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Posted: 5/21/2008 10:25:15 PM | | yeah i know what u mean n hes very secretive bout his phone he says it has work stuff on it that noone else can see but last time i tackled him for it n he finally gave it too me but as soon as i was bout to go into the text msgs he knew n he grabbed it back n hid it some where..................weird u would think hed be more protective of the work stuff on his phone | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 12:48:51 PM | OP: "Don't know what to do." - You are allowing for this man to use and play with your feelings. His feelings change from day to day? What kind of BS is that?!
Yes, he IS "fvcking" with you BIG TIME! If you continue to allow him, you have no one to blame but yourself. The "writing is on the wall", so either you continue to play his game and be his fvck buddy or you eliminate him out of your life completely.
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Posted: 5/22/2008 1:28:37 PM | Babygirl, This guy is obviously hiding something from you. I understand that you love him BUT like the previous poster said, you will not even remember his name before too long. I dont think that you should just show up at his house OR try to trick or decieve him by telling him that you are pregnant (that is a desparate act), that will only belittle you and bring you down to his level. You are young and beautiful and believe me, there are HUNDREDS of men out there, that would love to have the chance to treat you right. Be strong, fight your urges to be close to him, emotionally and physically and look out for YOU. Someone who uses you for their own self gratification can only be harmful to you and will eventually leave you feeling that you cant do any better or doubting your worth. I did like the suggestion to leave scratches on his back (that was funny) BUT seriously think more of yourself than just his doormat. Send him back home to his momma. He has no class.
"NEVER MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY THAT ONLY MAKES YOU AN OPTION". --one of my fav quotes (on my profile page). | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 1:31:15 PM | Sounds like he is getting what he wants !
Come on the good looking guys dont need a long term relationship...... | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 1:34:50 PM | | You're 20, very pretty, but more important, you have so much more to experience, see and grow. You deserve to be treated with respect. Stop disrespecting yourself as well as allowing him to use you like a rag, you're worth more than that. It'll hurt at first when you let go, but believe me, things will be better. And one day you'll meet someone that truly may turn your whole world upside down and open everything to you. So use this time to strengthen yourself and be ready when your true love comes. Take care of you, and you first!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 1:35:08 PM | Why should he buy the cow when he's getting free milk?
You had sex first meeting and you wonder why you got a guy who is using you for sex?
Guess what... what you asked for... was to be used.
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Posted: 5/22/2008 1:43:48 PM | | FredHH--"Why buy the PIG just to get a lil sausage!" to flip it around ! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 3:52:44 PM | Okay, I'm not being rude but please, learn to spell correctly and use proper grammar... Thank you!
Now, I didn't even have to finish the entirety of your forum post due to the fact you are going through what so many girls go through in todays society...
You began your relationship based on sex; not to mention many men on here are simply looking for just that. There are men out there who if you give it up too quickly or too easily equate every meeting with you as a rendezvous opportunity. He apparently doesn't want more from you than sex, meaning when he "told you he loved you," he was telling you that to keep you hanging on so he can use you for his carnal needs.
He IS messing with your head. Although I am the same age as you, and I have felt the same way in the past; I believe I'm a tad bit more mature in this case... You need to NOT equate the fact that a man has sex with you because he loves you, appreciates you, thinks your beautiful, nor wants to make you happy. Men like the man you have been seeing, are NOT men whom have sex with someone as an added bonus of being in love with someone...
You also do NOT know what love is... I'm sorry but you don't. Simply saying those three little words mean nothing... It takes ages to know everything about someone and the love you will have for someone is an ever growing thing. Certainly not something earned simply because a man validates you by having sexual relations with you. Also, any man WORTH loving and being loved by wouldn't play mind games with you, wouldn't use you for sex, and would always be open, honest, and caring for and to you.
You need to drop him like an old and bad habit... You are young, so move on in life... Try simply dating people and NO you do NOT need to have sex with them to date them. Go out there live and have fun... Be young! I got married to a man whom I thought loved me. Yeah he loved to use me, abuse me, and take advantage of me... Because of him I have had to live from place to place, friend to friend, family member to family member for the last two years. I left his ass because I deserve so much better...
Don't do that to your life... Be young, love life, live life and ALWAYS make yourself happy above all others! | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:17:07 PM | You're a beautiful young woman and he is playing you. You could do so much better. When a guy won't let you into his house (i don't believe any mother wouldn't want to meet such a sweetie) he certainly will not let you into his heart..if he has one. He's a liar and a cheat...and the only reason you like him is because some girls of your age like bad boys.
And if he is such a mama's boy you certainly would be better off with someone more independent. Never fall for a man's potential...he could be 80 before he leaves her. Well you know what i mean.
The fact is You should be high on his list of priorities and have a proper relationship...not just when he can fit you in.
Speaking from experience...i knew one guy who was always saying he was working out of the country and i dated him for 2 years believing he was working so hard and lived with his family who were a different religion than mine...and would not accept a christian. Turned out he was living with a girlfriend and when she got pregnant tried to move in with me. I threw him out because i don't like a person to turn up at my door with a suitcase...and later his friend told me the truth. He never did.
