| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/11/2008 10:50:01 PM | Just a small question --- is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl? I dated this really intelligent girl ... felt a bit intimidated. I know it is kind of old school but I did not want to date her again ... frequency mismatch I suppose. Was it foolish of me?
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If there is a woman that is smart but not attractive; no. If its someoen I'm attracted to; yes. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 2:45:41 PM | | I think intelligence can be a mjor turn on. It all depends on how the other person makes you feel. If they are condescending or patronizing, then of course it's going to make the person that they are interacting with not enjoy their company and not want to spend time with them. However, when a person can hold a witty conversation and have an intellectual debate where they are able to express themselves clearly and concisely, god, that's hot! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:45:58 PM | Love an intelligent chat every now and then to get the gray matter sparking.
Yes I suppose it could be a turn on, because it is rare to find an intelligent person to use as a sounding board these days, a lot go along with the crowd and dont have an opinion.
These forums can be very quick thinking and entertaining and sometimes very intelligent chat comes from a simple question. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:07:25 PM | | All women I have met and dated(except my professors or fellow students) have lower level of education than me. But some are very, very smart. Good speech and vocabulary skills. Good knowledge of topics. It takes me stamina not to stumble before their little cute brains! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:07:33 PM | | It's definitley a turn on as long as the guy doesn't shove it in my face or be 'matter of fact' 24/7. One can be too intelligent, and then it goes from being hot to being annoying. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:08:15 PM | Nothing is sexier than a curious mind. Common sense, street smarts, life experience and being a life long learner can all add up to an intelligent individual . Book learning and formal education does not always qualify a person as being smart or interesting. It can result in a pompous talking head. No fun at dinner parties!
Remember that tv show, Northern Exposure? Chris Stevens, is an example of a flawed but ultimately a very sexy, natural and intelligent man.
Yet, I find emotional intelligence even a more attractive quality. A strong sense of self and intutition. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:15:28 PM | Yes, it is a MUST...
There has to be an intellectual connection.
Possibly you were intimidated knowing that since she is intellectual that she may in fact expect more from or of you (possibly you were concerned you were not "adequate enough" for her)?
The thing is... is that not what many of us also wants? Someone who wont accept the status quote and keeps encouraging us to be the best we can be in all areas?
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:39:54 PM | To a certain degree..yes...intelligence is a turn on. Its nice to have an meaningful conversation with someone but it is also nice to talk about the little things in life that make it worth while.
I'm not impressed with people who kind of 'flaunt' their intelligence and make you feel stupid in return (something like my anal-ass brother does).
I know alot about the things I know about..can't say I know alot about the things you know about. Anything that interests me that I want to know about I have the intelligence to learn it..which brings me to automotive repair..time to learn..lol.
OP: its up to you how you feel around the person..and if your reaction to it bothers you get to know a little about the things that the other person may talk about, to add to the conversation.
What it boils down to is we are human..shes just a woman with the same basic needs as anyone else..don't need to be intimidated. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:55:50 PM |
Just a small question --- is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl? I dated this really intelligent girl ... felt a bit intimidated. I know it is kind of old school but I did not want to date her again ... frequency mismatch I suppose. Was it foolish of me?
~OP~ It wasn't foolish if you weren't comfortable. My question would probably be: Why didn't you love the intellingence? I don't believe old school has much to do with it, rather "No man wants a wife smarter than himself." (I actually heard that from my exhusband, it made me giggle then and now. Silliness!!)  Personally, I find that intelligence is not only a major turn it, it's vital. Right next to a killer sense of humor/quick wit. To each their own.  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:12:09 AM | It's definitley a turn on as long as the guy doesn't shove it in my face or be 'matter of fact' 24/7. One can be too intelligent, and then it goes from being hot to being annoying.
So basically, intelligence is not a turn on. What is a turn on is someone who is of approximately the same intelligence. What I get from reading the majority of the replies in this thread is that everyone wants to think of jim/herself as intelligent so he/she claim to be attracted to intelligent people and at the same time reject people who are ``too'' intelligent by characterizing it negatively as arrogance. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:34:01 AM | It's a major turn for me.
