| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:45:14 PM | From my experience on POF thus far the men on here want a girl to be close to perfect. They want the woman to be physically fit ( 110-130lbs), independant, financially set, knows what she wants in life, able to cook, likes to play sports, have a good sense of humor, respectful, good in bed and my favorite, childless. I see this over and over. I can check off a few of those things on that list which describes me. But certainly not all of them. Don't get me wrong, it's good to have preferences. But be realistic. I pass right by a man's profile that lists all these qualities as what they look for in a woman.
That said I can be picky too. But I don't expect perfection from anybody. If the guy is half decent looking and respectful, that's pretty much all I need. I don't care if he has a high paying job, kids, or 6 pack abs.
So I really don't know why men overlook good women. It's a shame. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:52:56 PM | Masked Hero quoted;
[ Just because your a " Good" Woman dosen't make you the " Right Woman... They say the Honda Accord is such a " Great car" so safe and great on gas,but its not the "Right" car for me. Yes my Nissan 350Z is a Gas guzzle'n beast... but its RIGHT for ME !!! Fast and Sexy just how I like it ! ]
Guys please stop comparing us women to cars. I've heard it so many times.
"Women are like cars, they depreciate in value as they age". My favorite!  | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/27/2008 11:03:05 PM | I think it is because, once finding their freedom one way or the other, they want to have some 'Fun' and of course the Good Women are not here for 'Fun' they are here looking for someone nicer than the man they were with before.
See to me it is easy, he wants to fill his boots with as many women as he can meet, and some of the shes are the same.
There are a few good women and good men but they get missed in the rush. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:52:46 AM | From my experience on POF thus far the men on here want a girl to be close to perfect. They want the woman to be physically fit ( 110-130lbs), independant, financially set, knows what she wants in life, able to cook, likes to play sports, have a good sense of humor, respectful, good in bed and my favorite, childless. I see this over and over. I can check off a few of those things on that list which describes me. But certainly not all of them. Don't get me wrong, it's good to have preferences. But be realistic. I pass right by a man's profile that lists all these qualities as what they look for in a woman.
Conversely women are only interested in tall, well built millionaires, etc etc. Generally both have unrealistic expectations. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:48:57 PM | I know the forum is why do Men overlook good women. But it realy does go both ways a guy can meet a lot of the things a woman is looking for but she goes right by him. It might be that when we see some one that seems like they are the right one for us we think they must be to good to be true. So we pass them by. I know its the old saying its better to be safe than sorry. But if you don't try you will never know if they are or are'nt the right one. You should at least give it a shot.
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:00:56 PM | A person with issues would overlook anyone probably - good or bad. A person with unrealistic expectations will overlook good ppl because they think they de man... | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 2:48:08 AM | | I would have to disagree a little with your answer. I think the better explanation for why guys over look good women is just because we are greedy and blind. For example in a relationship, a man would cheat, overlooking his beautiful and loving girlfriend or wife right. Well i came up with the reason why. Its pretty simple. Guys always complain about the many things that are wrong with their spouse, but they over look the many qualities they do have. So what im sayin is that man look pass that 90% good that their spouse has and searches for that stupid 10% their wife doesnt have, and when the find it, they cheat, not knowing that there are losing 90% of good and gaining the minimal 10% that doesnt even matter. Thats why i think men overlook a good women, not soo much the fact that they chase what they cant have, cause if thats the case, everyone would be after a movie star. =) | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:14:09 AM | | Men are all about the high maintenance chics. Ya know Barbie doll type. If they don't look good on their arm and be able to show you off, they don't want you. It's all about ego and lust. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:16:58 AM | Has anybody ever noticed how every person on this planet in their own eyes is some kind of saint?
I'm a good man, in fact I'm the best catch on here, so line up ladies. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:32:47 AM | | Oh wow, a man that thinks logically. I really enjoyed your answer, it is so true. What one person finds good may not be what the other thinks. We are all individuals and we need to respect that. I don't think it is a matter of being overlooked; it is a matter of chemistry. Sometimes it takes more than one or two dates to get to know the person and to know if in your heart they are for you or not. have a nice day. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:39:05 AM | Well let me put it this way. A few years ago me and my friends are sitting in a bar, the hotspot in town, and my buddies are going look at all the hot women around here. They say there must be a 100, but I look at them and go there is about 4 in this bar. I found the best way to judge someone if they are dating material is look in their eyes, and also talk to them about things.
The most excited I got about a women in the past few years was this short, chubby, school teacher I met one night, who just had a wonderful personality, and warmth in her voice, I was just taken aback. But most men would have just blown her off as a 5 or a 6. That's the problem....we thing we want someone who's hot, and the good women don't try to be hot, they are just real. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:55:14 AM | | Dont worry hun women over look Good Men just as much if not more. I am a prime example..good hearted--but all they want are the tattooed bad boys..and they deserve them. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:55:40 AM | | I don't exactly understand the OP's problem. I would not overlook a good woman, and I don't know any other men that would, either. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:18:27 AM | | Men do not overlook good women. In fact, we search frantically for you. The problem is, we don't know where to look for you, and if we do find you, you either aren't interested or you're too "busy" to make time for us (usually chasing after the last bum you got involved with). | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:31:28 AM | | Because 'good' isn't necessarily sexy, and people are attracted to sexy people. I'm not just talking about appearance, I'm talking about attitude. Good is too complying IMO. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:59:37 PM | Most people come from fear (ego); they refuse to suspend their judgments and choose to love unconditionally. Love seeks to understand; fear judges, condemns, and punishes.
Most people "fall" in love which is lust; they do NOT choose to love their mate unconditionally; most people act unconscious and react to their partners until all hell breaks loose when someone doesn't get what they want which is demanding behavior (abuse). | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:38:42 PM | | In reading the responses made to this post I am reminded of a famous song that goes something like this..You can't always get what you want..but if you try sometimes..you might find..you get what you need. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:39:12 PM | | I didn't read all the posts, but it may already have been mentioned. You want to know why men overlook good women? Read "Why Men Love ****es". It doesn't mean that "****es" can't be good women, but it might certainly give you some perspective to the "goings-on" in a man's mind (generally speaking). Now before anyone goes blasting me saying that not all men are like that, I already know that but you'd be surprised at how many men fit the scenarios in that book. OP, it may give you a bit more clarity on the situation and I would certainly recommend as a good read to all women, especially the ones who keep wondering what happened. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:37:27 PM | Well About why guys cheat I have no clue. I know guys with woman are 99 percent perfect there ony flaw is the idoit there with. I have meet the women they cheat with and what the F@#$ are they thinking. Think about this you have a 57 corvette at your house. Why that year it looks sweet to me thats all year don't matter. Why in the H##L would you get in a gremlin and drive around. Don't make sence won't ever make sence. Can't tell you why.  | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:52:12 AM | | How can anyone say someone is really good. Someone might have been really wild and grown up that is all. | |
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| Why Do Men Overlook Good Women?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:17:52 AM | | Alot of "good" men and women don't do anything to make themselves attractive...no one has to be fat and out of shape or dress in a sloppy manner..heatlthy eating,excercise and a decent wardrobe can do anyone alot of good. | |
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