| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:08:28 PM | Hi L.D. Dating is a social matter,having a nice friendly conversation to know each other, if you want a woman who wants to outsmart you in conversation and make you like a dumb azz you should date a feminist.......... Vannili | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:08:48 PM | is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl?
I thought men outgrew this nonsense by age 22 or so.
Personally, I love intelligent men and I'm not intimidated at all when I meet a man who's more intelligent than I am. They're easy to spot as they stand out among those who think like the OP.
(I know.....I'm not being nice, but how do you expect me to respond to this?) | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:40:38 PM | yes an intelligent women is certain part of the equation for me. that coupled with common sense and a clue is certainly sexy in my books, not the only thing but very important.
If you are a very attractive women, but dumb as an ox, the more you talk the uglier you get to me.....................
Cheers | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/13/2008 7:51:21 PM | | Simple answer...........yes. Reason-----> I don't have to explain things to her, she can figure out quickly that I actually mean what I say, and perhaps she could teach me a few things. And maybe, just maybe she is smart enough to realize that I may be able to repay the favour. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:14:47 PM | Intelligence sure DOES turn me on! And it doesn't have to be in the scientist department, it is best in the "life intelligence" department. If they have been paying attention to how their life has been going down, looking around and observing whether it went well and changing it if it hadn't, then I call that intelligence. And just having a quest to learn and build on what they already have.
I am very attracted to peole who are aware of their world around them and really want to continue growing, not just repeating their days, day after day, after day, after day. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:26:44 PM | | i may have answered this a while back, but it called to me again and the answer for today is "YES". well, it may not draw me in, but it is necessary to sustain me. by this, i don't mean degrees or lots of facts--i guess i am just hoping to me someone "wise". to me, that is a guarantee for emotional security and spiritual connection-- and, that kind of "clicking" opens doors to many different aspects of both physical and mental expression and offers infinite possibilities. dare i to dream? | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:36:20 PM | Yes but there are different forms of intelligence. There are women (and men but I'm male so I'm biased) who have highly mentally intelligent minds but use them deviously because they have stupid closed hearts.
There are not-so-mentally-'intelligent' women who have an intelligent heart and will therefore end up way ahead of the first variety because their course is straight and dealing with them is easy. I sometimes find a complex mental intelligence completely misses the point of everything that underlies everything because the ego gets in the way.
The ego is the mind's way of protecting its inner world but it can be in the business of protecting itself to the point of being completely closed and refuses to open up to another mind.
I have known many a person fail in the working environment I work in, for example, because they are so concerned about proving their intelligence that when they work in an environment full of clever people their minds go to war on everyone and they completely clam up.
Give me a not so mentally intelligent person with an intelligent heart and I guarantee they're more likely to succeed in the long term in almost all situations.
Mental intelligence isn't all it's cracked up to be. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:12:15 PM | I love intelligent men ... very sexy! A definite turn on!
We all have knowledge about something. Don't feel intimidated by her ... listen and learn from her. Your will get the opportunity to impress her with your expertise in your field or topic. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 8/15/2008 3:26:52 PM | Just a small question --- is it normal for a guy to get intimidated by the intelligence of a girl? I dated this really intelligent girl ... felt a bit intimidated. I know it is kind of old school but I did not want to date her again ... frequency mismatch I suppose. Was it foolish of me?
I find intelligence a definite turn on, but it has to be demonstrated in their sense of humour and the ability to make interesting conversation rather than in a superior attitude.
Maybe you just didn't have anything in common, or she just wasn't your type.
However , I think your intimidation was probably caused more by your own lack of self esteem. Having said that, if you felt uncomfortable in her company I think you did the right thing not seeing her again. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 8/15/2008 9:48:39 PM | Intelligence is a wonderful aspect in any relationship. Inspiration or appreciation
of a project or conversation is always another dimension to a conversation.
