| HELP Me get my Ex Back!
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:03:43 PM |
GETTING LAID ?LOL LOOKS GOOD ON YOU HA HA HA
HAHA, not at all! Was just drinking like everyother student would.... | |
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| HELP Me get my Ex Back!
Posted: 5/24/2008 12:44:34 AM | know theres a place for me in her heart. We have chatted but i found out she slept with a guy she had "coffee" with often so i sort of said some mean things. But I'm pretty sure if i take the highroad, that i can get her back.
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Hmm, how much do you drink actually? How many drinks a week? 1-2, 6-14, or more than 14 drinks a week? | |
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| HELP Me get my Ex Back!
Posted: 5/24/2008 1:26:30 AM | | Remember you broke up for a reason and that reason will still be there if you get her back. I had an ex that I wanted back and I got him back but the same problems were there. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 3:10:43 AM | OOPSE!!
Your loss is another mans gain
Leave her alone now - she has done her time with you.
Edit: as always read the posts after making my comment, You like to get drunk, no wonder she stayed at home, get a mate to video you next time you are p*ssed and take a look at you.
When YOU finish a relationship - dont expect the woman to sit and cry, lots of us move on and like what we find, without a drunk for a partner and all that goes with it (not a pretty memory for me I can tell you). | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 4:39:59 AM | Well, why did you say such nasty things over a five month period? The best advise back then would have been, stay away,don't call her, let her be, you didn't. That on top of all that happened during the relationship only compounds the problem and you won't have her back.
Sit down, think about yourself more, think about the relationship. Consider why you now want her back but broke up with her, think about what you did together you enjoyed, and also think about what it was you really didn't like.
Start by not calling or contacting her, give yourself a goal, say four months. During that time, do not date, think about things, but try to from an objective standpoint where you see the good and the bad.
I dated someone for three years, we broke up. Two months later we got back together. It wasn't right from that point on, I finally ended it right before getting married. I realized something interesting, I loved her, but didn't feel as if she loved me and it didn't seem like we really got along, even though we were engaged. She was not a communicator.
Its important to be open to the women you have relationships, share your feelings, express yourself, but take the time to listen and understand them when they share your feelings and express themselves. I went to couples counseling to learn a lot and have to say, many people just don't know how to listen, express themselves, understand their partners, and really know each other.
Love is around the corner, your next love will be much better, consider this past one a learning experience and wish her the best. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 9:10:35 AM |
We have chatted but i found out she slept with a guy she had "coffee" with often.......
Dude, I don't think you have a clue. She is gone like a fast freight train. During the time you were together, she was probably sleeping with not only you, but this "friend" she was having "coffee" with.
If you take her back, and obviously she doesn't want YOU back, but if you did get back together, you would definitely have a huge trust issue. No Trust, No Relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 9:31:49 AM | I laughed out loud at this thread. A for-real laugh, too, not just a "lol".
Mister, guys like you give men a bad name. It was bad enough you broke it off with her, said mean things to her, partied, and then got lonely for something familiar and now you want her back. All the actions of an immature child, really.
And you're justifying a year-long "walkabout" (does that mean "bender" where you come from?) as somehow proving your love? How does travelling to Thailand, of all places, to fulfill your remaining sophomoric hedonistic fantasies prove anything other than an incredible appetite and stamina for being reckless, inebriated, and irresponsible?
Besides all that, you prefaced your request with the points that you guys are complete opposites. Really, what's the point of all this? I'm still laughing about your "walkabout" scheme, by the way.
You need to walk away from all this and grow up. In no way are you mentally prepared to be in a relationship.
And you have NO right to say anything to your former girlfriend about how she spent her time after you dumped her like last night's KFC bucket. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 10:09:03 AM | First you might want to stop shopping if she is the one you really want.
Then you have to be willing to give it your all and accept that you may end up broken hearted and alone.
It would be a lot easier for you if you just moved on. Your choice. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 11:58:14 AM | I agree with the point about you still fishing when you profess such 'devotion'. Aside from this thread, there is no indication in your profile that you are in love and have plans to marry.
