| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 6:33:54 AM | Nah... I guess you've been just a little bit judgemental to yourself... That was your mind saying (and assuming) that she is "really" intelligent girl... or did she say to you that she is "really" intelligent? If she had, well, it ain't no sign of "intelligence" at all...
Your mindset overwhelmed you babe... and I bet the girl wasn't "that" intelligent at all... otherwise she would "nicely" tune with you...
You did intimidate yourself not her... Next time you just relax and enjoy the precious momentum without much thoughts...
It takes two to tango... being aware of this is really a good one, and one of in many signs of "intelligence"...
Intelligence is not a monster... come to see closes and you will see that it 's your mind which sent out the wrong image to your eyes...
Cheers!
Ms. perfectly Imperfect... | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:46:24 AM | BTW, intelligence is a great turn on for me.
Signs of intelligence are complex and yet unique to each individual. Basically, an intelligent person is mostly honest, knowledgeable, confident, thinks and says the right things at the right times and places... it speaks loud about perception and sharp senses.
Nobody can fake it, true. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:13:11 PM |
Signs of intelligence are complex and yet unique to each individual. Basically, an intelligent person is mostly honest, knowledgeable, confident, thinks and says the right things at the right times and places... it speaks loud about perception and sharp senses.
Actually, the part about being confident is not true. A research article in the APA journal a few years ago showed that the people who were the most confident in their abilities were those who were too stupid to realize they weren't very good at something. The smartest people in the group (a large number of university students) consistently rated their abilities as average. In other words, smarter people understand thier limits better, know when they don't know something which is usually seen as a laclk of confidence. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:52:38 PM | I doubt the study referenced above really had a group of very intelligent people. As I said before, I know of very few intelligent people. What others call intelligent is likely quite average.
With intelligence does come confidence for intelligence comprises much creativity to be able to pull off what they're not even trained to do. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:59:43 PM | "I wouldn't know, never met a woman smarter than me !"
Maybe you did, but she was gone before you knew it.
It's interesting to see that everyone posting in this thread is using capital letters properly. People on their best behavior? | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:03:38 PM | | An intelligent person to me is someone who can express themselves well and can hold a conversation. And yes, it's a big turn on. Two of my biggest turn offs are bad hygiene and stupidity. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:08:19 PM | Intellect is my numero uno desire in a mate! :O)
And I do not neccesarily mean he has to have a PhD...life smarts, street smarts, book smarts, people smarts....all are very stimulating in the right dosage!
Now my mother's husband is a perfect example of how intellect goes wrong...very wrong! LOL He is a Physicist and dude cannot have a normal conversation without droning on and on about something that puts you to sleep! I mean, the simplest conversation turns into a drawn out explanation...and this sort usually have no sense of humor! | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:18:48 PM | stingray,
Are you serious? If they are that good at communicating, then they can be that good at deceiving people. Even intelligent people get mislead, because we are emotional human beings and when certain emotions come into play, well just throw that intelligence out the window. Anyone can be intelligent, but does that mean they have wisdom in every case? I think not. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:21:45 PM | | Intelligence is a HUGE turn-on for me....but you have to see the whole picture - and be compatible with every part of someone, not just their brain. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 5:23:09 PM | I guess it would depend OP...
For some guys, yeah, it might be. Kind of hard to feel like King of the World when your lady says words that you have to look up. I met someone who felt like you did...he told me he constantly had to get a dictionary out to talk to me...and I didn't think I said anything unusual!
Next time, don't break it off...make a joke out of it. She may not realize that she's intimidating you and will make you more comfortable. Mind you...she won't dumb herself down in order to do that (had someone want that too...not!).
Good luck next time--and hey, spend some off time beefing up your education. Some of us ladies think smart men are HOT!  | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:52:47 PM | Op, having to stop and explain ordinary words is no fun and it will always limit how much you can share and how far you can go as a two-person unit. In other words, it's better to be on the same wavelength.
 | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:06:16 PM | I can't say anybody's intelligence would be so far superior to be intimidating. More like fascinating.
But I will admit that there's something kind of charming about the girl who knows how to make you feel like the smartest guy in the world. Hey, I like you. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:32:52 PM | After reading all this hype on intelligence and how it turns everyone on so much I gotta say what a real turn on for me is a guy with a nice butt in a pair of faded levis!! Couldn't help myself on that one  | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/16/2008 9:17:28 PM | | I absolutely love intelligence in a girl. I went out with one that had a very high IQ and would read medical journals, always had over 10 books in her car that she was returning to different libraries. It was a little intimidating but I thought it was great to be able to learn so much from each other. I'm not sure if I should say this or not, but the city where I am from, it is rare to meet a girl or guy with high intelligence. If you stood out in the street and asked 20 random people who is "Anne Frank" you will be lucky if one knows. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:19:00 AM | I didn't read this thread, mainly because i made the assumption that most people said they do find it attractive, and their reasoning is based on the idea that people who think like them are the intelligent ones...
