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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:08:15 PM | 1. A person who cheats will usually try to reassure their current partner. This usually means the current partner is getting more sex than normal.
Got any stats on this? In my case, I was cut off completely. If I even happened to reach for him while we were asleep, I got slapped.
Since your scenario is possibly true of anyone not in a committed relationship (and who happens to be honest), I don't see what the point is. LOTS better reasons than this not to deal with someone you know is cheating. . . .
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I dont know how to do quotes, but I have first hand knowledge, in my case that #1 is true. We were in a commited relationship, he wanted this. However, even though we were having sex 3-4 times a day he would still go on Craigslist looking for NSA when I was out of town. Not to often , about once a month, but when he did I would get ALOT of atttention when I got back. More than usual.. (And not just sex) I am not going to explain how I found out,thats a different post. One thing he would do is make a HUGE deal about showing me his texts, inbox, cell phone, to the point of it being embaressing.. I didnt ask, he would offer in a casual but almost defensive way. (He had other accounts I wasn't aware of)
He was the type who has an addiction, and out of guilt and not looking bad would do what ever it took to prove to prove to me he wasnt doing anything because he didnt want to lose the relationship. I believe he did love me but had a problem with wanting attention and perhaps a sex addiction
This is in my case, in other cases where the partner rejects their significant other it may be because of a different reason for cheating, perhaps the person they are cheating with there is a more emotional connection, its not just a one night stand who they are never going to see again. In that case I can see rejecting the partner and not trying to overcompensate for what they are doing behind the others back.
Every scenerio is different, to say because this didn't happen for you doesn't mean it doesnt happen.
As far a #2 unless the person sleeps with 2 people within a few hours of each other I dont see that as a possibility | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:10:14 PM | | Sperm can fertilize an egg for up to 72 hours after sex. What, you think it all just gushes back out when you stand up? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:28:46 PM |
Got any stats on this? In my case, I was cut off completely. If I even happened to reach for him while we were asleep, I got slapped.
Different changes in sex happen in different relationships when one partner is cheating, and clearly, both situations described here occur. Your situation happens, of course, just as a cheating partner has sex with both their SO and the person they cheat with. Every relationship, and every cheater, is different, and whether the signs are a difference in the frequency of sex, being unavailable, change of behaviour, they all clearly happen.
OMG This topic is hilarious. What about threesomes? If you were one of the males in a male male female threesome, how would you feel about kissing the girl after the other guy has been in her mouth (this being done knowingly)?
I must say, I find your logic hilarious, well, in a way. So someone who thinks they are in a commited relationship, who likely is not into threesomes, regardless of whether it is MMF or otherwise, should be subject to a generalisation that boils down to, "well, some do it, so why should it bother you?" Not everybody appreciates sharing multiple body fluids, and a situation like this does not even come close to applying to a threesome. A threesome is willingly engaged in and all bodily fluids exchanged with the full knowedge and approval of all other parties. So how is that actually being applied to cheating again?
There's a reason someone invented Soap I think!
Well, that's a little unclear...hopefully. Sure, soap may wash some things off, but would you take that as a valid excuse for cheating from your partner? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:35:12 PM | Well If you DONT know they are cheating and yet they smell good....................then I guess Soap fits in there somewhere!
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:44:21 PM |
Well If you DONT know they are cheating and yet they smell good....................then I guess Soap fits in there somewhere!
So lablite, what you are saying is, if I was dating and committed to you, which will NEVER happen between us because of your position on this subject, you would find it ok that I went and slept with other partners, as long as I used soap? Since your so open to the idea, I'd just do her right in our bed. How's that?
And since you are so open to the idea as long as soap is used, could you please use that soap both internally and externally anywhere that might have been penetrated with a body part or fluid... I hope you like the taste, because that's what your suggesting!!
One more thing LabLite, does soap get rid of STD's like: HIV, Herpes, Syphillis, Ghonorea, Chlamydia? | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:51:13 PM | I cannot stay in a relationship with a cheater. The whole betrayal scenario would "eat me up inside", I would no longer trust this person and it would be too exhausting for me to even attempt.
Cheating for me is a deal breaker and there is NO turning back.
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Posted: 5/21/2008 4:55:40 PM | Cheating is disgusting, no matter what bodily fluids are shared, exchanged, etc..
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Posted: 5/21/2008 5:04:57 PM | | Yes, the way it has been put it is gross. But if you want to over-analyze everything then you do sleep with EVERY person that 'came' before you. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 5:36:09 PM | I have thought about this before in the past.. And it is rather disgusting to imagine..Especially if the cheating party is kind of sleezey and lays down with other people who are a bit, unclean, nasty, skanky...
