| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:57:02 AM | I agree with "gem"........it is the overall social aspect of this site, and meeting others to do things with..........
If one stands out and the attraction is there to create much chemistry, that becomes an added benefit, but overall, the point of dating is to have another or others to do things with, and not have to do them alone.
Meeting and greeting is awesome when it works and the potential is there for more, but if not, then you need a base of friends to enjoy doing things with and creating a network that expands your opportunities for fun and adventure.
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:18:31 AM | When I now look back at when I first decided to join a dating site a few years ago (from my now more experienced viewpoint), I think "what an idiot you were". I seriously thought that there would be lots of men anxious to meet women looking for long term relationships...it didn't take too long to notice that none of them near my own age were interested in me, and that most of those younger than I who were contacting me were just looking for sex. I'll have to admit that a couple of the younger ones were smart enough and interesting enough that I actually met and had a few dates with them, but there was never any thought of a long term relationship there.
Over the past few months I've pretty much come to accept that I've been single for so long that I'm probably better off to stay that way. I no longer search any dating site for potential prospects, but I do enjoy reading the forums . Even so, although I no longer expect it, I still would like to meet someone with similar likes and interests to share life with. I work full time and have plenty of additional chores and activities to fill my life, but at some point I plan to cut back my working hours and would really like to meet a potential travel companion.
What I need to do is spend more time out in the real world where I might actually meet and get to know someone instead of quickly dismissing them, or being dismissed by them, as "not a match" based on a detail or two of a picture of short profile on a dating site. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:53:11 AM | | my hope/wish is to find someone special that i really click with and it grows from there. i hate dating. but i have made some really neat friends along the way. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:54:49 AM |
My goal from a dating site? Has anyone answered 'Get a date' yet?
...Yeah...if you go back and read my last post I think I mentioned my # 1 obstacle was to actually go on a "real" date haha
One of the above posters made the same assumption that I did when first joining POF...that this process (joining a dating site) should be relatively easy with regards to getting out there and dating....I mean how hard could it be right? .....Wake -up call.
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:47:15 PM | | Having unrealistic goals just sets you up for disappointment. How about having a goal of just posting on the forums when there is an interesting topic. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 2:28:59 PM | Well, I signed up on a dating site meet a nice SO. If this were easy or better in the local world, I wouldn't bother online. I think this is just another option, another window open on meeting someone. And all the way, I hope to make new acquaintances and maybe a friend. 
It's not so easy as it's portrayed to be, and I can feel the frustration through the earlier posts. Just be thankful you're not paying for it.  | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:15:18 PM |
What is your real goal for dating?
Regardless of the "source" of the date(s), be it this site, some other site or IRL, my goal is to keep my integrity and what's left of my sanity intact.
Here of late I often find myself wondering WTH is WRONG with me; I actually have it pretty good,despite the limitations imposed by health and modest finances, I DO live my life on my own terms! So why do I want to keep dating and risk screwing that up?
Beats the hell outa me.
Cindy O | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:41:38 PM | | To make new friends ,have fun and maybe even more,who knows what each new encounter might bring. I just enjoy each moment to the fullest,be happy I say. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:06:09 PM | browser...
I love your post!
I would like to say opposite...my initial goal was to meet a wonderful man...and sweep him off his feet...and the rest is the same...as yours... | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:20:28 PM | I have no goals. I don't want to lose so I'm not going to play. Football players risk bad knee joints and have short carreers, hockey players get their teeth knocked out and with my martial arts background I'd rather chop up those sticks with my knuckles or break them over my head. I'm not built for basketball so that's out.
I'm just content to hang out and question absurd assumptions. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:22:31 PM | | To find sex,companionship,heir, and my biggest fan (I'm an actor.).xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:28:24 PM | Are you sure...you are all right?
Even in sports...sitting on the reserve bunch...you can find good friendship...if the game is fair... | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 4:29:27 PM | I agree with rearguard
...the real goal of dating is to find a relationship which obviates the need to ever date again and to then get on with my life | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:33:33 PM | My goal is to move. No sense buying a new place by myself so it's my incentive to take a shower and start dating. Any ol' day now.
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 5:45:11 PM | My original goal when I joined POF was to have one decent date a month.. For me that was dinner out with a man who was polite, who could carry on a conversation, and who was clean and used deoderant.
I can report that I have far exceeded my goal and have met some fabulous men.
I am not necessarily expecting to meet the love of my life on here.. I am open to it though and I am open also to meeting nice men for the purpose of having some plesant conversation and even make a new friend.
I have made a couple of new friends through this site.. one.. was a man I dated in December and he dumped me for someone else.. hahaha.. turned out she is THE ONE!!! I have met her and think she is wonderful.. I am continuing my friendship with the both of them.. so I have gotten two for one now!!! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:05:35 PM | There is a spot in the middle of my back I can't reach.
Naturally, that spot develops an itch, and I need a SO willing to scratch it.
Seriously.
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/23/2008 1:18:13 PM |
There is a spot in the middle of my back I can't reach. Naturally, that spot develops an itch, and I need a SO willing to scratch it. Seriously.
My father always backed into the doorframe and would see-sawed back and forth against it if my Mom was busy cooking etc. (Just trying to be helpful!) | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:18:46 PM | If I ever got a date from PoF, I think I'd fall out of my chair!
Beaugrand, I have that same spot. 
Seriously. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/23/2008 9:49:29 PM | A goal?? What an excellent question. I don't think I had a goal when I started on this site... perhaps a wish/hope that I could find someone I would enjoy , it would be mutual... and I wouldn't be alone on a Friday night.
Strangely enough.. I'm alone on a Friday night because I want to be. Went to see the new Indiana Jones film... Harrison Ford is still very cool...movie was ok. The point is after meeting numerous guys, no one has made me think Wow! I want to be with him forever.
Not that this is bad... maybe I've learned a bit more about myself... alone is much better than being with someone who doesn't rock your world!
Sam Spade ... very clever...got it and feel the same way!
Mae Flowers... don't get this... you've never had a "real date"? Ok, then the men of this world...or at least the ones in your neck of the woods... are total idiots... Hell, I'd date you...LOL.. No, I really wouldn't, but just because I'm into men... You are very attractive. I am so amazed at how many really attractive women are on this site and not getting any "action". I can understand when you're just not getting contacted by people you'd like to date... but not being contacted at all? That's sick!
Ok, I've decided I will have a "goal" for this site (what a big girl thing to do)... to enjoy the forums, learn more about people, myself, and on line dating. Oh, and go out with a couple of guys who look interesting to me. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:38:52 PM | Not sure if it can be termed a 'goal' since I come here mainly for the forums..but, as far as a potential lifetime mate... it would be as follows:
A man I like loving and love liking him. I want him to feel the same towards me. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:47:56 AM | Gee. I was forcibly taught that having 'goals' for dating was either living in a fantasy or being predatory.
I'm allowed to have 'goals' now? That would be good. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:30:04 AM | OK, I will do the honorable thing and give you a straight, direct open and honest answer....,
It's to get the hell out of the dating scene!
I don't want it, don't like it, or look forward to it. But I realize it is part of the process to find a match for a committed relationship.
Personally, I suspect many fish in this pond that say they are looking for DATES, FRIENDS, ACTIVITY PARTNERS , or that mistery category "Other reloationship" are kidding themselves or just don't want to come off as to anxious or needy in finding somebody to love and be loved by. Not all, but my guess is most.
I tends to shy away from any profile that says they are looking for the above. If it does not say long term, they are not for me. OK, as friends, sure. But my guard would be up in getting to interested in them.
Now don't slame me for my opinion OK? But that is how I see it. | |
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