| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:10:13 AM |
(Loz Hunter) Oh goodness that would be a yes then.
If he didnt have anything to hide he wouldnt have minded would he - would he - over to the men on this one.
Funny: when a "man" says that he values his privacy, everyone jumps on him for "having something to hide". So, do you really want to hear what men have to say, or do you just want to TELL us what we SHOULD say?
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:12:34 AM | ~Kyn~ Appears on 61 members favorites lists
Olyman38 Appears on 3 members favorites lists
Hows that working out eh?
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It's working out G-R-E-A-T! I'm surprised you didn't add me, since I agreed with you... Are you nicer to people who don't agree with you? Does this work for you?
I'll bet if I had fake tits I could get more favorites. Right guys? | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:40:06 AM | I probably wouldnt look at my boyfriends phone without asking, but if he said no, yes id think he was hiding something! deep down id know he wouldnt mess me around, and i wouldnt straight away assume he was cheating.. but it would be stange if he got funny with me looking! if he wanted to look at mine, ask, and then yep go ahead cos i have nothing to hide! so id expect the same.
Plus if they fight like this anyway, surley they should end it now.. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:28:32 AM | Since I am the OP-er, let me clear somethings up here.
Yes, they've been dating for 10+ months. Its been an on/off 10+ months. One day they're fine, and cutesy, but the next day, they hate eachother and doesn't want to talk to one another.
Yes, he snatched the phone out of her had afer 4.6 seconds of it being in her little grubby paws, but still. Even if he "realized he has something there", or "wanted privacy", then he should't have handed it over to begin with.
You guys can think all you want that she didn't want to check out the phone's features. But she did. I was there, remember? He had just bought this phone recently. My friend isn't really the jealous type. That is until you give her a reason.
This boy claims he loves my friend. Claims is the key word here. Now my question was "Do you think he has something to hide?". Imagine this was your situation. How would YOU react? | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 11:20:03 AM |
Uhmm, we know what y'all mean when you want to see the phone. First it's the phone then next thing you're moving the litter box into our bathroom. Number one reason all my cell phone does is talk.
It doesn't even hold numbers. If you check it says, refer to black book.
But seriously, he's doing her best friend. She should drop him asap.
Ahem. I am her best friend. And I'm NOT doing him. Ew. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 11:27:55 AM | And in return, she gave him her cell phone and let him poke around on it and see what she's been doing too, right???
Sheesh... not that I have anything to hide, I'd tell her up front I have 2 ex's phone numbers in there, one female friend, and my sister I think... she'd be welcome to check the call history (not like I've talked to the ex's very recently, or often), she'd be welcome to actually call them and talk to them if she wants...
Sounds like, to me anyways, that she already doesn't trust him - if thats the case she needs to either confront the situation and talk it out, or end the relationship - because all its going to do is build her mistrust one way or another if she doesn't *do* something to resolve it. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:14:30 PM | If I had something to hide, I wouldn't keep it on my phone 
Of course, if I had anything to hide that is. My ex snooped through my computer when she was bored, and she freaked out by what she found. No, nothing bad, just things that fed her insecurities and convinced herself that I was only with her until I found someone better. Most of the stuff that bothered her was years old, and I don't generally delete stuff. After all hard drive space is cheap these days 
The ex actually had the nerve to tell me that she should have the right to delete stuff off my computer. Apparently she's threatened by the existence of documents I forgot I had and haven't looked at since I saved them. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 5/27/2008 5:07:10 PM |
(sbnt) Of course, if I had anything to hide that is. My ex snooped through my computer when she was bored, and she freaked out by what she found. No, nothing bad, just things that fed her insecurities and convinced herself that I was only with her until I found someone better. Most of the stuff that bothered her was years old, and I don't generally delete stuff. After all hard drive space is cheap these days
"Listen not at a keyhole, lest ye be vexed." -- someone
Having read this thread, I'm starting to think that writing fictional pornographic documents on my hard-drive/sending myself fictional, and totally smutty, text messages would be a REALLY fun thing to do, and a great way of weeding out the paranoid whack-jobs who like snooping!
