| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 6:40:26 PM | Really well said! :) I have to say, I work out a lot....fighting 20 lbs, LOL....I'm there for me...not the guy working out next to me...and you know what? He's not there for me either...that's what is so great about the gym I belong. I haven't found that my weight has been an issue for most I've dated...it's an attitude and a confidence that is often sexy. Just a thought. :)
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/1/2006 11:25:53 PM | Guitarmatt: you seem to be a little obsessed with the whole issue of a number.
I started going to the gym regularly 3 months ago. I am fitter and leaner than I have been in years (don't get me wrong, I have a ways to go), yet I have not lost much weight. Why is that? It's because I have built muscle, which weighs more than fat.
For the OP: I will say the same thing I would say if you were asking about approaching ANY man...don't think that they are better than you. If a man turns you down, hopefully he is nice about it and doesn't try to hurt you. Just because a man may have muscles doesn't automatically make him egotistical. Some may be, others will be great. I dated a guy who was a gym rat and he was VERY stuck on himself. The thing was, he saw me as a great person, beautiful and all that, but he was very critical of himself. So, it wasn't ME thinking that he was too good for me, it was HIM thinking he wasn't good enough for me. You can't judge a book by it's cover. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:37:07 PM | Well, earnest132, to put it as lightly as possible, I disagree with you 100% and I won't comment further on your comment, because you either wrote that just to get a rise out of people, or worse, you actually believe it.
To mobiledj, I like your style, you have made some good points.
Getting back to the point of the thread, no pun intended, I weigh it this way: If a guy has drawn my attention and happens to be kind of a buff guy, which I find attractive, I would email him unless he particularly mentions his love for fitness and working out and mentions wanting a woman who also enjoys that, because that isn't me right now. It's not about intimidation, it's about finding some matching interests.
Also, let's stop making assumptions about guys who body build, it's just as bad as assuming that heavy women are lazy and don't care about themselves.....
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:43:00 PM | | Mobiledj, I just viewed your profile, wow, you sound great, I wish I knew some girls in your area, I would totally recommend you to them. But please, although your pictures are fABulous, and I mean that 100%, please don't change the one you have from being your main pic, I just think you are classier than that....leaving them in your gallery is different than leading with it, you don't need to, you have enough personality, those are just a bonus...I have no plans to post pics with no shirt on....lol. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:16:15 PM | | Yeah you are lucky, mine is sloooow. But you are right about large and healthy, I was going to a class called Body Pump at the Good Life about 3-4 times a week, and I was 4 sizes overweight. It is weightlifting/aerobics done to music, where you lift low weight, but over 100 reps per song, for various muscle groups per song. Anyway, the instructors were always a bit surprised that I did everything and with a fair bit of weight on my barbells... can't judge a book, etc...but I got a kick out of the reactions, they always smiled at the end of the class... can't wait to go back. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/2/2006 11:26:25 PM | Well I say why the heck not!!! Here's a little story why.........
When I first signed up on here I put my body style as "a few extra pounds" because there wasnt' anything between that and BBW. D**N they have to change this!
Either way I feel I am lying because I am not a few extra nor am I a huge woman. Got a tummy and some junk in the trunk for sure, but believe me I get noticed :)
But I thought after reading the forums that I would go against what I thought and put BBW as it seemed like most men and quite a few women's view of "a few extra" was not anywhere near mine. So I changed my body type to BBW.
What an amazing experience!! I have had WAY more action on here than ever before!!! More dates, way more emails and IM's than I had when I was " a few extra"
Why am I telling you this????
Because the majority of the men who have contacted me since I did this have been attractive fit, athletic, smart and classy men. I think I have only met one man who was stocky/husky etc.
There was one man that I had had my eye on for a while, but was not sure about contacting him, because I thought they would not want to date someone who was not the same body style. The man is extremely athletic, attractive, tall dark, very yummy.
He sent me an email a few days after I changed my profile. I was not his type until I changed my profile.
It has made me realize that NOT all the men on here are as shallow as I thought, and that I will continue to contact athletic/fit men. Send them emails...go ahead, they are not all shallow!!! They seem to like my curves!! and I am having a blast!!
whoo-hoooo
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:40:56 AM | | I am also nervous about contacting anybody that is listed as athletic/fit. I consider myself "a few xtra pounds". And by looking at weight charts - I am considered "overweight". In my past relationships (not internet - just meeting people) my partner has ALWAYS been very fit. I was married to Mr. Beach Volleyball - and engaged to Mr. Power Lifter ..... so I guess I can't be that bad - I take care of myself, eat healthy, exercise - this is just my body - family genetics, baby - I just can't get over the thought of somebody rejecting me because they don't like the way my body looks. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/4/2006 7:25:30 AM | burnleybabe, good girl. i totally agree with you. i also have a bigger built, bigger than you, i'm actually 16-18 and weigh 190. i've always had big thighs and a fairly big rump however docs, friends, and family say i don't look my weight. i put on my weight because of being diabetic and i'm on depression medicine. anyone who wants to judge someone on their weight needs to walk a mile in their shoes first.
