ttboy
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Joined: 7/5/2004
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:12:31 PM | | I'm with gym beam ^^. I don't think it matters - although some form of attractiveness is important. I'd (humbly) like to consider myself (like) one of the guys Vespa is referring to and I'm madly infatuated with a short mother-of-three (who won't have me) who swears she's fat and getting fatter every day. Sure she could stand to lose a few pounds (or gain a few). But if she was really hung up on her looks I don't think she'd be the utterly fantastic, selfless, compassionate, level-headed person she is. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 7/8/2005 6:59:37 PM | Just another opinion.
When you go to find a car....there are many different types. Some people like sleek sports cars. Others like big luxury models. And one is not neccesarily more valuable than the other.
In the same way some people like big...and others like trim. Why should we lie and mislead others in to believing we are something we are not. If you are fat...you are fat. If you are Bald you are Bald!!
I just used that BMI Calculator and was informed that I was over weight. I teach Tae kwon do. And I am very active....But the truth is I am Fat.... I am not a size 5. Never have been, never will.
The bottom line here is most of you try to make yourselves out to be more than you are. I am who I am with all my flaws and my jiggly baby belly. What is really important is that we find people that have common interests not necessarily common looks.
And don't be a hater! Us fatties can be as hard on thin people as they are on us. They have a right to be attracted to whom ever they are attracted to.
And you thin men out there...be kind. Remmember what some men might call junk food...another might call "Finger Lickin' good"
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/15/2005 3:25:13 PM | Guitar,
There are some tall and MUSCLE bound women who are weighty yet slim.
You gain muscle, you gain mass. You could be 5'10" anmd 210 and be ripping with muscle.
Ever see Nicole Bass, or Lorie Bowen, Kim Chizefsky (the muscle bound babe in THE CELL)?
God!! I lust over muscular AMAZONS!!
Anyhoo. Some muscle bound men are really boring people.
They are narcisistic and love themselves.
Observe them: They constantly look at themselves in the mirror.
There a some gents out there who are not narcsistic and lift weights solely to be fit, trim and simlply content. And some do it to get an edge on on the other competitors.
Then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
A GI who was visiting Norway was trying to do what some service men do called hog flinging,
get drunk and get laid with a big girl. Except he got his butt kicked by a jealous muscle bound Scandinavian Dolph Lundgren look alike who did not want any one touching his girl (yes, the big girl was dating the beefcake). | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/30/2005 11:35:38 AM | This appears to be quite the discussion. I'm not what you would call a skinny girl, I was quite large at one time and have lost some weight. I would have to say that there have been times that I've been standoffish to some hot buff men. I carry myself well for a girl my size, men are attracted to me. I guess you could say I'm guilty of that stereotype, awww well he wouldn't be interested in me. I take that chance though and if they aren't into me then they aren't and I'm ok with it. That's just the way it happens and I carry on. I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder, an old expression but a very good one. I've been skinny at one point and I could do it again I'm sure. It just takes a bit longer when you get older lol. well that's my view on this topic. For the record I did add ttboy to my favorites and was about to send a message but was leary. well there ya go have a great day and happy fishing. 
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/30/2005 7:35:42 PM | | If working out and physical activity is a major part of a guys routine, most want a woman compatible with them, and that involves working out. I've talked about this very subject with a group of runner friends a while ago. All of them were mad into running, and most wouldn't be interested in dating someone who wasn't into the same activities. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/31/2005 9:14:14 AM | And people wonder why so many women have eating disorders.
Gheesh!
I have never, NEVER, been able to be smaller than a size 10. Even when I was younger and extremely active. I wasn't over weight, just the way my body is built.
I base my weight and health on what my DOCTOR tells me...not some website or schmuck in a forum.
BTW - Doc said to lose 10-15 lbs....I'm already down 6....a few more to go....and YES, I put 'a few extra pounds' in my profile. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/31/2005 12:05:53 PM | dog mommy your hawt .... but why would you date only people that have the same passion that you have. When you date someone each of you should have your own interestests that you can do away from your partner and interests that that you do together.
I myself do not expect a woman to work out all the time but then I do expect them to take care of themselves and take pride in what they look like and remember it is not how much you weigh it is how you wear it.
I think more important is how they make you feel as there are a lot of women lately that I did not find attractive originally very attractive after getting to know them.
If you find someone you think you will get along with online just send them an email remember no guts no glory ....... | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 12/31/2005 9:59:45 PM | | Well Guitar Guy........all I have to say is you are missing out on a lot good women. I am a larger woman and I dress and act classy. Not to mention extremely intelligent, caring and fun individual. Really us larger ladies don't want someone so narrow minded anyway. I do however think if someone puts in their profile that they are looking for someone who will join them in their athletic pursuits then maybe someone not capable of such pursuit should not answer. But then again opposites attract.......and really what do you have to lose, meet someone new, have a good time. Life's too short, learn to expand your horizons. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 6:36:24 AM | mobiledj - I agree with you....everyone should have their own passions and interests, but at the same time, if all of your interests aren't the interests of your partner, what would you have in common? It's like spending your days doing what it is that you enjoy doing, and then getting together before going to bed. I am a physically active person. I am not attracted to couch potatoes. My last serious relationship was with someone who had many different interests than mine, but just because I wasn't exposed to them before. I found his passions interesting, and therefore I found him interesting. It's all about what you are willing to try. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 12:23:17 PM | It's sad that women no longer enjoy the company of a man because he goes to the gym and takes care of himself. Almost reverse discrimination or maybe because they have been hurt by those types. Just remember there are just as many decent guys that work out as those that sit in front of the tv eating tortios and just as many jerks as well.
As for the men who put us down for us wanting to be the best we can be ... I put it off as being jealouse that they do not have the disapline to do it. It is a lot of hardwork and when I see people in good shape ... both men and women I admire the work they have put into themselves. I am sure dog mommy does the same when she sees runners that excel at the sport 
Sure hope I have not offended anyone just what I think
Happy New Years everyone and may you all stick to your New Years Resolution | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 2:40:08 PM | | I have a respect for the discipline it takes to have a fab bod..cudos to all who do- maybe look at it when contacting someone who's in that mind/body set that, I'm contacting someone who lives a disciplined life with certain blocks of time that won't be available for me, lifestyle quirks that will be foriegn, but if that's appealing to you and something you can compromise on, go for it, what do you have to lose? If your self esteem is hinged on being accepted by others, perhaps you should work on that before extending yourself to anyone else. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 5:19:11 PM | Staying in shape is not all that time consuming .... 1 - 1.5 hrs a day 3 - 4 days a week is all you need to do if you actually workout and not chat on the phone while you are there. I go right after work and home by the time most of my friends are going out to do things so you really dont miss anything except RR time if that is what you want but excercise is a great way to destress after work.
As for being accepted by others, I think we all like to fit in and be accepted in some way.
Who the fox you look awsome and admire the work you have put into yourself. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 5:35:35 PM | Noone is perfect,all people are different. There are more normal looking people than perfect people so why worry about it. You need to not let it get to you. If someone don't like what they see they can move on. So what, there is always another person to replace them that will think you look wonderful.
Just try and be healthy. I am not perfect, and if I was single and someone didn't like the way I look. I would just laugh and say o.k. I wasn't tring to attract the whole world. Just one good one. That out look will pull you threw anything anyone says about you not being what they think is perfect.
Wa for them, and a smile for you. Because your above it. | |
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