I don't find most "intelligent" people attractive, being as everyone's "intelligent", then again, everyone has a quality i like, i can't help it, i just like people. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:21:06 AM |
Now my mother's husband is a perfect example of how intellect goes wrong...very wrong! LOL He is a Physicist and dude cannot have a normal conversation without droning on and on about something that puts you to sleep! I mean, the simplest conversation turns into a drawn out explanation...and this sort usually have no sense of humor!
As a member of the class of offenders you mentioned, let me suggest that what he does for a living has bo connection with him being boring or lacking a sense of humor (if those are in fact, true.) Read some of Richard Feynman's books. On the other hand, I have found that out here in the ``real world''' (as opposed to academic land) there are lots and lots of people who have no interest in anything, so it's often not possible to talk about anything but the weather without being tedious. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 11:16:31 AM | jerseygirl2008
i'm very inteligent, educated and smart. i love to have intelugnet conversations with women, i am your type of man? , please say yes! | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:12:31 PM | Intelligence can viewed as, smart in books, smart in life,..... which one is 'smarter'? Survival of the 'fittest'????!!!! To show my 'true' intelligence would make some gasp at the thought. I just know that men are very intimidated by smart women,.... or shall I say 'Strong' women, so therefore, I do ask you but one more question. What do you constitute as 'intelligent'? | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:25:55 PM | | I don't think the OP has low self esteem. Give him a break! OP, perhaps you are confusing 'intelligence' with 'arrogance'. Arrogant people can lead the tender hearted of us feeling stomped on, or intimidated. Intelligence is a turn on, but people who constantly need to prove it are annoying to be around. | |
|
| |
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:13:02 PM | No - I like them young, dumb, and full of c u m! I'm surprised no one has written that already.
But I'm not surprised that no one has expressed a preference for idiots because that throws one's own personality (and intelligence, and motives) into question. Of course we all like intelligent people! It's one of those universally desirable traits, yet we can't really define it. Can intelligence be relative to a situation or one's perspective? Doesn't step in front of a speeding truck? Must be intelligent! Can comprehend quantum physics but steps in front of a speeding truck? Boy, what a doofus!
There is a benefit to being dumb, ya know. You don't have nearly as much stuff to worry about. What global warming? What economy? What war? "What am I having for dinner" is about as heavy as it gets. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:18:21 PM | ^ i am one who firlmy believes women prefer dumb men. look around and see the results.
by the way, i like the urinemyway name, lol...that's one small example of demonstrating intelligence provided it wasn't copied from elsewhere. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 4:57:14 PM | I know a guy who's a frustrated scientist. When you have a normal conversation with him he'll start talking about the atomic structure of everything. A cup of tea turns into a long talk on the molecular structure of glucose when you ask if he wants sugar in it.
That's not too wonderful. | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:17:20 PM | I am of two minds on this question...
I am around very very intelligent people almost all the time. (mathematics and engineering and computer science...)...
I know I may sound stupid saying this but... These guys are VERY intelligent. That is a no brainer but as soon as you venture out of their comfort zone of knowledge, they stare at you like a deer in headlights or have the uncanny ability to make you feel like your words are a waste of oxygen... I hope someone gets what I just wrote... Some of them are intelligent and they know it and that is such a turn off...
Anyway... Sooooo, it just seems to me that they may suffer from the "idiot savant" syndrome or a mild form of asperger's... Who knows...
Soooo, I really enjoy having fun and I do not consider myself super intelligent, but I can hold my own and I am good at disciphering the want to be's from the the ones that are.
Anyway.... I do love someone with intelligence but if he has the uncanny ability to become neantherdal in the bedroom or to be proactive if a water pipe bursts or can handle the down to earth problems without giving a lecture on the issue at hand, BONUS POINTS...
Yep, an intelligent man who can become a cave man, tarzan or even batman, would be a man on my wishlist... | |
|
| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/17/2008 6:11:06 PM | | can't blame ya man...i won't date guys who are intelligent cause i feel like a moron around them...i don't even really understand what there saying half the time | |
|
Home
login 
