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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 4:57:43 AM | | Some of us gals are smart enough to "act dumb" .... lol. That makes everyone happy. LOL...... | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 5:19:10 AM | It turns me on!! Nerds get me hot,and when I find out a guy actually reads a BOOK.....
sheesh...
Someone mentioned the "deer in the headlights" look when you speak...GEEZE US!! I hate that~~rather just stay home by myself and paint my toenails | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 5:25:13 AM | | No... NOBODY wants anyone who's not dumb as post. To succeed in the dating domain one has to learn and use such key phrases such as "ummmm", "beats me", "oh", "doh" etc....... | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:35:05 AM | | Intelligence is a huge turn for me, it just feels that there is more we can learn from each other. Along with that creativity and even words are sexy to me. To me if I am with a girl and she shows some knowledge I am proud of her, as long as she doest use it to belittle people. Okay the occasional teasing is fine, but in short Intelligence = SEXY! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:26:58 AM | | i agree with ketch..there is a difference between an intellect and a show off.some are quite egotistical.they seem to always have something to prove.who cares?..i am turned on by someone intellectual as long as they are down to earth and not in love with their intellect.i believe that no matter what level of intellect (and that being percieved in many ways),the important issue is whether or not you feel comfortable interacting with someone of a higher intellect and the reverse is true as well.there are many aspects we can all either accept or reject and intelligence is another one of those and i feel is just as important to consider in any long term relationship. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:33:53 AM | It turns me on to a certain degree. As long as the person can hold up their end of a conversation, then I won't complain.
Intelligent people I find make some very bad decisions, not once in awhile but quite often.
Is that because they tend to overanalyze things instead of taking them at face value? | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:38:21 AM |
With my last LTR, though, she acted like she knew everything, or had to always know at least a LITTLE BIT more than me. That gets tiring real fast.
That's arrogant. Maybe she was really smart I don't know but if she was secure she wouldn't have to keep reminding anyone about that. I've known women AND men like this - it's tiresome and unappealing.
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 9:07:29 AM | Because I am an uber nerd, I need intelligence to get me going. It's part of the package. I actually like it best if a woman rivals me in knowledge and I don't mean just by the pedigree of her education. You can slap a degree on anyone these days.
An intelligent person often has a lot to say which is extremely attractive to me. I am a journalist so I like asking people probing questions... and I want a good answer!
I LOVE intelligent women because they are interested in more than just pop culture... and as a kid I read the encyclopedia for fun. I get bored very easily if all you want to talk about is the latest episode of "Flava of Love".
I have met women who assume guys are always going to be intimidated by their intelligence and they even thrive on it. They try to talk down to you or test you on obscure topics. THAT's annoying. You can be intelligent without being haughty and obnoxious.
So yes, give me a woman who can talk about multiple topics from Ancient Mayan culture to the migration patterns of zebras but don't act like everyone around you is an idiot for not being experts on that particular topic as well. If someone talks down to you... that is a whole other problem. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:07:07 AM | | lol god yes...lol intellegence is abig turn on but i can see it from the otherside as well. my ex use to say he felt stupid when he was with me and my family because we had these indepth conversations...it wasn't something we intentionally did i've always been an intellectual and i don't see why i should have to dumb it down for somone else. but i don't know how anyone else feel about it... | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:36:11 PM |
Intelligence in a woman is THE major turn on for me. Always had been.
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Where did all the big boob lovers go? Gees, I been on this site for almost 10 years, and today all of a sudden, its intelligent women men want. I give up. I could barely handle their boobs, just one moving part, and now OH OH....That poison gas from outer space has blanketed the earth, and any old divorced middle aged man who just wanted a quick NSA CE, with a college cheerleader (and her mome, sure) is dieing! Is there a farm or somewhere really far away from everything but not so far away its close to something else that I can go to, with the cheerleaders . I'll save them from being passed over by these brainiac fetishists and nuclear scientists that seem to have taken over POF in one day.
Frikin amazing, even to a divorced (who'd a thunked it) testosterone fueled low level borderline moronic smoker perv like me. I'm gonna go look for an "all women are confused lieing fat golddiggers" thread. There was a bunch yesterday, before all this men ar too respectful and like intelligence Hooeey..
LOL! Big boobs have never really been my thing. Medium to small boobs, another story.
No matter how hot a woman looks, if she has nothing upstairs, I am turned off. In rare cases, the lady has such a sweet personality that I can overlook the lack of IQ. That is very rare, and in each case, never resulted in a date.
I like intelligent conversation. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:52:04 PM | OP, I don't mean any disrespect.. but I think you did yourself a disservice by not continuing with that intelligent woman. Now if she hung it over your head.. that is a different story but if she was smart.. and a down to earth person.. yes I think you made a mistake. Intelligent people usually make better lovers.. they are more creative.. and I think they make good mates because they can actually "help" you with your life. Your aim should aways be to "date up".. not "date down".