Brain + great personality= big major turn on
Body fitness + good looks= big major turn on
Good heart + good attitudes = big major turn on
Faithfulness + honesty= big major turn on
Passion + romantic = execellent love making lol
Money + all the above = are what we all been looking for in a realtionship.   | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:44:48 AM | I find stupidity a turn off that's for sure. I also find prejudice and aggressiveness a turn off. A woman without morals who is prejudicial and aggressive but highly intelligent is a very big turn off.
A woman who is intelligent and is feminine is a big turn on for me. OP I'd suggest there was something else about her that put you off - for example being so 'self sufficient you don't need a man' makes it impossible to form a proper relationship - I don't class that, for example, as a sign of intelligence. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:57:18 AM | dont let intelligence be a deal breaker for you. you are just as good as the next person. It's the feelings you have for a person that should determine if its a deal breaker or not. besides one of you have to have smarts lol.  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:58:09 AM | I love intelligence in a man. It's definitely a quality I look for.
What I don't like, however, are people who have a severe case of know-it-all-ism. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:03:58 AM | | I agree, the know it alls quickly get on my nerves. I love your name, since Breakfast At Tiffany's is one of my favorite movies. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:35:30 AM | Absolutely..!!
A Pretty Lady with a Brain is S-o-o-o-o-o-ooo much sexxier than a D-B..!!
Tell me that you can calculate the gravitational pull of an object 6.3 k long by 2.6 k wide .. with a mass of 10/23rd...and you'll have me Forever...!!!
Equally Impressive is..: Going a 'Best 3 out of 5 ' in Tongue-wrestling..!!
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:48:32 PM |
So basically, intelligence is not a turn on. What is a turn on is someone who is of approximately the same intelligence. What I get from reading the majority of the replies in this thread is that everyone wants to think of jim/herself as intelligent so he/she claim to be attracted to intelligent people and at the same time reject people who are ``too'' intelligent by characterizing it negatively as arrogance.
I don't mind someone who is smarter than me. But I've met people who know a lot more than I do, who had a tendancy to shove it in my face. I think it's really hot if a guy has a lot of knowledge to share, but some people have a tendancy to go over board. They lack tact. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:13:15 AM | If she intimidated you, it was probably wise for you to stop seeing her. However, I find intelligent, open - minded men to be EXTREMELY sexy. In fact, I love a guy with a brain the way most women love a buff firefighter.
Mmmm.... | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:12:47 AM | I think this is yet another cover-up by the ladies. I believe the men in wanting someone intelligent but I am suspect of the women. You see what women typically are drawn to and it usually has to do with a sense of excitement and with excitement usually is associated with stupidity. HOWEVER, I'm gonna have to hit up some gals in this thread to ascertain authenticity - so be prepared for my inquisition!.
I know of very few intelligent persons...very very few. My notion of this may be different than others. To me being intelligent is not a requirement, but not being really dumb is, and I don't care about formal education as a measure - I can see from actions how a person thinks. There are more important characteristics of a person.
Being pleasant, helpful, non-argumentative (capable of discussions), and knowing 5th grade math (earns $4 and doesn't spend $5, doesn't eat lots of food with no exercise to have to wonder how she got to be a bbw-and a proud one at that as an afterthought for not wanting the discomfort of taking it off) is mostly what I demand but few can even jump through these easy hoops.
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:30:30 AM |
All women I have met and dated(except my professors or fellow students) have lower level of education than me. But some are very, very smart. Good speech and vocabulary skills. Good knowledge of topics. It takes me stamina not to stumble before their little cute brains!
Cute little brain? Ar you kidding me? That's so sexist. I resent that. I have worked hard to achieve my level of education, and to have a woman's intelligence dismissed this way is rather insulting.
I think this is yet another cover-up by the ladies. I believe the men in wanting someone intelligent but I am suspect of the women. You see what women typically are drawn to and it usually has to do with a sense of excitement and with excitement usually is associated with stupidity.
This statement is just as presupposed as saying that all guys like big-boobed bimbos, and are therefore not attracted to intelligence. Generalizations trap you like that.
I do, in fact, value intelligence. But intelligence is not limited to someone with a formal education.
Now you'll have to excuse me - I should probably go to school so I can fill my cute little brain with some more knowledge. | |
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