| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:16:32 AM | The only overly nice man I met was gay, and yes we all overlook the nice ones, because deep down we want someone pleasing on the eyes, I say , why because it happens and there is nothing we can do about, I have met some really ugly guys, and I still wasn't good enough because deep down they were looking for a barbie doll.
And I must admit I want better than I can get, we must lower our expectation about what will be allowed. Suck it up and realize pretty gets pretty, ugly gets ugly. Personalities have nothing to do with it, no matter how hard we deny it | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:31:47 AM | Wow some of the males who answered sound bitter. People are people, as in life you have all kinds of people the good, the bad and the ugly. One just deals with it. It's called life. I try not to shove people into boxes or tack labels on them. I take each dat as it comes, go on my dates from people I meet here and be thankful, I get to make new friends, and get out of the house on a friday or saturday night. While I would like to find a relationship, I am optimistic it will happen when the time is right. I know he is looking for me to.
It takes time and I am in no rush. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:46:16 AM | You almost hit the target but just barely missed it.
I haven't read this whole thread and am not going to but . . . We have to make selections based on some criteria to find the one we are going to eventually connect with. There are too many potential mates to evaluate all based on personality or some other ethereal criteria and so the first shifting point is appearance.
Consider that there are approximately 300 million people in the US pretty much equally divided into the two sexes. That leaves 150 million that are of the opposite sex. It has been estimated that approximately 10% of those are homosexual so those are rejected leaving 135 million. Of those, probably 65% are married leaving 47 million potentials. But, probably 30% or more are of the wrong age group leaving 14 million potential mates. You can continue to distill it down based simply on the obvious but the base fact is that there are at least hundreds of thousands of potential mates to select from and there must be some way to sort through them.
The obvious first selection criteria is appearance as it is the fastest way to eliminate a large group of those hundreds of thousands. I'm male and one of my first criterias is what the face looks like. That's probably not fair but I see women who show a picture here that have no make-up or hair that barely looks as if it has been brushed and combed. I also see women who are wearing clothes that look as if they are trying to look as bad as possible. This is something the woman (or man) has complete control over. Even if money is a problem, there are thrift stores where attractive clothing can be had for $10.00 or less. Finally, a big sorting factor for me is weight and this is another place where 95% of people can control what they look like.
Once you go through all these sorting means, you are left with those who are physically attractive and that is a manageable group. That's when personality and other ethereal attributes come into play and the final selection can be made. It's just a natural and logical process of elimination.
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 12:24:06 PM | | Southernredhead...it has nothing to do with bitterness and everything to do with being tired of being told that just because a man wants what he considers attractive in a woman he is deficient in character,shallow ect ect...woman boldy proclaim and announce what they want in a man and most men don't take issue with it...it would be nice if the women returned the favor and get rid of the entitlement mentality....has the word "bitter" become a synonym for a man who has an opinion contrary to that of most women. ? | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 1:42:52 PM | | As my Dad always said people will eat shit and like it. Most (not all) people want a quick fix. Lust has alot to do with it. See someone nice I got to have her or him now! Not ever taking the time to get to know a person and their family. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 1:56:58 PM | | lol i think thats so wrong a man and a woman will meet when the time is right ,obviously attraction has to be their too but timing is the issue | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:35:37 PM | pinkmews,
I totally agree with you:
a man and a woman will meet when the time is right ,obviously attraction has to be their too but timing is the issue , because people look for one thing when they are not ready for commitment and just want to play around, compared to when they are ready to settle down, and are willing to put the time into a relationship.
