| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:38:55 AM | | And make sure you tell her all the stuff that has been said about her. This guy obviously has more patience than the majority of other guys would and she is completely neglecting that. I'm usually not one to have negative feelings torwards complete strangers but I hope this guy leaves her for someone better. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:42:23 AM | I agree.
The willingness to ruin the trip for him if she did go with him??? Well, that's just spiteful and mean.
The "I won" grin is what got me. She's not just insecure. She's a B*tch and he's an idiot for caving in. 
Krys | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:48:02 AM | | I wouldn't call him an idiot, we don't know anymore about him than he decided to forgo the trip. If he was all "Aw schucks, of course I won't go baby, anything for you sweetheart" like some Leave it to Beaver episode then yes, he's a raging idiot. I'm sure he's pissed though and has got to be considering what he has though, and ending this probably has crossed his mind now and in the past. I'm assuming he left before she gave the smart ass "I win" grin so you have to see it from his perspective instead of the OP's. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 10:03:45 AM |
Before I start, this is not about me. Someone told me this story this morning, and it's about her and her boyfriend.
Guys, let's say that you and your best (all male) friends got the chance to get cheap airline tickets and equally cheap seats to your favorite sports team's biggest game of the year so far. You have never had the chance to see them in person before, and it's a once in a lifetime thing maybe.
Unfortunately, your girlfriend has major issues with men because, before you, every man she has ever been with cheated on her. She goes NUTS when you tell her your plans, and FORBIDS you to go because she just KNOWS you'll cheat on her if she isn't right next to you watching your every move.
Note that this girl admits that the guy has never ever given her a reason not to trust him, and all of this insecure anxiety comes from her past.
Would you go anyway, or would you give in and give up the opportunity?
As an aside, she is going to Myrtle Beach in a month for her best friend's "no boys allowed bachelorette weekend," and he tried to say "if I can't go to this, you can't go to that." She said, "No man tells me what I can and can't do!"
The appropriate response is: "whateva! whateva! I do want I want!" | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 11:18:12 AM | I could understand her insecurities etc, but if she's expecting him to miss that, and then go to HER thing with a "no man is going to tell me what to do"
I would in fact tell her what to do, and that would be to "go to hell" and then I would leave not even back.
I would never get into that sitation in the first place. You can sometimes see that coming a looooong time before that.
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 11:51:37 AM | A good relationship is built on mutual trust, respect and benefit.
Neither one should be telling the other what they can or can't do.
And you know what is funny, is the amount of insecurity those people have once they get into a relationship. But they wear such a good facade that it is hidden in the initial attraction stage.
So many people are such fools for presentation, they let the devil right in because he asked nicely.
Colored lights can hypnotize, sparkle someone else's eyes. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 12:14:04 PM | Definitely a control freak.
I never could quite understand why some women take out their past and personal issues on the men or women they're dating. That's idiotic and unacceptable. It's also why I avoid women with those types of issues. Either you learn to get over yourself or I'll exit stage left. Nobody really wants to put up with crap like that. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:48:45 PM |
As an aside, she is going to Myrtle Beach in a month for her best friend's "no boys allowed bachelorette weekend," and he tried to say "if I can't go to this, you can't go to that." She said, "No man tells me what I can and can't do!"
Ahahah.... I'd say, "Sweetheart, you can do whatever you want. You're single now. Goodbye."
Honestly, I never would have put myself in that situation to begin with. I'd have screened her a little better at the beginning and not gotten involved with her once I started seeing red flags of insecure psycho behavior.
I forgot.. She told him that she'd come if she had to, but if she did she swore that she'd make sure he didn't have a good time.
Okay, seriously. This woman is a complete loser. It's a wonder she's able to find anybody to put up with her shìt. She must be attractive.
Oh, how's this for an update? He's not going.
He just came down here (we all work in the same building) to apologize for thinking of going and making her upset.
Heh. I don't feel sorry for him either. She's sitting here grinning like the cheshire cat with a triumphant "I won" look on her face.
Wow. This guy deserves the worthless life he's carved out for himself with his miserable and untrusting woman.
This is what happens when you don't know how to man up. He just volunteered his own castration. Somebody revoke his man card and get him a leash. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 1:55:23 PM |
Would you go anyway, or would you give in and give up the opportunity?
I would still go.....but, I would promise that I would bring the other woman back with me, so she could tell my girlfriend that nothing happend.....that she can remember. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 2:11:09 PM |
She basically said that I was right, but it wasn't her fault that she was acting like that. It's her ex boyfriends/husband's fault. Heh.
OP you need to tell her to take responsibility, it is absolutely HER fault. SHE is the only one who can control her actions, no one else. The only thing her ex's did was cheat on her, she did the rest and while it is all well and good to be hurt and upset at the time, when you take your past relationships into a new one then obviously her priorities do not include making it work. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 2:20:31 PM | So according to her;
He can't go to watch to Moscow to watch the football.
She THINKS he will cheat on her. He will be to busy supping ale & watching the footy to even consider cheating.
She can go to Myrtle Beach for her girlie night out & says "no man tell me what to do", when reminded about her double standards....
= Hypocritical Control Freak.
Dump Her Immediatly. | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:00:07 PM | There are obviously other factors at work. With the guy's age-difference maybe he thinks he could never get someone like her again? Maybe he isn't getting along with one of his guy friends? Maybe as one poster suggested she has credit card info or maybe faulty-tax-return info, weapons, free cocaine, inside info on his serial killings...
There has to be more to this story, probably that the OP doesn't know about | |
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| When a woman tells you what you can and can't do...
Posted: 5/22/2008 6:32:47 PM | If it were me,, I wouldn't deal with that crap.. But I'm old,, I would have picked up on that personality trait a long time ago,, well before dating ever started,,
But,, because they are a couple,, they should try and work through it.. If I were him I would still go, either way, then it would be her decision, if she couldn't handle it.. she could leave...
When I got home if all I heard was sh*t from her,, then I'd make a decision,, is this all worth it...
The down side,, if he cares about this girl,, and goes,, he will mostly not have a good time, because he is concerned about her,, and how she is feeling,, all caused by the jealousy of the girl,,
So either way this guy is dammed if he does go,, and dammed if he doesn't...
I conclude,, I would say babe,, it's time for us to move on,, good luck with you life... | |
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