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| Buying him a gift?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:16:12 PM |
I don't mean to say that beer drinkers are tacky....it's just....well....not what I would have considered a "thoughtful" gift. LOL! maybe Red can explain this better?
I'd be happy to:)
"Thoughtful" gift is a gift that shows that one has thought about it, obviously... It reflects the degree of appreciation and giver's resources, but (more importantly) it shows that a giver wants to find something appropriate for the other person.
Now, beer can also be a gift... and it can be a thoughtful gift... If the other person is really into beer, I would look up "Best Beers" ratings, get a basket (or a cooler?) and buy the top rated beers from around the world: Westvleteren, Pilsner Urquell, Rochefort Trappistes 10, Bells Expedition Stout, Three Floyds Dark Lord Russian Imperial Stout, etc. Or, the ones that I can find locally, or the ones that I know the other person will enjoy but won't get them on a daily basis... I used to date someone who was into beer, and it was a great fun to me to find a beer that he had never tried before and get it for him.
One of the best gifts someone gave ME lately is the photo that I use as my profile shot these days... A friend found a Soviet era propaganda poster that reminded him of me & my handle name here... He then photoshopped my face onto that thing that red lady holds in her hand... I was thrilled... and, I shared it with another friend, just to show off my new photo... HE then photoshopped my face on her shoulders.... As a result, I now have this deliciously insane photo of myself holding a smaller photo of myself, Soviet Style... Neither one of my friends spent any money, but their gifts are greatly appreciated and every time I see this photo I remember my friends (thank you:) *blows them kisses*).
I don't like buying gifts under pressure. If I see a thing and it reminds me of someone, I get it for them... no matter if there is a specific occasion or not... The best gifts are the ones that are given with no reason whatsoever... just to bring the smile on someone else's face.
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~Kyn~
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| Buying him a gift?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:28:04 PM | Pssst...*pokes Red*
Now, beer can also be a gift... and it can be a thoughtful gift... If the other person is really into beer, I would look up "Best Beers" ratings, get a basket (or a cooler?) and buy the top rated beers from around the world: Westvleteren, Pilsner Urquell, Rochefort Trappistes 10, Bells Expedition Stout, Three Floyds Dark Lord Russian Imperial Stout, etc. Or, the ones that I can find locally, or the ones that I know the other person will enjoy but won't get them on a daily basis...
Its MY birthday in September. 
OP: I think your gift was a lovely idea...probably coulda saved ya the $80 and told you upfront the tickets the winner though. | |
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| Buying him a gift?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:45:21 PM | Allow me to rearrange the words of your OP and to add a few of my own...
When you ... "want to do something nice for someone" ...even if... "not exactly a 'couple"... because he... "did something very nice for"... you and you "want to reciprocate"... never is "to nullify his 'gift"... "too soon"... or... "too much".
It's "appreciation".
If he is a gentleman and you're a lady... shall be no second meaning or wrong interpretations, from any one of you two.
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| Buying him a gift?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:54:42 PM | the kind of gift that is expensive to buy but won't make him feel like you are trying to buy him, is something provocative, that you clearly wear for him as a surprise, underneath your coat. That was teh best gift I ever got from a girl.
you can't really go wrong with this, unless he's not into you sexually. In which case what's the point anyway? | |
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| Buying him a gift?
Posted: 6/13/2008 5:45:25 AM |  RED!!!! What a wonderful idea! Next time I want to buy a gift for a "beer drinker", I'm going to contact you to help me pick them out! LOL! With me, it's coffee. My daughter occassionally sends me gift packs of gourmet coffee, and I LOVE it!
See, it's NOT the amount that a gift costs...it's about buying a person something that they'd like...but that they normally wouldn't buy for themselves. It's like giving....a little "indulgence"...or an uneccesary luxury.
LOL! the suggestion in post #29 is good....BUT; not exactly something he could show off at the office ya know! LOL! Though I have heard that there's a new trend saying...sure, send flowers to guys....ewwwww....that just doesn't seem right in my 55 yr old brain!!! LOL! Women love getting flowers at work, not only because it says the guy was thinking about them...but all their friends know that someone is thinking of them. Though that was not even part of my decision, it is nice to know that when his co-workers notice the watch and he says.."my girl gave this to me"...LOL! then he'll be "Da Man"..yeahhhh! LOL! It's just really fun to give someone that little "ego boost", particularly when they have their ego well under control.
From the opinions I've seen expressed however, it would still seem that men receiving gifts from a woman can be a pretty touchy subject. Why is that guys? Most women that I know just really like giving gifts to people that they care for; whether for a child, a favorite Aunt, a girlfriend, or a favorite guy. Granted, it does make US feel good, but beyond that...we're just trying to show that we care for and appreciate you.
Realizing that sometimes people do expect their gifts to be reciprocated, and sometimes people do overdo the gift giving (my daughter accuses me of this...my grandchildren however NEVER complain about it!), so guys....are there some "rules of thumb" to go by with men? Like....frequency, occassion and spending limits? | |
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