Cheating is just nasty period.. It's dishonest, filthy, kills trust, hurts feelings and is just immoral..
Never did it, never will.. I respected the people I was in relationships with in the past. Even if the relationship wasn't a good one and didn't work out.. I didn't have any other partners until that relationship was over.
This thread is a bit graphic.. but it does show what skanks and scuz balls cheaters really are.. On every level..
Kudos to the OP for that eye opening and honest look into the subject. I hope the cheaters who read it feel a twinge of disgust at themselves when they read it.. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 5:46:33 PM | | well this was a funny read but what about the guy who has sex with three different women in just as many days what do u think about that... with out going in the graphic part I told him he was really sick. he thinks getting his little****e wet by three differnt women is a turn on | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 5:49:40 PM | | It's the same exact thing to me kssadeyes... I only used the scenario I did because this thread evolved out of a post I made on a cheating thread by a guy looking for justification to cheating with an attached female/mother... | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 9:11:35 PM | This thread is getting out of hand. Seriously, what you don't know won't kill you. If you had any idea how many hairs or skin cells you eat in food every year you'd be sick to your stomach. If you knew how much cow sh!t was in a pound of ground beef it'd make you reconstruct your lunch on your lap. If you knew how much semen your girlfriend had swallowed in her lifetime it'd probably make you faint. They say everytime a woman swallows she absorbs a piece of a man's lifeforce (Taoism)... if this is true I think my girlfriend is more Jeff than I am, and that creeps me out because I don't swing that way. I don't care how many guys a woman has slept with... as long as she's clean and not a tramp about it then it doesn't matter if it's one or one hundred. And honestly, how many guys would snowball their own cum?! The number is pretty slim. Take a woman squirting in the mouth full force? I bet that number cuts in half by about a third. If you've never seen or experienced this it's MUCH more volume than what us men pump out in a shot, and much runnier. I've had a threesome with another man but have never snowballed his load... but would it matter to me? If I was certain he was clean, as in he was someone I knew and trusted, then I probably would. I'd be just as turned off by the idea if it was my own but I'm impartial to the idea.
Personally, if a woman in a bar was hitting on me and she told me she just slept with a guy in the parking lot, and do I want a go at her I'd most definitely decline, even if I was intersted in her prior. So the chance that I'd have prior knowledge of a woman sleeping with another man recently is very slim if I was intending to bed her. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:25:58 PM | ^^^^^^So Deuce, if you're so impartial to the idea of snowballing some other dude's load, why were you beefing on the OP in your first post yesterday?
They've likely gargled, brushed their teeth, or at least chewed some gum or mints!
Methinks Deuce found someone who hadn't done any of the above and got sour because he didn't drink a freshened load. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 10:50:39 PM | | Dude, you've got issues, and they go way beyond being cheated on. None of that even makes sense unless the girl has not a clue about personal hygeine. Consider this, if the woman is not virgin then you're doing all that with every past partner she has had. Now if she were bisexual and her lover was also female, would you be this freaked or is this just some homophobic crap? | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 11:08:18 PM | ^^^Actually, "dude", you might need to read a little closer. The point is that it has been there, it is describing the raw truth of the scenario where one partner is cheating on the other.
Would you want your wife or partner coming home from sleeping with someone else, having a shower and then sleeping with you? Would washing it off be a valid excuse to you?
So, unless having a shower constitutes protection from STDs to you, for one... | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 11:12:36 PM |
None of that even makes sense unless the girl has not a clue about personal hygeine
You would be suprised..and do you REALLY want to take a chance... | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 11:56:03 PM | I wasn't "beefing" on the OP there Daisy. He threw up a meatball I couldn't resist. I had to pull out my bat and take a swing.
Does load really taste any better when it's mint-infused?! How about citrus?! Hell, load is load. It tastes a tad foul, but it's a fact of life. Embrace it or fear it if you will. I find it funny how people will go down on a person but refuse to kiss them after they've gone down on them. I say kiss me where it smells funny, but maybe it should be kiss me when it smells funny, as in their breath.
On the topic of sleeping with multiple partners by proxy I think it's a scary thought. Condoms only protect you to a degree from so much, and then what? I don't believe in forgiveness to begin with but if I contracted something irrevocable from an SO who had an affair and wasn't honest with me I'd be forever enraged. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:18:51 AM | A long time ago i read an Ann Lander column about a woman who gave birth
to twins, one black one white. The letter writer swore she had never slept with anyone else but her husband and neither she nor her husband had any chance of having a black ancestor ( hey, this was the 60's the word “woodpile” was used) Ann, in her infinite wisdom, consulted her favorite hack MD and explained how this could have happened.
