raymay
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Joined: 10/22/2004
Msg: 101 | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 10/23/2004 5:03:01 PM |
many women look at your profile before they read your message, if your profile "sucks" they will just delete the message
I usually check the profile first too, but I still come back to read the e-mail even if I don't care for the profile. It's curiosity. Although, if I was getting several responses each day like some women do, it would be tougher to read/respond to every e-mail. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 10/23/2004 5:33:43 PM | | I think the msg thing is dependant on you. Don't expect women to make the first move. i have recieved replies on practically every msg I have sent. Its hard to respond all the time and I am a bit slack in that department so I can only imagine what it must be like for the women who must be getting a whole lot of msgs. | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 10/23/2004 10:49:17 PM | | I have got maybe two pms here that I did not first pm them... One of those pms had nothing to do with anything to do with dating.. I have sent out a few to ones I find interesting. Im lucky that most at least bother to pm me back, some say they have boy friends and others say there ok with being pen pals/chating etc. But, seriously Im not having a lot of action with the pm funtion here, but I know that Im lucky that most ladies do bother to return a pm back to me. | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 107 | |
| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 10/27/2004 11:44:21 AM | i dont care anymore
cause most of tha girls on here lie anyways
especially where i live
it all sesspool of lust and lies lol
it's f**kin jokes now
im just on here to come across tha girls who actually know wat im feeling and know where im commng from
and i met a few who actually admit it now
so i hope to see more of them come out now=)
cant belioeve their single too when they got tha looks too
it too mysterious here | |
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dae
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Joined: 6/2/2004
Msg: 108 | |
| Re: Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 10/30/2004 1:16:40 PM | | c141, what kind of women are you looking for, any age group in particular? Are you messaging women around your age, or way younger than you? Women around the same age as you, are looking for a great new life too. | |
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| Re: Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/1/2004 6:58:01 AM | I think the whole replying thing depends on a lot of factors. All the people that i have written to, have written back, people of different ages. It's kinda tiring to flip thru everyone's profile to see who fits your taste. I always go with the people who post forums and if i find their post interesting, i take time to look at their profile, and even if it sucks, i will send them mail.I never ever go without replying, even when someone is rude (of course don't expect me to respond with a caress on the cheek, but i will have responded even then).
The thing of gals judging thru the profile, i think that may also fall on the part of the guys,it's not onesided.
Dude (Car), why all that anger brother? everyone in a way has experienced a lot of that prejudiced staff but my friend, that can't stop you from feeling the flow, just don't mind about those who don't get back to you, it's not your fault that they think bad about you. One thing i like about this site is that people are open and reading people's views about something is good enough for me, so if i write and someone doesn't respond (which hasn't happened to me so far) i just quit, i mean you can't milk a bull!!. I would otherwise be crying all the time coz i seem to be the only african in here, but that has never bothered me and i have never gotten any bad responses, infact, i love this place and am starting to single out some interesting posters whose posts i have to go thru. Go with the flow dude!! | |
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| Re: Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/1/2004 11:47:32 AM | Not sure what qualifies as a *lot* of messages. I'd say that probably 90% of what I send out / have received are based on the stupid jokes and sexual innuendo in the forums. Just stick with it, have some fun just messing with people and you'll probably get noticed. And if you sound interesting in the profile, oh yeah that makes a *huge* difference.
So yeah, just try flirting in the "sex and dating" forum a little more, it works  | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/1/2004 2:09:14 PM | Yes and No.
Duh.
Let's start with No. Men get few replies and messages because of reasons stated by women like ktbaby949.
..."they have all been from men that are about 20 years older then me or they were just perverts who have nothing better to do but email girls disguesting mail". This is a simplification that unfortunately is all too true. I know because I am guilty of this as well. There are tons of attractive young ladies that appeal to me for various reasons other than their age. Contrary to the actions of the minority of my brothers in e-dating, I read the profiles and respond to those that have common interests. I'll be first to admit I want a beautiful young woman on my arm or play the role of Svengali. The point here is perception by women about men and vise visa. ****LADIES****THERE IS A WONDERFUL FILTER ON THIS SITE WHICH PREVENTS THE OLD GUYS FROM GETTING THRU. if this is your main problem USE IT. Alot of women, new to this e-dating-whatever this is communication, do not review or apply all the tools available. Then they complain about being "harrased", word gets out among others and then the neophytes shut up or shutdown. No one benefits.
Perception by men-****LADIES****IF YOU DON'T WANT ATTENTION FROM PEOPLE OUTSIDE OF YOUR AREA, INTEREST OR GENDER...SAY SO! Better yet, DON'T POST A PICTURE UNTIL YOU ARE SATIFIED WITH THE CONTENT OF COMMUNICATION. Here is another sad truism, men act on what they see. We are visual creatures. This is not say we are stupid or genitalia driven, that sells us short (no-pun). We are creatures by composition to be REACTIVE. Proaction on the part of women, limits our reactive ability and allows us to better focus our desires, intentions and discourse. WHEN WOMEN FAIL TO ANNOUNCE THEIR INTENTIONS OPENLY, THEY LEAVE US WITH NO CLEAR GOAL. Men will then either shutup/shutdown or respond in less than positive ways. The less positve reaction is one borne of frustration and resentment.
For myself, I spelled out my interests and attractions quite clearly. I researched for women that fit my criteria as close as possible, e-mailed all (about 8). Received 4 replies. That's 50% return-that's unsually high. One reply admonished me for setting limits. She was politically correct (which I detest) but articulate. I e-mailed her back and suggested that for her I would make an execption to my rules because I enjoyed her arguments. She responded with "good luck in your search for a trophy". I found that to be incredible that she would take more time to argue with me than to ignore me. The second reply was good but has come to a stand still same with #3. However #4 has been quite intriguing and shows a great deal of promise, if for nothing else a great person to talk with who I have common interest. We have exchanged about 25 e-mails so far. That's a 300% return, do the math.
What is the point?*****STATE YOUR INTENTIONS CLEARLY*****Don't say "hanging out" when you want a date, don't say "Intimate Encounter" when you want a shoulder to cry on. Think about what you are saying about yourself when you post your profile***LADIES-KEEP IT SIMPLE*** If you want a guy to be your girlfriend say so, please. P.S. 'Match' com sucks alot more. It provides disinterested people at great cost. | |
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w8in4u
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 117 | |
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| Do any guys actually get a lot of messages on here?
Posted: 11/17/2004 1:14:11 PM | When you type a message the subject line of the message can be changed hun.
As for getting messges...what are those? I think I've seen a few now and then.
Granted recent events have kept me busy with mail. 
~Gotta Luv Me~
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w8in4u
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 119 | |
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| A line away from success
Posted: 11/17/2004 1:25:36 PM | Nah, but I can. lol
If you change the subject line then people will know you put more thought into the message and a good subject line can get you noticed.
~Gotta Luv Me~
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w8in4u
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 121 | |
| A line away from success
Posted: 11/17/2004 1:45:31 PM | | Well, just in case you want to follow me - I'll send directions so that I'm sure you don't get lost. | |
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| A line away from success
Posted: 11/17/2004 1:49:43 PM | Will it have a map too? I'm not so good without pictures...I like to see things and touch. lol
~Gotta Luv Me~
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w8in4u
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Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 123 | |
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| A line away from success
Posted: 11/17/2004 1:53:32 PM | Sweet! I'm there then!
Oops...back on topic. Just send mail and be yourself in it and you'll get mail back. Trust me. It may take time but it gets there.
~Gotta Luv Me~
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