~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 50 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:24:42 PM |
honestly...IF she'd wow'd you...you woulda remembered.
I don't see that as being necessarily true. First of all, if someone "wows" me, then what I'm a lot more interested in learning about what makes them who they are than I am about simple stats.
If someone wows me...I dont forget their name.
Secondly, if someone gives me their name early on, as most people do, then they simply haven't had time to "wow" me yet.
Well I dont give my first name straight up...and I rarely ask for someone elses until Ive known them awhile...infact only a few forum friends know mine.
I think it's extremely silly to base your entire judgment of a person on their ability to remember one piece of information.
Not basing my judgement of them on it...it simply shows whether *I* have or havent wow'd them...if they wanna and I wanna keep chatting...there's no rules against it.
I think... Im absolutely right.
So because it happened to be true in this one particular case means it's true in every or even a majority of cases?
Yup and there'd be more a shitload more than one piece of information to back it up  | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:32:09 PM |
infact only a few forum friends know mine.
For a moderate fee, I will sell that info.
Maybe I should try to sell it on eBay?
*slaps Kyn's butt*
OT: I forget all kinds of things, but if I am interested in a person I will remember their name.
If they are talking to so many women that they cannot remember my name, I might not be interested in continuing the conversation either.
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 52 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:37:47 PM |
infact only a few forum friends know mine.
For a moderate fee, I will sell that info.
Maybe I should try to sell it on eBay?
*whispers to the world*...
...its a fake...like giving a guy a fake number
*slaps Kyn's butt*
ooo...
OT: I forget all kinds of things, but if I am interested in a person I will remember their name.
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:45:26 PM |
..its a fake...like giving a guy a fake number
*slaps Kyn's butt*
ooo...
Yea yea...thats what I'm talking bout' ladies. 
*Ding ding*
Let the pillow fights and video camera begin...
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:47:54 PM |
...its a fake...like giving a guy a fake number^^^
^^
*wonders how much monies can she make from selling Aussie's phone number*
Wait... what's your name again?
Damn it...there goes my retirement plan.
OT: I am just kidding... I know her name, cuz she's uber-awesome and I love her... and she has a very slappable butt...
I would never do the "test" like the one that lady did... Tests are for school, not for relationship, but I can see why she got upset...
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:00:02 AM | | It's not something I would do (quiz someone on my name like that), but from your description, it sounds like she was bang on - you really weren't that interested in her, and you really were talking to lots of other women, so it winds up being a pretty good indicator of where you are at. So I don't think it is harsh at all because if she is looking for a guy that isn't like that, then it works. I think it is fine for her to choose to date only guys who are genuinely really interested (I think that's a great dating strategy...it seems like the rest are just a waste of time in the end anyway), and guys who aren't chatting up so many women that they can't keep them straight. Sure, it reduces the pool of guys down, but that's fine. It's not a sure fire test of anything, of course, because there will be plenty of guys who know how to use their message history tool in their IM program, so if they do remember her name, it doesn't necessarily mean that they ARE that interested, but the test will at least weed out some guys who aren't. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:23:37 AM |
don't see that as being necessarily true. First of all, if someone "wows" me, then what I'm a lot more interested in learning about what makes them who they are than I am about simple stats. If someone wows me...I dont forget their name.
So because it's true for you, that means it has to be true for everybody?
Not basing my judgement of them on it...it simply shows whether *I* have or havent wow'd them
No, it doesn't. It shows whether they remember your name. I know I've been wowed by people and still can't remember their name for whatever reason. I do try to remember, but it doesn't always happen.
Yup and there'd be more a shitload more than one piece of information to back it up
Uh huh. Whatever. | |
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neiby
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 57 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:56:57 AM |
guys who aren't chatting up so many women that they can't keep them straight.
You're under the wrong impression. It's not like I'm "chatting up" so many women. But there have a been a few that contacted me and I talked to them. You make it sound like I'm the one contacting all these women like a fisherman throwing a hundred hooks into the water. If someone has an interesting profile and wants to talk, I'll talk to them. You make it sound like I'm a player and I kind of resent the implication. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:22:05 AM | I must be a guy because I always forget names. I just ran into "Joe" Wednesday night and after we danced and he asked how I like Missouri how the kids our doing blah blah blah....I called him Jim then John. Oops my bad. Some people are just better at names then others and SOME people are WAY to insecure and need their ego stroked.
Just dont call me another name in bed. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:29:24 AM | OP, it does kind of sound like you're a playah - sorry. Well maybe not so much a playah but one who has lots of lines in the water and is not able to remember who is who. You even admitted this in your opening post. One of the reasons I don't care much for IM is because you can be carrying on multiple conversations at the same time and you can't really give any one conversation your best effort. Personally I prefer to email or talk on the phone.
I think her strategy works for her. No not everyone will remember a person's name but I'm with most of the other women on this. If someone wows me, I'll remember their name-spreadsheet not required.
It sounds like you and the woman in question came up with a solution, so all was not lost. If she's on here, she's probably reading this thread. Wonder what her thoughts are on this.
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:39:42 AM | I think this woman acted very silly. Sounds very imature and it was for sure a game she was playing.