So dry your tears hunny and this time you meet a new guy don't drop him for that loser. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:42:33 PM | your a his booty call
I agree with some of the ladies here,give him hickies,tie him up facedown on the bed and let him explain to his wife or girlfriend (or boyfriend) why all those hickies on his butt   | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:48:52 PM | | oh you poor little girl! wake up and smell the coffee, honey! don't waste any more time on this loser. drop him totally, completely, absolutely, and while it hurts right now more than anything, a month from now, you won't even remember his name. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 4:55:53 PM | Hon, you are being played and played hard by a piece of Sh%!...
It's really a shame that you invested your heart and feelings with this scumbag. You will need closure to move on. What you really need are some friends that have your back and will tell you like it is, so that you have a chance to see what's going on without looking through your rose colored glasses.
Oh, and in the future. Don't give it up on the first date. That set a horrible precedent.
Good Luck..
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Posted: 5/22/2008 5:00:50 PM | Child, you are nothing more than the out of town booty call for a man who is most likely already married or in a serious relationship. He is never going to be in a loving and honorable relationship with you. He will TALK about love to keep you on the hook,and that's all it is or ever will be...TALK.
Dump him. Totally. Don't look back. Find a good guy who will appreciate the lovely and loving woman that you are.
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Posted: 5/22/2008 5:39:04 PM | | If you have accepted what he's given you-- and he's happy with what he gets when he's with you, he has no reason to give more to get the same thing (especially if he's content with the infrequency) and you are just playing yourself. It's like hanging porkchops from your neck and whining that the dogs outside won't leave you alone. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 5:57:32 PM | You are not in love with him. Please stop and ask yourself this?
"What do i love about this person?"
You cannot 'love' someone that you do not even know...you have only had sex with him. You are in love with an "IDEAL" of being with this elusive man and what he could possibly be to you. Its your perception. You are not in love with the person...but the idea of having a person or this person. Think hard about this...it will be easy to move on when you see that you are getting NOTHING in return but tears, anxiety and letdown.
Also ask yourself this question
"What part of me is he nourishing?"
I would say nothing other than your insecurities. This is not a nourishing relationship...please let this go.
He is either married or with someone...sad but true...if there is ever doubt in your mind you are usually 99% correct | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 6:06:43 PM | | forget about him and find somene worth your time. somene who acknowledges you and you him in return. if this guy ur talking aobut wanted you then he would have never broke up iwth you in the first place. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 6:07:32 PM | forget about him and find somene worth your time. somene who acknowledges you and you him in return. if this guy ur talking aobut wanted you then he would have never broke up iwth you in the first place.
sorry for double post it was accident. kid came in talking ot me and i didnt realize i had sent it already. i was distracted by kids lol. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 6:12:55 PM | Nextthyme -
LOL, Girl in lust, or give him a freaking monster hicky....
Tell him you want to do something different, and tie him down, then imprint those lovely LOVE BITES all over his upper neck, arms....
Or wait until he falls asleep and write your name all over his body with permanent marker... LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 5/22/2008 6:14:53 PM | ^^^^Both comments worth getting up for this morning.
Regardless of the speculation that he is married or in a committed relationship, he has found that outside the driving, with little effort, he has what he wants.
He gives you the b.s. story about the mom because he apparently realizes just what you said, that you are not going without knowing you have some place to stay. Just go, if you wind up driving back later that evening big whoop. I am twice your age and drive the hour and a half to my in-laws and back the same day when I take my kids to see them. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:11:20 PM | | okay well i talked to him and he said he has no home number like wtf who doesnt have a house number specially if u live at home right then im like fine bring me to your house and introduce me to your mom and hes like i cant my mom doesnt like when i bring home girls cause its there house and its always like that n im like do one of those to things n we can talk again and i aveing a hard time ignoring his messages | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:27:34 PM | haha i also said as a joke or ill only talk to you again if u let me tie you up and have my way with you n he said yes like wtf ......i think im a tie him up blind fold him and then write in marker my name's sex toy then see what he does then untie him and RUNNNNNNNNN lol | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:31:47 PM | | Be strong girl and keep ignoring them. Listen to the people here who can see what's going on. He'll probably become a nuisance now and contact you non stop, because he thinks his "free sex" is getting away. Find another guy who is worth your time and emotion.. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2008 12:34:54 PM | OP. This man is using you. You can make up all the excuses you want for this piece of work, but you have to ask yourself why you are ready to give up your dignity, self respect and personal convictions for this "person". Just what are you getting out of this relationship where he throws you scraps every once in a while and only on his terms? Are you worth that little that you dont deserve to not be lied to, not be used as a cum receptacle for this boy?
Perhaps you need to realize that this "man" is laughing at you everytime he walks away from screwing you. You dont think he is telling all his little friends that he is banging some hot chick and she is so stupid that she actually believes his lies?
You have a hard time ignoring his messages because you dont want to believe he is doing what he is doing. Plain and simple. You can't make him into someone he isnt and you need to accept that he isnt who you want him to be regardless of how much you try.
Do not contact him, do not have one last "romp" with him, let it go and when he calls, texts or shows up, do not have anything to do with him. Every time you react you are playing his game. | |
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