I like to date intelligent people. Now intelligence comes in many forms.. I know many PhD's who are frankly just idiots.. have no common sense.. I don't view them as intelligent.. My ex was very intelligent but he didn't have a college degree.
I myself have a fair amount of education.. and I have been around academia for years as a student.. and I have to admit that my professors have "rubbed off" on me. They say you become like who you hang with.. and they have greatly influenced my language and vocabulary.
I have been dumped by men who were intimidated because I had a college degree. It was hurtful.. because the only reason I have a college degree is that I wanted to take care of myself better..
Recently I was dating two guys at the same time.. both were engineers.. and I enjoyed it because we could talk science a little bit in our conversations. One even told me that my intelligence was a turn on for him. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 5:08:36 PM | Being Intelligent is not the problem here, it is our we present ourselves to our partner. If many of the so call educated women, can spend their time not trying to proof their knowledge by trying to be always right or to have the last say, we would not have such high rate of single educated women.
As educated women, we need to start using our knowledge and smartness in a positive way. Gals and Guys are intridge by an educated partner, but the situation get sour when they begin to always feel like a second class citizen in a relationship. When I decide to date, I am not in the market for a teacher or a gradma or gradpa who always want to tell me that I am wrong or how to do things better. Instead I need someone that their knowledge can inspire and motivate me, someone I ca learn from everyday and want to always be around.
Women need to still remember the old school slogan which says, two pilot cannot fly a plan. One has to be the pilot and the other a co-pilot.
I am an educated and smart lady, but I try not to dwell in my knowledge, also, i don't have to proof my knowledge or intelligence to anyone. For "By their fruit ye shall know them". Therefore, intelligent woman can be a turn on and at the same time a big turn off, if she's all about competition instead of building a fruitful relationship.
By the way, this goes both ways. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:48:33 PM |
is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl?
For me it is not that intelligence is a turn on - it is that LACK of intelligence is a "turn off". | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:08:59 PM | Ya. But do many other things -- great outlook, sense of fun, belief in causes that I share.
I just noticed that Markus is helping us out: we now have education, vehicles, and income to judge each other on. . . .
Yikes!
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:10:59 PM | To me, and intelligent woman with a good outgoing animated personality is a turn on.
For a guy to feel intimidated by it doesn't make sense to me. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:27:03 PM | re the Opost
With almost everybody these days claiming to be intelligent, and thinking that banter or smart alec-ing = intelligence, people who do not purport to be intelligent are very attractive and usually more intelligent than they pretend to be.
Hence, real intelligence turns me on, but that is vey rare. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:45:24 PM |
Some of us gals are smart enough to "act dumb" .... lol. That makes everyone happy.
I learnt to 'act dumb' because I got the message that men dont like intelligence in women. I kept it up for about 20 years because of the situation in the family that I married into. BUT trying to be something you're not is damaging to your psyche and ultimately unsuccessful.
I still think its useful to be able to talk to people at their own level but trying to hide or deny an aspect of your self is dangerous and makes no one happy in the end. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:49:43 PM | I enjoy spending time with smart men.
So cute ... one of the deputies at the jail once told me that he gets "exhausted" when he's out on a date with a really smart woman. LMAO, he said he doesn't enjoy having to be on his toes all evening.
I tried to convince him that intelligent women (well most of them) really don't want anything more than to have a good time on a date. They don't really want to sit around and match IQ's all evening.
Sigh ... I guess I know men who consider it quite a challenge to spend time with intelligent women. I suppose there are men who might consider it a turn on, but wouldn't it maybe be better to say that being intelligent is considered "HOT" ... and not necessarily a turn on?
The man I have loved (high school crush) for over 40 years is not necessarily the best looking man around, but he is very smart, wears the kind of after shave I thoroughly enjoy, shares the same political views as I do, we're both musicians of some sort, and I consider him to be very "HOT".
We've never been in a relationship ... but the thought of it sure is a turn on. For me it's the whole package that can be considered a turn on, not just the "intelligence" part.  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/23/2008 9:36:59 PM | | It's very high up on my list. I prefer someone smarter than me. On the flip side, I hope that he expects me to hold my own. I wouldn't want a guy who wants the air-head type. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:20:50 PM | | I hear ya dimeadozen....I was really just joking....by replying to this thread we have to fess up to our intelligence in the first place....we're women and that's not an easy thing to do. You spoke what is true.... | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:42:12 PM | | I think perhaps what is even better... but, can also go hand-in-hand (I say can, because it isn't always true), is an inquisitive quality... a desire to examine their own heart and mind, as-well-as the world around them. That is truly captivating. | |
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