| |
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:15:29 AM | What most people call 'Baggage',I call 'History'..!!!
I lost my wife .. almost _Exactly_ 10 years ago....
I don't pine for her on a daily basis....I don't 'compare' her to any of my dates....
I just want to find someone that has her qualities and attitudes...
If I left it out of my profile .. I'd feel like I was being Deceptive...!! | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:22:16 PM | At one point in my life my baggage was so massive that I would have had back trouble if I had had to physically tote it around all the time. Now it barely fits into a grocery bag, and isn't so evident to those who meet me.
As someone once said in these forums, we can't reach middle age without having accumulated some baggage. What matters is what we do with it. Do we compare every prospective date with the last one or the worst one; or do we look at our old relationships as a page in our book of life that has been forever turned, not to be visited again? | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:43:10 PM | "As someone once said in these forums, we can't reach middle age without having accumulated some baggage. What matters is what we do with it."
I can't understand why after a few years, people don't get so tired of their baggage, that they don't work up the courage to get over it??? | |
|
| |
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/16/2008 9:05:21 PM | | I don't have baggage. I got rid of it all when I moved on in my life. I have children and grandchildren in my life but they are NOT baggage. I can sit now and think of my past relationships and know we did have some good times but the bad out weighed the good. I have grown from my past relationships and made myself a better person for it. It's when you don't grow from your mistakes that they are baggage. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:17:38 PM | For me it's sorta like bragging about being humble.
When I'm proclaiming I let go of my excess baggage,
something will pop up to remind me that it's a life long process of letting it go.
When I THINK I got it licked is when it's got me licked. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:26:44 PM | One persons baggage is another persons treasure... and I have no idea why children would be considered baggage, or even the fact that we've all had bumps in the road that have been our lives.
I think, in most cases, not wanting baggage alludes to "don't bring your negative baggage along with you and make it my problem to", i.e. trashed credit, maxed out credit cards, 10 loony-toon ex's, your collection agency calls, legal hassles, alcoholism, drug addictions, etc.
At least that's what I envision when I think of "baggage" that I wouldn't want to deal with.
Bluezzz | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/16/2008 10:53:25 PM | Bluezzz,
Maybe it's a regional colloquial difference. In my neck of the woods baggage, excess baggage commonly refers to negative emotional stuff one would carry in their mind & or heart. The stuff you describe we call the "your life is unmanagable" gig.
LOL Which I guess often stems from excess baggage. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/17/2008 6:54:43 PM | I agree, baggage comes from life. There is no way to be this age, and not have a history. Unless of course you have never had a job, and still live at home with mommy at 37 years of age.
When I see someone using no baggage in their ad, I get the impression they are looking for FWB and nothing more. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 7/17/2008 7:21:04 PM | Baggage or just life experiences? Things that forced us to grow. Forced us to move on. Forced us to look at life different.
Baggage.......... Makes us what we are today good, bad or indifferent.
Just box up the issues that are no good or out dated. Improve on the baggage that turned out to be sound advice. And girls and boys, make your new life better or enjoy the serinity have earned. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 8/1/2008 7:55:09 PM | Accumulating baggage is accumulating soul, and how you react to various happenings in life is who you are momentarily, albeit permanently if/when well understood and packed. It seems to start before birth as a mother will talk, sing, or play music to an unborn child, which may have a lasting impression on the unborn child, therefore carried on in life, therefore effectively baggage. Effectively also are the arguments they hear and feel before birth which will be carried as well, meaning we collect things before we're aware or remember being, and some of the things (all) we're subjected to before and up till the age of five are the hardest to detect, and even more difficult to deal with/comprehend because our physical brains are long not aware of the happenings but they truly can affect us in profound ways. So be aware parents, how you prune a sapling will/can have an everlasting effect on it's growing state.
~(B)~  | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 8/1/2008 8:32:44 PM | Many postings on this. Baggage vs. Life Experiences....
If it haunts you it is baggage. Otherwise it is what makes you what you are today.