Great observation :) | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:19:10 PM | | My, My ! Very intresting however; what is the definition of a "Good Woman"? Such a broad statement and very individualistic. Beauty I guess, and "Good Woman" is in the eye of the beholder. Fat is Fat and very well could contain a "Good Woman". We Americans have a hard time NOT judging a book by its cover...... Sad | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 7/7/2009 3:14:52 PM | | this is like the old saying nice guys finish last, the same applies for girls. People are stupid in general when they are blindfolded they can't see the good thing in front of them until its too late. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:41:30 AM | | I think it just takes time to weed out all the ***holes to find someone just as worthy as you are to them xoxo There is a reason Good Woman finish last it is simply because we have confidence enough to be a lil more patient and wait for a person with the right fit | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:00:17 PM | I disagree,I think men are simple and light hearted , I think women are the complicated ones with more heavy issues..
Why do men overlook good women ? It s individual in each case. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:39:28 PM | | Not sure what a good woman is. What's good for one might not be good for another. Generalizing "good" might not apply to every woman out there. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:15:08 AM | Good men do not overlook good women; that's one that needs to be put on Mythbusters. I positively, unquestionably, absolutely and beyond any remote shadow of a doubt guarantee you that a good woman will not be overlooked.
I'll leave it at that. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:55:15 PM | Take heart "good women" of the world.
For every good woman just like you, there's a "nice guy" waiting to meet you.
Why you two losing clans of the dating world just don't hook up with one another seems strange and mysterious, but is easily explained.
Neither of you is good enough for the other.
So lower your standards "good women" and "nice guys", and perhaps you will meet up in the middle, where together you can start a fire with your smoldering resentment of everybody else. | |
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meloff
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/1/2009 10:24:52 PM | | I got lust for almost every woman,I don't speak girl very well I guess the ones that say yes are the ones I pick.(usually not a good pick) Maybe I'll bother the hell outta a quiet chick that won't talk to me.(That may be a great idea) | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/2/2009 10:48:21 AM | | Time, distance, compatibility, and personal issues, whether they be physical, psychological, spiritual, or financial. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:57:09 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^Lust is one defanate answer: then looks (cosmedic, size,apperance, ect.); or anything that would give them a nice little pep rally inside their pants. Unfortunately, there's us men tht ask the same "?"why do women overlook good guys? well the answer for that is they want someone to slap them around and to be treated like dog shit. I have yet to find a nare one that is genuine. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:43:42 AM | | I don't think many men know what a good women is. I imagine it is what a guy considers good to him. When I was younger "good" was more of a selfish endevor, what she could do for me or what I would find enjoyable about her. I think women consider good as in what they might do to be put on a pedistel to get the same from a guy as they give them. I think it might be wise when meeting someone to get to know what they they are looking for in life that way you know where they are heading and it may not coincide with your own plans in life. Dont expect all men to be going down the same road you set for yourself. Life holds different paths for every individual. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:57:35 AM | | Define "good." I've dated "good" women who spend the entire time telling my how good they are and how much the world doesn't appreciate it. And then there's the "good" women who won't talk to you because you've been divorced, don't belong to their church, you might have said a "bad" word, or you don't agree with whatever loony cause it is they're involved in a particular week. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/3/2009 8:03:27 AM | I can't tell you how many times I personally have been overlooked.......Now I would like to think I am a good quality person - Educated (have a Master's Degree, thank you), hard working, independent, self supporting, resourceful, and much to offer someone.
In other words, I don't take from the system and look around for more like I see so many do.
I hear all the time from men how they are looking for someone who IS quality, etc., so here I am, I fit all the criteria, and they run like hell.
Only thing I see is THEY are missing out. - Never judge a book by its cover. Because if you do, you may be missing out on one of the best stories of your life. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:25:44 PM | I am a good woman and seem to get noticed and valued more by foreign men in France, Germany and England than by American men. On the internet, I sense a
completely different level of interest by European men in me, and this is even without them knowing I am an American right away.
They are much more open in their admiration and eagerness to get to know me.
There is not the sense of underlying hostility and distrust.
Not sure why this is but I think it bears looking into personally. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:17:15 PM | well in my case I feel the same way? fit the criterea as a quality person, then they see that and run like hell like the  is chasing them. usually their preference is to be treated like dog shit, and being slapped around 24/7 | |
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