Don't mean to be talking in rhyme, it is 12:45 a.m. and am getting sleepy, however,
this is a great topic. Neither man or woman should overdo their intelligence, I
feel the perfect combination is having intelligence with knowing you can be humble
as well, and not make the other partner feel inferior. It is wonderful to learn from
each other! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:40:20 AM | | Intelligence is a major turn on to me. I prefer to date career men, which encompasses many types of professions. I just do not do well with men who have had a multiple of low paying jobs and who have no retirement, am not going to take care of him in his old age since I have tried to plan for my future. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 8/16/2008 7:22:48 AM | Couldn't agree with you more, not looking for a man to support, and vice- versa,
as I've also worked hard to be independent.
Intelligence makes the world go around, especially a sharp wit, a great sence
of humour! is a great gift! What a combination! | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:57:52 AM | Intelligence can be further broken down to "street smarts"..."book smarts"...and "common sense".....and of course "emotional intelligence" which without causes MANY relationships of all kinds to fail...
But..."general..overall intelligence" is VERY SEXY"! The largest sex organ of all is THE BRAIN...some just don't know how to use it....  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 9/2/2008 11:17:07 AM | OP- wow... That's really a shame that you felt compelled to stop dating this girl because she had a brain in her head.. *sigh* Really, would you have been more comfortable with a gal to whom you needed to " dumb everything down to" in order to have a simple conversation?
For most people, intelligence is a huge turn on.. someone who is sharp ,focused and quick witted is highly desirable - as the mind is one of the sexist things about a person.. In fact once you get past the visual, the mind can make or break a persons' attraction quotient...
What you did is not "old school".. it just reeks of poor self image and insecurity on your part..
Was it foolish of you to do this? hell yeah  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 9/2/2008 5:53:12 PM | | I think there are degrees to everything. Personally I like smart women. I am not the smartest person in the world but I have a zest for learning new things. If a woman has that same feeling then we would get along fine. But intelligence is not the be all and end all, the heart of the person has equal weight in my book. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 5:05:28 PM | | Intelligence is a 'turn on' but not when it's accompanied by arrogance and a lack of willingness to accept others' points of view. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 5:22:17 PM | Intelligent men are very appealing to me as long as they aren't arrogant about it. I am well educated and has some street smarts, both of which have their time and place in my interactions with others. In the last year or so, I became relationship smart, though, from a man who devised his game, played it well without me having a clue. So, in this realm of intelligence, I continue to grow....
Sometimes, though, some intelligent men that I have met feel the need to flaunt their intelligence which I find quite pompous. So I guess I typically seek men who are confident in their intelligence but not overgenerous in self-promotion.
As someone who is very well educated, well read and well traveled, most of the time people see me and I see myself as quite intelligent. But there are times when I talk to myself after I have done some dumb thing and say, "Self, sometimes you are really stupid." lol. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 6:10:00 PM | Yes it does!
I think the problem with me though is, I want an intelligent man (as I believe I am pretty darn intelligent myself), but I don't want someone who expects to sit around and talk on a subject (politics, religion, abortion, astronomy, etc) for hours at a time. I know about the stuff...but I absolutely HATE getting into these long, drawn-out conversations. It's fine once in a while...but every single day?  | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 6:10:10 PM | | I like to think I have a salt-of-the-earth personality even though I'm a child of the suburbs, so for myself I like a tempered, mature, respectful intelligence. Conversations shouldn't devolve into an intellectual****measuring competition. I do my best to hold myself to the same standard. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 7:12:44 PM |
Does intelligence turn you on?
I think I was born turned on, however lack of intelligence somehow manages to turn me off - and fast. | |
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| Does intelligence turn you on?
Posted: 6/1/2009 7:19:18 PM | I LOVE intelligence.
HOWEVER,
A well-rounded guy is sexier than a Jeopardy champ. Great, interesting facts roll off your tongue, but do you listen to the news? Do you know how to cook? Do you know how to interact with others? Do you have hobbies?
There's a difference between an intelligent man, and a stuffy one who just tries way too hard to impress. | |
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