i as well do not usually contact a muscular, athletic type guy because there is so much stereotyping and hollywood mentalities out there and by no means am i a teeniebopper. i am who i am and proud of it. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:35:09 PM | Lets me just say I have read a lot of bullshit and excuses in this thread for poor lifestyle habits and choices - simple as that - but again its your body its your life do what you want - Im a smoker for example so I wont point the finger at anyone -
I have also read many good pieces of advice that work - I know they do as i have done them all for example sweetiies post on nutrition and eating --- it works trust me 18 months ago I was a land whale - people think i have been going to the gym for 4-5 years nope only 18 months --- the difference is I have the mental disciplin and what i want to achieve I want more than the next pizza or 6 pack of beer as i have read here somewhere
Now on the topic of being intimidated by muscular athletic guys --- just go and ask you might be suprised huh ? but hey if you get rejected dont be bitter about it and insulting - your not his type
many muscular and athletic guys like bigger women - some like me prefer the fitness model type - its all about individual choice and preference - but hey repect those peoples choices do not put them down or ridicule them or insult them because YOU dont live up to thier preference.
I best not say anymore otherwise I am sure I will just be brow beaten to death by larger women and envious men.
Oh and dont believe the BMI and all that crap - as who the fox said in a different thread its all about body fat percentages and what size pants a guys wears
THE BMI index has me at 29 that makes me borderline obese - I am 6 ' 2" 220 pounds @ 9% bodyfat and a 32 inch waist size levis yet medically for the military etc I am deemed obese - go figure
remember though that fat does not weigh more than muscle or vice versa 1kg of fat is the same weight as 1kg of muscle --- its just the fat has more "volume " and it will be 3-5 times the physical size of the equivalent weight in lean muscle tissue which is very very dense. but still 1kg is 1kg but 10kg of pure muscle may be the size of a soccer ball - where as 10kg of fat will be the size of a beach ball for example
So thats why its all about body fat % people - get that low rather than concentrating on pure kilograms and you will be trim taught and terrific
that will be $50 each for the personal trainer consultation thanks - come again
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:48:46 PM | I agree about poor health lifestyle choices, if a person chooses to do this, don't whine and b*tch about other people not being attracted to you. You are in the right to do whatever the hell you want to do, but don't expect others to come running, they are allowed their rights too. It's a 2 way street.
If you are comfortable with yourself, wonderful, a good self esteem is great.
Everyone is different and has different tastes. Men don't expect women to meet their standards, if she is what he wants then he will look for someone else. The same for women, there is no one forcing you to pick short, bald, fat guys. Enough of the double standards, already.
Tallady: Not sure if it's mass, as muscle weighs more than fat. If she was heavier than me, I probably wouldn't be interested. And if she was 6'4 and 250lbs I wouldn't be interested either.
Kind of like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny Devito side by side.
Just comes down to choice.
Some people have a more active lifestyle and like the same in their mate.
Some like to couch surf, if you like that, then fine. Just don't crucify others for making their own choices. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:36:52 AM | | I dont get intimidated by anyone lol so what if they are muscular or athletic? does it make them any different than the rest? thats their personal choice of taking care of themselves.Most people percieve them as****,self absorbed and ignorant but its usually the other way around.They know they are stereotyped and usually keep quiet as they know what you are thinking about them. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 2/8/2006 6:28:27 PM | | well i must say that i am just learning that men are so different than i thought they were.. I was under the understanding that men wanted woman with a barbie type body but it aint the case and i am one to say that noo men can love a curvy woman and all she has to offer many woman with extra pund are just a sexy as the ones wit the trimed waist line. So noo i aint holdin back to our great social seryotype bout men and woman hell no i will message any man no boundries | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 2/8/2006 7:04:19 PM | I'm not intimidated by muscular guys...however I'm not easily intimidated. lol When I was young I loved muscleheads. Not that I don't appreciate a nice body now, but I'm much more turned on by brains and intelligence. If he's hot and brilliant..all the better. LOL My tastes have really changed. When I see a guy who's really buff, I just think of the hours and hours he's spending in the gym. I go to the gym, but I do my hour/hour and a half and I'm done..I don't want to make it last as long as my work day.
Thinner dorky guys can be just as hot...dont be intimidated by any of them.  | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 2/10/2006 2:00:03 AM | | thickncurvy82 you go girl. I was intimidated when I first signed on, but that was the type of man I was looking for. Just so happens met a great one on-line who was looking for an intimate encounter. Once we started chatting, he went back and changed it to email only. Guess he found in me what he was looking for. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 2/10/2006 2:05:22 PM | Hi Vespa Chick! and I wouldn't be intimidated to contact
anyone you had an interest in.Besides,as we all know,not
everyone's pic is real,so they may not be the muscular,
athletic guy you may think! So,by all means,fish away,
have fun,& good luck! 
In defense of the guys that are athletic & muscular in here
for real,you men look great.It's nice to see a man who likes
himself enough to want to look the best they can. | |
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and frankly I really can't think of an answer to that question which is why I never have contacted any..