| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:02:21 PM | There are plenty of guys on POF more ripped than me, but I think I fall into the muscular/athletic category, if only barely.
I am attracted to thin/athletic/average women.
And average in my book certainly doesn't include 200 lbs. Unless you are 7 feet tall.
I don't care about looks too much, don't care about scars, handicaps are ok, childeren are alright, even pregnancy is negotiable.
But not obesity.
If that makes me shallow, sorry. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 4/8/2006 12:01:42 PM | I do not feel there is a reason for anyone to be intimidated to contact anyone. But then not much intimidates me I guess. Apparently my profile is intimidating enough though...and I am not even at contest level...lol. The whole BMI scale is off...and a regular scale can lie. I weigh the same I did last year atm but have a way different body composition and body fat level.
I work out for me...to be healthy. Looking and feeling better about how I look is a side effect. Being a personal trainer now I meet all sorts of people and I have heard things along this vein from a wide range of people both male and female.
The only way your going to know if they are interested in you is to say "Hi". If they are rude then it isn't like you need to answer them.
I like to think that I fit into the muscular/athletic type and I find the people who diss bodybuilders to be generally clueless. I find it really funny when I hear the one about how guys with big muscles are really weak. It shows just how clueless the person really is about what it takes to develope a muscular athletic body.
In the end contact who you want and go from there. Just because the profile says one thing doesn't meant they might not be interested in you. Personally I like the Marilyn Monroe figured women over the Twiggy stick figures. I like curves on a woman...long as they are in the right places ;). A little bit of tummy is great...the disappearing lap now isn't.
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:47:05 AM |
and sometimes females think I only date girls who are in great shape 'muscular' which is not true
Spot on there, I like soft round curves on a woman with plenty to grab (pear or hourglass shape). I would also like to date a woman that keeps healthy, but being athletic or slim is not a requirement for my tastes. Women are meant to carry more fat than men. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:41:23 PM | "PS....the "average" guys are just as likely to be d**kheads, seems to be just a guy thing!"
 What are you talking about? A guy thing? Whatever.
I'm an athletic guy, and I like curvy/average women the best. Of course, definitions may be different.
Really, I don't care what a girl weighs. If I like what I see, that's good enough for me. If a girl has a recent, accurate photo put up and it looks fine, I don't see a problem. | |
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sum67
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Joined: 12/28/2006
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 9:32:52 AM | Anytime you step out of your peer group, the odds of success are sure to diminish somewhat.
Intimidation is really a function of your own security level, as it pertains to rejection. Once you really like yourself as a person, there's not much damage done by another's rejection of your polite advances. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 9:41:28 AM | | i'm a thicker girl (5'8" and a size 14 to give some perspective), and i've had guys with every body type show interest in me...thin, toned, muscular, average, chunky. it's not a matter of what body type he is, but rather what body type he finds attractive. i tend to be attracted more to the thin or toned men, so those are the ones i approach most often...and i tend to do quite well in the dating scene regardless of stepping outside my body-type "peer group" ; ) | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 10:06:16 AM | Awesome!.....you've proved that unconventional behavior (contacting men first) is what helps a person beat the odds. It doesn't mean the odds have changed.
Obviously, if a woman contacts you first she is very interested, this is a refreshing change of pace, even for the buff/fit guys! I've always gone on at least one date w/ EVERY woman who has ever asked me out. If they've got the moxie to buck convention like that, they are probably, at the very least, somebody I'd like to be friends with.
You are also on the young side...you may find it changes as you age a bit. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 11:11:45 AM | | I have initiated contact with more "athletic" guys and chatted with a few of them. Even I have to admit that sometimes I find it intimidating - especially if that person happens to have alot of people with him on their favs list. I think the only thing that I find hurtful is if I have asked a question of someone out of genuine curiousity and they dont give a return email. Other than that, I dont care if they contact me - I know what they are missing out on even if THEY dont! LOL | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 12:36:21 PM |
Is it really weight or size that is the issue. I ask this because a lot of muscular women carry mass - but is it the mass, or the actual size that is the issue?
I am both, how do you explain that to someone... I have strong muscles, and can keep up with the young guys on my fire department (20 - 15 years younger then me). Yet I'm not a small girl, I've had 3 children and it shows, I workout and I take care of myself.   | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 1:00:41 PM | I have no problem contacting athletic or muscular men. They are no different, no better and no worse than anybody else. My daughter's dad was a competitive bodybuilder when we met, big deal!...I've approached athletes...most have been just as approachable and friendly as anybody else.
Nice, approachable people come in all shapes and sizes ... and so do the jerks! | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 1:57:38 PM | | Jamieberry I agree with your last statement. I lift weights three hours a day and have for about three years and I do it to stay active rather than to attract a mate or anything else. To be honest I tend not to attracted to women who go to the gym for some reason. I prefer "average" women and the fact that I or anyone who is muscular or fit should not stop you from contacting or talking to them. A lot of the guys I know at the gym who are jacked are some of the nicest and most humble people I know. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/20/2007 5:39:49 PM | | I'm out of condition for the time being but i used to weight train 4 times a week. My taste in women hasn't changed since then though - I still find curvy women most attractive & I've never been into skinny women. Everyone's got different tastes & quite often they don't want a partner with the same body type. Go for it - what've you got to lose? | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/21/2007 12:59:17 AM | | Hi....A lot of this is about personal confidence I feel....How you perceive yourself to others....Im big and reasonably attractive and hopefully have personality and confidence to carry it off...No Im quite comfortable contact those I find attractive or intriguing...Whats the worse they can say lol. Smiling x Lush1964 | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/21/2007 1:24:58 AM | The answer to that would be: "It depends on their preferences". Which from what I have seen has almost nothing to do with what they look like. Some guys preferences don't even match who they go after. I still remember with some humour what I was told by an older man when I was around 17, he said he preferred ugly women because he knew they wouldn't cheat on him. I'm not calling you ugly...I don't know you well enough hehe
Speaking for myself. If you were 39 like me and had the tummy of a fit 19 year old and no signs of a lifetime of celibacy and exercise then I'd think something was wrong with that picture. In short.. a little extra weight means nothing... to me. | |
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| Intimidated by contacting muscular and athletic guys .. ..Is there a need to be ??
Posted: 6/21/2007 1:56:19 AM | I am fearless and am not intimidated by anyone. They seem to be intimidated by me :( but it is what it is. On here "average" is always overweight. Wish you guys would just be honest. It will save you alot of heartache in the long run. This also applies to those posting pictures that are 15 years old... | |
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