Her husband had slept with a hooker who had slept with a black male before the husband. The
husband then went home with a few of this mans sperm hitchhiking on his penis and slept with his wife. The hitchhikers jumped off and impregnated the wife. ( it is more fun if you imagine this story
as one of those animated Sex Ed. films they made us watch)
Can you say “Urban Legend” ? Ann sure could spread ‘em. BUT i was of an age that this kind of thing
fascinated me and my friends, so one of them asked his father, who was an MD. The Doc confirmed
Ann’s answer.
It has been a long time since i have laughed at how we can use our imaginations to ruin sex.
Thanks OP !
If all of this bothers you , try remembering what both male and female genitalia are also used for.
Bone Appetite !  | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 7:29:03 AM | "^^^Actually, "dude", you might need to read a little closer. The point is that it has been there, it is describing the raw truth of the scenario where one partner is cheating on the other."
I re-read the OP and I just dont see that he is talking at that level. It appears to me like he's just freaked out about about the possible secret sno-ball.
"Would you want your wife or partner coming home from sleeping with someone else, having a shower and then sleeping with you? Would washing it off be a valid excuse to you?"
I would not want my partner to be cheating on me. Period.The bigger issue to me is the breaking of trust and the loss of emotional intimacy, not wether or not I'm bi by proxy.
"So, unless having a shower constitutes protection from STDs to you, for one..."
yeah, sure, whatever" Dudette"
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Posted: 5/23/2008 8:09:56 AM | ^^^^^So, "dude"...do you know how to read between the lines?
The situation in the OP is not about being bi by proxy, nor being "freaked out about the possible secret sno(sic)-ball". So, if you were to unknowingly snowball some other guy's load, that wouldn't be breaking of trust and emotional intimacy?
"Dude"..."yeah, sure, whatever" over STDs? Sexual health information is available out there, you know, if you need to educate yourself... | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 9:24:51 AM | Well I don't have sex w/cheaters, for one.
And I have never had sex w/a virgin...and I was only a virgin once, myself. So I don't really see what is the difference... The d*ck that comes in me has been in another girl before... Sure it's been washed zillions of times, but what's the difference between one wash and a zillion washes if the thought grosses you out?
I guess the physical ick of it really doesn't bother me, assuming it's had, say, at least 3 washes. LOL BUT the emotional ICK of him givin' that luvin' to another girl...that lasts a lot longer and bothers me a lot more.
I have in my past been with guys who had been with girls mere days earlier and knowing that htey had bathed in that time, no, it didn't bother me. (I'm thinking specifically of FWB types of guys, and not more than 1 or 2).
Again, though, hands-off w/cheaters... so really no chance of his going from one gal to me that quickly. And I *don't* cheat so not goin' to happy like you are describing either.
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Posted: 5/23/2008 10:14:35 AM | My spelling of "sno-ball" was, you know, like the snack, as in snacking on another dudes spooge. Get it? Your ASSumption that I may be ignorant is probably due to trying to read between the lines instead of reading what is actually written. And my whatever comment was about your attitude and your ASSumption that I did not care about STD's. When the OP makes statements like,"why not just drink the sperm right out of the vagina", sounds like he is targeting the "ICK" factor not the health factor. That is what I was addressing. Please stop ASSuming you know anything about me. Oh now I get it. You're ONLY 23. If I read between the lines I can see you think you know everything! | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 11:49:08 AM | Now now, Beergut, easy on Buttercup. She may be young but you make some pretty hefty aSSumptions your self about her. I've seen this girl mix words... at 23 she can handle herself. Daffodildo is feisty but precise, like a surgeon. She's all up on the snowball effect, aren't you?
The OP is most defintely talking about the "ick" factor. Whether there's a homophobic tendency behind it or not is not the question. I won't be putting any penis by my own near my face but that doesn't make me a homophobe, nor does the lack of desire to blow bubbles with another man's love glub.
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Posted: 5/23/2008 2:00:10 PM |
The OP is most defintely talking about the "ick" factor. Whether there's a homophobic tendency behind it or not is not the question. I won't be putting any penis by my own near my face but that doesn't make me a homophobe, nor does the lack of desire to blow bubbles with another man's love glub.
Sorry... I am making myself sick here...
Yeah, me too.... I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.
KISS, anyone? 
I think this whole scenario is why so many women won't go out with a man unless she feels
secure that she's the only one. I know for me, I don't like "sharing"...... | |
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