If you have to drag it around like a badge of honor or whinnnnnn about it is baggage. If it is a drudge or stops you cold from moving forward...baggage.
Drop the baggage crap and deal with life... keep moving. Get over it! | |
|
| |
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 8/3/2008 11:19:31 AM | I repeat, I have no baggage! Never could see the point in carrying it around from one relationship to another. The past is the past. I've left the negative stuff back there, and brought forward only the positive. Fortunately for me, the positives have far outweighed the negatives.
People who hold on to "baggage" are not yet ready to move on. People have their own interpretations of what they consider to be baggage. On the other hand, some love lugging a lot of baggage around. They've allowed it to become a part of them. | |
|
| |
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:20:39 PM | My baggage?
Hmmmm, let's see; I left all my baggage with my ex so she could leave a little more organized!
We all have some sort of "baggage" after kids/ relationship breakdown/ life altering illness/ financial upset/ etc.
Those who cry out for NO BAGGAGE, will be the ones easiest let down! | |
|
| |
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:33:20 PM |
AWE MS. Mae..I'd carry your baggage just for a smile from you!
So baggage is all in how you carry, pack it, unload it and stow it away..
I carried much for a longtime.Now I lessened the load, bought another Harley and left the baggage at the corner!
dusty
...Be careful....my stuff will give you a hernia
...maeflowers | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/17/2008 11:30:13 PM | That is much better than a permanent "back" problem from carrying toooo much of anything....... 
Just remember that some things can be fixed, and some just can not be, and those are the ones that you need to be careful about.....
Just my opinion.......   | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/18/2008 5:59:24 AM | But isn't baggage what we carry our life experiences in?
See my take on baggage is that everyone has it.
It's how its packaged. If its messily thrown into a huge duffel bag and dragged behind them, strewing its contents as they go.. That's bad. If your baggage is stored in series of shopping bags and grocery bags, run away fast.
If it's a nice matched set of luggage with wheels that you pull behind you, and only need to open when required to either remove an item or perhaps add something, that's okay.
No way, no how, is there an adult over the age of 30 without some kind of baggage. To deny you have baggage is not being honest with yourself, your life and your feelings.
And to whoever said they wonder about profiles saying no baggage. I wonder about those too. I think no baggage can be interpreted that the person doesn't want to become "involved" in your life to the point that they may have to see what's inside your baggage.
I know that at this point in my life, I'm fairly overwhelmed with some of the stuff in my baggage so I am not willing to take on the responsiblity of having to help someone else with their baggage. Now my baggage is well managed but that doesn't mean I'm interested in adding to that pile. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/18/2008 6:07:46 AM | Yes, everyone has baggage...at this age...maybe even the younger folks too--yet, some people carry resentments and the baggage is so heavy that is all that they see.
Ex: If I date a guy that is still in love with his ex and constantly talks about her--how she did him wrong--and lives in a pity party --that is some heavy baggage. A person needs to go to counseling so the pain isn't so deep. Some people use their so called baggage to manipulate people. They need money...a place to live...kids NEED a dad...a game of love me...leave me...etc.
When someone I know is so deep in their past and can not move on...then the red flags appear.
Yes we all have baggage...Yet, the size of the suitcase...and how much we choose to carry is what counts.
I have personally learned to just turn it over to God. He is my personal, loving, bellboy when it comes to my baggage. He carries my baggage and keeps me safe. Oh what a concept.
 Freedom is a beautiful thing. | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/18/2008 6:30:16 AM | I agree everyone as some kind of baggage in there life...i also turned to the church to get rid of my past...Im free to do what i want now...my moto don't dwell on the past... life is now....so get rid of your baggage and start new life now....be happy  | |
|
| We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it
Posted: 11/18/2008 6:39:14 AM | Hell, I keep my baggage on the little wheelie cart....makes it easier to haul all of the shit around.....Now I am looking for a porter to pull my little wheelie cart for me....LOL
NOT.........I can pull my own cart thank you very much....
Sugar | |
|
| |
Home
login 