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 6/4/2008 2:06:13 PM | It's funny... but I am really attached to my phone. It's an ancient piece of crap (an old Nokia) but it has held up under attack by young children and my slippery paws and still works.
Nowadays, we all have our own phones. I have no house phone. Neither does my ex, my guy, or many of my close female friends IRL. So our phones are attached at the hip. makes for an attachment.
I will gladly let someone use my phone. But looking thru it - that's an invasion of privacy. Like going thru my underwear drawer. Do I have anything to hide from my guy? No. But I would be HUGELY insulted if he started poking thru it looking for something. I'd react, loudly, and take it from him.
And I'd never think to grab his and start poking thru it. Like readin ghis diary.
AND...the thing is, to NOT go thru it is an indication of trust. I trust him, therefore, I'm not going to snoop. And I respect him. And I want the same respect from him.
I don't know if the OPie's friend's bf was cheatin' or not...but I can respect how he feels more than how the friend feels, in this case.
I would also be hugely pissed if he started going thru my purse. One thing for me to say - go get my chapstick out, will ya, and another for him to just snoop on his own. And again, no, I have nothing to hide.
Funny thing is, I am a snooper...curious by nature like the cat. But I respect most ppl's privacy enough not to. (however, I do listen to conversations nearby and I terribly snooped the ex's computer because he *wasn't* trustworthy).
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 6/4/2008 2:30:55 PM | My theory is this. If I feel like I have to snoop through his things then I probably should not be in a relationship with him anyway.
I was married for 16 years. Never felt the need to look through his things until he gave me a reason to. Turned out he was having an affair.
While I feel sorry for your friend and understand her NEED to find out the truth, I can almost guarantee her that it is time to end the relationship. Lack of trust and respect are clues that the relationship has run its course.
I am currently in a relationship where trust and respect is given. I feel no need to look through his phone or personal papers. If I do start feeling that way I know it is time to re-evaluate the relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 1:26:35 PM | Well,
tell your friend to get out now. Hes cheating or trying to behind her back. If you got nothing to hide, then anyone should be able to scan your phone. Hes just afraid she will see what hes been doing when he isnt with her.
GET OUT NOW!!!!!
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/13/2008 1:41:17 PM |
I was married for 16 years. Never felt the need to look through his things until he gave me a reason to. Turned out he was having an affair.
Exactly, graysam - if you feel the need to, chances are there's already something wrong with the relationship. What are your reasons in the first place for lacking trust? There must be something there already, if you feel such a desire to 'pry' into whats on their cell. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/13/2008 1:50:08 PM | | If they fight all the time, as it is, then he is probably on the defensive from the get-go of anything she does and vice versa .. maybe they should reconsider being in such a toxic relationship to begin with? | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/13/2008 1:56:00 PM | | A newish girlfriend of mine left her fone in my car. I found it at work next day..wasnt sure wat to do. Then thought i,d look up her mums number and ring to say i had the fone! Turned it on and there were 3 or 4 messages from "steve", saying miss you , love you! Ok, i shouldnt of gone there...caused a big argument..but my intentions were good!!! We lasted another 2 weeks...lol | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/13/2008 2:02:19 PM |
Ok, i shouldnt of gone there...caused a big argument..but my intentions were good!!!
Usually if you snoop, you end up finding something you end up regretting, even if it happens to be something innocent. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:16:21 PM | She thinks this means he has something to hide. True?
Of course it's true.
However, I feel I should admit that I don't like others to just browse through my phone......and I have NOTHING in it that I can't explain to anyone who'd be looking. | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 7/28/2008 12:23:35 PM | Maybe he did have something to hide...but it sounds like she WAS in fact being nosy. If she doesn't trust him and he has secrets I think it's time for them to call it quits.
Looking through the boyfriend's phone=big no-no | |
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| Freaking out when a girl looks through your cell phone..?
Posted: 8/7/2008 2:05:37 PM | | Having gone through something similar, I would say that he is tryin to hide something. Wether is it something that he wants to be as a good suprise, like a gift or something, or if he is talkin to other ppl in a way that he shouldnt, etc......he is hiding something. If he wasn't, he wouldn't have freaked out that way. He could have politely said something and then took the phone back. My ex did the same thing and he was cheating, that is part of how I busted him. | |
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