| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:15:34 PM | To: DJ Chickie401
Your friends are losers. They will never get into my pants. Your friends need to show some courage and inittiative, or they will never get a date or get laid. All of your comments speak so cowardly of women. Most men should avoid your friends. This helps explain why, I see so many whipped guys out there. If there were more guys out there like me, your friends wouldn't have anyone to ****-whip. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:22:06 PM | I don't always give out my number and prefer talking on the phone or txt as opposed to on line. What to do, what to do?!
If someone gives me their number, I'm more likely to call if they give me a specific time that they are available for a conversation. If someone just says, "here's my number, call whenever 24/7." I'm likely going to be hesitant to call. Why? I don't know. It just is the way it is.
After I have called a few times and ascertain that I actually enjoy talking to them, then I'll quit blocking or hiding my number or flat out give them mine.
Cell's are fairly disposable so I really can't see the big safety issue there or why someone would be afraid of giving a cell number out. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:03:30 PM | ketch,
Didn't your dad explain this to you when you were 12?
They are WOMEN.
The magical Barbie-fairy comes and visits them when they are about, I don't know, 7 years old or so, and explains the rules to them. The rules don't have any reasons as you would conventionally understand them. Reasons are for boys. Girls don't need them. Barbie said so. Here goes:
1. Girls don't phone boys until boys phone them first. So boys have to ask for your number first. Boys who do not do this, are creepy.
2. Boys have to pay for dinner. If a boy does not offer to do this, he is creepy. If you want to test a boy to see if he might be creepy, try to pay for dinner. If he accepts, he is creepy.
3. Boys have to decide things, take charge and do stuff. But they have to decide things, take charge, and do stuff in ways that you like. If they don't, they are creepy. If they don't know what you want, and you have to tell them, they are creepy.
4. Shoes are good, for girls and boys. Boys with bad shoes, old shoes, scuffed shoes, are creepy.
5. Until you are 12, horses are magical. From 12 to 15, teenage musicians are magical. After 15, professional atheletes are magical.
6. Lots of money can make a guy less creepy. This is called being "ambitious" and "charismatic".
7. Short guys are creepy. But see #6.
9. If boys mention the conversation with the Barbie-fairy, you deny it. The Barbie-fairy is a fairy, you see. They are magical: if you admit they exist, they disappear. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:22:49 PM | I've also noticed this. I use skpe as well. And my cell is an out of town number so my son can always call from Dallas. I just set up a smart phone to work with that number and use the wireless network at home.(works really well) However, I do have a land line,and do give it out.(but yes,I have noticed this)  | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:31:30 PM |
Your friends are losers.
Because they won't call a guy? Wow...standards have gone up. I always thought it took much much more to be categorized as a loser...it's dating, not the nobel prize.
They will never get into my pants.
Somehow I don't think that'll upset them too much.
Your friends need to show some courage and inittiative, or they will never get a date or get laid.
Sure they will, just not by decent men. However, I don't date them, so I don't care who they date or what they do. I was explaining how they are...what it brings them is their problem. Not mine (or yours).
All of your comments speak so cowardly of women.
I posted three lines in the thread earlier. All WHAT comments?
Most men should avoid your friends.
Maybe they should. I suspect some do. Who cares?
This helps explain why, I see so many whipped guys out there. If there were more guys out there like me, your friends wouldn't have anyone to ****-whip. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 8:43:32 AM | | Why ask for someone's number if you're not going to call? That's stupid! You have nothing to lose. Just be honest! If you're not interested just say it. It's best to be honest then to keep others wondering if you're interested or not. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:30:26 AM | Some of my fellow men still apparently don’t get it.
Dating in this society is a pursuit=>catch game, and guess who does most of the pursuing? Most women have the added benefit of being able to sit back and pick and choose who’s “acceptable”, or, to put it another way, choose who NOT to settle for.
The biggest deal breaker with all this is of course distance, but the local replies I get are rarely serious or initiative-driven (this was before I changed what I’m looking for in my profile; pretty much given up). Most were/are of the flippant, non-committal, innocuously vague variety, almost as if just showing a “little” interest should be enough to send fireworks. Evidently it’s up to us guys to get the hint and follow up with everything and the kitchen sink. Even then, as some have already shared, the woman has the final say about whether they really want to go through with the nuts and bolts of getting to know you or not. I’m sure it goes both ways so please don’t gang up on me ladies, but in my experience this mindset is mostly a female phenomenon, or geared to a woman’s way of thinking about dating. I certainly don’t see many men on here with 300+ favs, getting so snowed under with attention they can’t keep up and forced to put up disclaimers of serious replies only? Conversely, I see pages and pages of women that have almost nothing on their profile and still have favs coming out of their ears, simply by posting a sexy pic or two.
Unless you’re blessed with good looks and loads of radiant charm most men will never “automatically” get a proverbial foot in the door. It’s something we have to really work for (and that means what it says; meaning time, patience, effort, and money). The only other alternative for across-the-board desirability is to have success, power, or money. Seems a guy could look like death warmed over and still have women falling over them and trophy wife material galore if they're rich and successful enough, but most men live in a much less rarefied reality.
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:30:58 AM | I like what Eazk said..
But what has worked with me is that the man says something about chatting on the phone.. and then leaves it up to me to say yes or no.. sometimes I will say "listen I would like to chat online a while longer.. or sometimes I say "yes" right then and there.
Some will give me their number first (after I say yes) and say " call me if you want to.. when you want to.. it is totally up to you".. sometimes they say "what is your cell, let me call you right now"..
So it depends on the man.. how long we have talked.. and my comfort level. I do not ever meet a man that I haven't chatted with on the phone though.
Now I am not one to have a prefered way of broaching this subject.. but it is up to the man to offer or suggest we step up the contact.. and if it is an authentic approach just about anything will do for me. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:33:23 AM | If she doesnt call, she is not interested. And for some people, they push their number onto others and they probably dont want to hurt your feelings.
If you are just meeting someone or chatting for the first few times, throwing out your number might not be appropriate for some. Some people give up their number right off. Again, slow it down. | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:10:21 AM | Thanks for the Barbie fairy update, that explains it. :-)
Yes, I stopped giving out my phone number, but I immediately call once so she has mine AFTER I get hers. That way I made the first call and she can freely initiate the second call. Or I will. Who cares, but someone has to do it. Number of calls when I used to give her my number? Zero.
On a related note, if you like rejections, give her your business card on a date. Unless your job title has "CEO", "president" or "millionaire" in it, she may feel that it is too impersonal. Then again, see Barbie rule #6... | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 6/14/2008 11:06:34 AM | Sly, kudos for using splendidly imagination.  Ladies, he's shown intelligence, creativity, and playful humor. If those traits are "really" what most cuties on here treasure, then he's nothing less than your Dream Man. I expect him to report at least 50 replies at the end of today. 
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:35:48 AM | and sometimes they do call but just once, quickly judging the person based on one short conversation (phone or e-mail are so impersonal!).
Maybe you missed her call? | |
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| After they get the phone number they don't call
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:40:16 AM | | I have men give me their phone numbers right from the get go. Anyone that is just tossing their number around when I don't even know them and haven't had much contact with...I don't call. | |
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