I could care less if the man forgets my name after the first conversation, because I can gaurentee i'd most likely forget his as well. | |
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neiby
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 61 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:40:57 AM |
OP, it does kind of sound like you're a playah - sorry.
That's ridiculous. A handful of people contact me--not the other way around--and I chat with them, and I forget one person's name after one IM conversation. That makes me a "playah"? WTF? Have we got to the point where a person can't have a friendly conversation without being a player? This is just silly.
Let me get this straight:
* If people contact you and you don't respond, you're rude
* If people contact you and you do respond, you're a player
Are those the new rules? | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:49:48 AM | nope cause i forget guys names all the time that are added to my msn lol....
if i only talk to them once in a while on msn i won't even remember where there from  and soon enough take them off my list....every month i add at least 20 new ppl then they usually come of it within that month | |
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neiby
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 63 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:16:40 PM | What makes it even more annoying for me to be called a player is that I'm the anti-player. I'm more like the nice guy who starts those endless nice guy threads. To go from that to being a "playah" is quite a jump! If you actually knew me in real life you'd know how absurd that is.
Besides, I never said that I've been the one contacting these people. I also never said that they're all contacting me from dating sites. Two of them contacted me because of a group I'm involved with and we have common acquaintances. They're friends, nothing more.
And we're just talking about chatting, for crying out loud. Not dating. The prospect of an actual date has yet to even come up with any of them. I'm hardly a player. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:46:28 PM | OP, don't be all mad and annoyed... We don't know you in real life... and we have no idea what kind of person are you (but, please do NOT start nice guy threads... if you want to live, that is).
All we have are your words:
I've been getting IMs from several people over the past week and have had lots of conversations with very similar women. They all seem to have multiple kids of varying ages doing similar activities; a few of them are in school for similar things; several of them share the same types of interests. It's beginning to be hard for me to keep it all straight in my head.
See... that's what made the impression...perhaps you are a player, or maybe you are not.
But, not being able to remember her name certainly created such impression in her eyes.
You may not like the "test"... you may not like her reaction... you may not like her... But, the fact was that you were talking to more people than you can keep track of.
Does not mean that you dated all of them.
You asked how would we react... and you got variety of responses... some women said they would not mind it... others said they would.
No need to get all defensive towards those whose opinion did not agree with your opinion.
This is AskBabes forum, not AgreeWithOP.
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neiby
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 66 | |
| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:00:35 PM | I'm not disagreeing with opinions about the topic I asked about, I'm disagreeing with being called a player. That really annoys me because that's exactly the opposite of who/what I am. I despise players, so I resent being called one.
I responded to IMs from a few other people over a week or so. I had friendly chats with them. I forget ONE person's name and I'm suddenly a player? That just doesn't make any sense.
I will not disagree with anyone's opinion if I ask for it, but I wasn't asking how you felt about me. I was asking how you'd react to a guy forgetting your name after one IM conversation. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:05:37 PM | I met a guy online a while back.... and he made a game out of guessing my name.
One guess per day....
It was cute... it was just one small dimension in the online game in getting to know someone.
Well..... he finally guessed and he was non-plussed.
NON-PLUSSED!! wtf?
I have a nice name damnit!!  I get compliments on it all the time....
*(shhhh Red..... or I'm spilling yours......)
meh.... whatever. He's a very good friend now and you bet he won't forget my name.
Now if only I could remember his..................  | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:45:11 PM |
shhhh Red..... or I'm spilling yours
Don't. Even. Think. About. It. Or. Else...
I have a ManBat and am not afraid to use it.
Although, even if you spill it, OP will forget it...
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:46:31 PM | I agree that this is a bit harsh. It's not like I've never forgotten a name or two, especially after the first contact. However, for future reference, here's a tip to remember someone's name: repeat it after they say it, then try to associate a certain quality that person has with the name. For instance, say outloud, "Brittany with the blonde hair," or something of the sort. You get the picture.
Good luck! | |
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neiby
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Joined: 4/22/2008
Msg: 70 | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:02:53 PM | god! like thats a problem. Thats happened to me many ,many times and i sure
wouldn't be that upset unless I thought we were an item or something. Oh get this ,
a guy i've spoken to a few times blocks me because i was deleting piling up e-mails and his happened to be on there some where and even after I explained it didn't seem to matter . Now wouldn't you say thats an insight into someones personality. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:38:52 PM | I wouldn't care the first time. I mean you were probably so engrossed in the convo. it just slipped.
But if she told you , again and again, and you forgot, You'd be in the doghouse.
I was dating this guy for a bit who ALWAYS called me Joanne. Even though I corrected him... a few times,.
Its Joanna. WITH an A.
I prefer ppl just call me Jo or Jojo. You can't screw that up too badly, although i always introduce with my full name first | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:52:37 PM | | She is definitely playing a game & getting her panties in a wad over nothing. Be glad she got all upset, she sounds like a nut. | |
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| Guy forgets your name after one chat
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:50:30 PM | Like you, I have an atrocious memory for names. Plus I don't like the tone of her "Quiz time!" remark.
You did nothing wrong, you're better off without her. She's just making up bullshyt reasons to reject guys. | |
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