want to make sure I am looking at current profiles and not waste time on profiles that might be abandoned. The people who are online show up first. I don't just look at the line of pix up above like you say. I use the search function. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/21/2008 12:00:08 AM | | I'm actually surprised at my experience here so far. I signed up around mid-August. It started out a little more bumpy than it did when I was a member here a few years ago, but I wrote my profile the way I wanted. I periodically fine tuned certain sections along the way. I received a few encouraging emails from a couple of people who read my forum posts. What really surprised me was the number of views I was getting. That has started to slow down lately. I spend more time on the Viewed Me page than anywhere else. Only a handful have actually emailed me, but that seems like more than what the average guy is getting based on what I've read here. The content in my profile has been the deciding factor. I stand out as something different from the norm the women in my area are faced with. I just realized at this very moment that I rarely receive any comments related to my looks. Almost every message has focused specifically on the content in my profile. Not sure what to do with that new revelation. It is difficult to get the ones I am interested in to respond or take notice. My inbox is nothing compared to the deluge of messages women receive. A few emails a week are pleasant surprises. | |
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lobo65
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Joined: 11/20/2005
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/25/2008 10:07:04 AM | | I've only gotten a few, and the majority have either been from women too far from me, or who weren't a match. Most of the ones I get on any dating sites are from Chinese or Russian women looking for a green card, and a sugar daddy. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/25/2008 5:17:27 PM | I think it's true for most sites, pay or free...
Women, on average ,will get more messages than guys. Often its many more messages.
Very few guys get the number of messages that the average woman gets.
Very few women get as few messages as the average guy gets. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/25/2008 6:02:56 PM | | I just come to accept that I don't get as much messages on here so I just change the scenery sometimes just to change things up. But I do make my intentions clear about what I want. | |
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Joined: 9/6/2008
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 12/11/2008 2:21:23 PM | Hi OP,ive had a few messages from some lovely ladies and a few who just wanted to tell me to get a haircut,very kind of them,lol.
In general i would say there are many more attractive ladies than there are handsome men so its pretty obvious that its going to be mostly men who send the most messages therefore the ladies can be more choosy and to be honest they deserve to be,my view anyway.
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 12/11/2008 4:47:58 PM | I have been on the site a month and a half. This is the first time I have ever signed up to a dating site. I've had a few very interesting conversations here. Lately I have been spending time on the forums.
Some days I recieve no messages. Then on some days they come in bunches. The first couple of weeks or so, I was sending out alot of e-mails. I Recieved very few replies. I chalked it up to sending messages to ladies that I had little hope of recieving a reply from. So with hat in hand lol, I decided to see what would be the response if I set things up where I make it clear that if you want to get to know me, you will have to contact me.
At the very least its giving me feed back on who is attracted to me. I answer all the e-mails I get and have made a couple of friends. I think my next step is to check out a POF event. Over all, the site has a mix of some really nice people, Many who are troubled, Some who are scammers, etc etc.. Just like in the real world LOL.
My advice is be patient, Be yourself, Refine your profile and everything else will take care of its self.
Happy Holidays,
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:12:20 AM | I've been on the site for several months now - and have been contacted once. Mostly I reach out to a lady and see if there is grounds for good communication, and if they seem interested the conversation moves along.
They say that 25% of the time the lady will make contact, but that estimate may be low in my opinion. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 12/12/2008 8:37:52 AM | I get a few messages a week, I got more when I first signed up but I guess a new face etc. means more hits.
I don't ever send out a first message as this doesn't seem to work as far as getting replies go. I must be aiming too high  | |
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