| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 5/31/2008 9:51:46 PM | ...In all honesty...I'd like to actually go on a date first, and hopefully after a period of time, we will have established enough of a connection to take us on to the next level....firm up some commitments.... and its anyone's guess after that.
I have no pre-set goals, just hopes....
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/3/2008 2:55:34 PM | My real goal when I started doing this was a reflection of my honest and idealistic nature. I thought I would meet honest and sincere ladies. By and large, it has not happened.
I have contacted or been contacted by several ladies. I have even actually had a couple of initial meets that never led to any mutual 'chemistry' and it was the end of the line. None of those were a product of grossly exaggerated bios or photos. Only one led to a second 'real' date. Several times I was there to attend a first meeting and the lady was a NO SHOW. Some ladies who actually made the first online contact never replied when I responded. I will never be able to understand why they do these things - and I am sure many frightened or insincere men do the same thing. Where are all the real and honest people? And what is it when people respond that are not even in the same state let alone many miles away?
I am generally doing fine with my life and do not 'need' anyone - certainly not to take care of me. I do go out a lot with friends - both female and male. However, I do wish I had someone permanent to share my everyday life with and ease a generally lonely feeling that something is missing. My long marriage was a pleasant and happy one and I would like to be able to repeat it with a suitable partner. Marriage is the ultimate object but I can understand modern day problems which can almost mandate that a couple be committed but unmarried. Family and financial considerations can be a problem. However, even unmarried couples should be committed to each other and see to it that a surviving 'partner' is properly taken care of. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 6:47:40 AM | | To meet a guy who likes me for me, accepts me for who I am. Why would you try to change the qualities in a person that attracted you to that person in the first place? There is no perfect person, just the person that's perfect for you. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:49:11 AM | | It can vary. I would really like to meet someone, fall in love and be with the rest of my life that is seeming more and more not going to happen (i'm 54). I have more casual friends that I see casually. I am in the process of relocating to somewhere a little less conservative... I will fit in better. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 9:48:31 AM | I've never really thought about dating for any other reason than wanting to share a part of my life with someone I'm wanting to get to know a bit better. I've never had an agenda in the back of my mind like some women do when they date, because I'm completely happy with myself and where I am in life and I've never measured my worth by whether I have a man in my life or not. If I find someone that we can mutually merge into each other's lives without it seeming like "work", then I might consider going on a "second date" with him. My goals when dating are obviously simple. I simply don't have any. What will be, will and I believe with all my heart in fate without having to feel like "my time is running out" or something equally as ridiculous.
I have many friends down here, and a slew of responsibilites and hobbies to keep me busy, so I just don't worry about dating or "where it's going to lead" or "why he said this or that", etc. Cripes!!!! It made me tired just to type that last sentence.
Sans | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:52:56 AM | | WOW, this was a depressing read. Let me state at the outset. I had 7 great dates from on here, a couple we went on multiple dates. All the women were interesting, each in their own way. Two women I spoke with and never got to date, were also GREAT. About that time I met someone IRL and that has been going on and off, mostly on since February. I state this to show, "if you want it, you've got to make it happen" nobody else. I came to find a mate, a person to fill that role. Now you can come here for LTR,dating, friends even sex. But the bitterness in these last 5 pages, wow!! 110 entries and 35 say "f*uck it, I gave up" 25 more were sarcastic jokes. About 15% were sincere, and a couple of you said one thing on here, but read their profile, OMG!!!! I achieved my goal IRL, though I know from the women I met, it would have happened on here too. I know it's hard, and the rejection, or sex driven drivel makes you crazy, but don't lose heart. Then your only being your own worst enemy. My 2 cents, Bob | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 12:19:15 PM | | I was married to a wonderful lady for almost 20 years and when she died I really felt that the world had ended. After that I dated a nice woman for about a year until she moved away to be closer to her family back east. The six months she's been gone feels like purgatory. I've come to the conclusion that being single just doesn't work for me. If the right lady came along I'd consider marriage in a heartbeat. Being alone pretty much sucks out loud. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:54:38 PM | | No goals, just wishes. to have an evening with someone that wants to be there as much as I want to be there. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:42:01 PM | | To meet someone who is compatible with me, have some fun times and hopefully work toward a committed relationship. Gee, what a fantasy? | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:51:30 PM | I am a total failure at the meeting up thingy
never seem to meet the nice men I chat to, not good enough I suppose, I am trying though, and remain hopeful. Tee hee | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:26:52 PM | lots of great answers here! i especially related to the posts of skunk and sans
my goal on a specific date would be to go out and have a good time with someone i enjoy being with. it's such a nice compliment to be asked out and i try to be pleasant company for my date
one of my male pals says i date like a man, and more so than any other woman he knows. i'm pretty sure that was supposed to be a nice compliment as well! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:23:06 PM | Marriage.
Meeting nice men is interesting, but the end goal is finding somebody to share the rest of my life with. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 7/28/2008 6:16:02 PM | | My real goal for dating is to try to find that special someone who is not looking for perfection and realizes perfection is boring. It is the flaws that are interesting. Someone who I enjoy looking at, being with, and talking to. Someone who can ask herself does the good out weigh the bad and if it does not have a problem. In other words for lack of a better term a solemate. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:34:19 PM | Well looking backwards, I guess it was to meet the wonderful lady I met once I let go of the idea that I was trying to meet someone for a long-term relationship. It seemed like that was far beyond my grasp so I concentrated on meeting nice ladies that sounded interesting and having fun together. Then if we both wanted to, we did it again. Seemed like as much of a goal as I needed, and then I met one that made me forget all the others. Priceless!
If y'all ever bought a hammer, ya probably know what it is like to pick up one, swing it a couple of times, and realize it just ain't right. Then ya pick up another and it ain't right neither. After a month of trying a few hundred hammers, your arm is so tired you are thinkin of just giving up on the project. On the way out of the tool department ya pick up that last one that you skipped over cuz the color didn't appeal and, bingo, your arm ain't tired no more! | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:43:49 PM | Great analogy Wayward! So that is what my problem is. I just haven't been able to find that "special" hammer that fits my palm!!!
vvvvWhy my dear Mr. Pants! I have absolutely no idea what you meant by that! lmao | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:45:36 PM |
I just haven't been able to find that "special" hammer that fits my palm!!!
I'm not even gonna go near that one. | |
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| What is your real goal for dating?
Posted: 7/28/2008 8:49:57 PM | To enjoy my life to the best I can, hopefully meet and develop some new, trusting friendships and if something more develops from meeting I'll let nature take its course at that time.  | |
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