Good luck with the Thailand thing... moreso, though, I am glad to hear that she appears to be moving on, and I hope she learns to become a better 'picker', so she doesn't end up being treated rudely too often. I kind of hope this relationship is done and that you have your fun and grow up a little (without damaging anyone else en route) and maybe figure out why when you felt hurt, your place to go was to try to make her hurt too. Does that really work? | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 12:28:44 PM | Wow guys, dont you think you're being a little harsh. People make mistakes.
OP
Have you told her how you feel? | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 12:56:29 PM | Mistakes? Oh, yes, we have those. Like, "Crap, I forgot to get milk at the store."
Kitttty, put yourself in this girl's shoes and tell me you'd forgive these actions. I won't call them mistakes, just for the sake of argument. You get dumped. You're confused and have a fling with a friend, that the ex finds out about, and then demeans you for it. Then 5 months later, he says he wants you back, but after a year-long traipse around the world doing who-knows-what.
You'd forgive the judgement and wait patiently by the door for his return? I say no.
I'm not being harsh, I'm being realistic. If I met a girl who acted this way, I'd learn from the experience, and not waste a second longer of my finite life on something doomed to fail. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 2:14:54 PM | | I must have missed the year part, I didnt see it before. Yeah i think that part is ridiculous. Your probably right. I do feel bad for him though. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 4:15:49 PM | O.P.
I too have made mistakes..but no matter how hard you love someone...you can not make them love you...move on for your sake...not hers... she already has nad is happy that you are gone. Women hold grudges longer than men. They remember minute details that we as men ignore.I know this from expeirince and learned this the hard way.
No matter how much you love her, if she was hurt by you in anyways ( you dumping her ...or doing something to hurt her0 she will remember it even if you are sorry .
First thing you need to do is learn to live alone and not date for a time. get oiver her...If you date and you still have feelings for her you are going to put the kaibosh on getting to know someone new..and they wont give you a second chance. Another thing..Yo're 24...Grow up. There aree other women out there and you know better. Chaulk her up as a lodss and findsome one neew. Treat her the way you intended to treat you ex. If your ex wants you at all... lret her come to you. You seem desperate and lonely to me. No one like s desperate people. They are irationsal and incapable of loving others as they do not love them selves. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 5:20:27 PM | indehills,
He may not have spelled it correctly, but he did get the use of it correctly. To aspire is the strong desire or ambition, as for advancement, honor, etc. the thing so desired. It can also mean a breathing in, as of dust into the lungs.
He aspires to be a lawyer and he has a good start at it. If he's screwed up something and then wants to go back and fix it, he'll be able to fake his way through her jury of one. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 5:31:09 PM | I think you need to come to Las Vegas--I can pretend I'm dying, and we can drink and you can gamble with me until you forget all that's bothering you. (Did you ever think maybe she wasn't quite good enough for you?)  | |
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| HELP Me get my Ex Back!
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:38:32 PM |
, not at all! Was just drinking like everyother student would....
Yeah, and just like your photo #4, light up a big fat one for me next time, too, dude...
Party on, Dude...
Bless your little black soul, if she takes you back...nothing worse then a woman scorned.... | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 10:13:26 PM | | What has changed and what do you plan to do differently? Absence does make the heart grow fonder. But you will still have the same problems unless you have a plan to handle them differently. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 10:40:05 PM | | Why, you are going away, why would she want to deal with you? go away and get your life together . | |
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Posted: 5/24/2008 11:07:01 PM | You want this gal back...Doesnt sound like youve left a lasting impression with her...Maybe a good dose of detox might help ya..
Smoke another one, post those drunkin pics...I appreciate a good drink too but guy look like youve been over doing it...
Clean yourself up , man... | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 1:49:12 AM | Wah-ell...
I actually offered this guy some pretty decent advice in his other thread...
...however...now I read this...
After a year of the new YOU make contact.
You DONT wait a year to make amends with someone...you do it straight away.
You stay in contact with a woman while you prove yourself...you dont leave to do it.
Sheesh...
I'm not sure if it's corny, but I plan on traveling fo a yearish to sort of prove to her how much i want her back. Sort of like a personal walkabout lol.
Un****enbelievable. I mean really...it is. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 5:53:42 AM | I haven't tried calling her do it. Maybe she feels the same way. Whatever you do don't lose your cool, beg for forgiveness, or start the "I can't live without you" sorry ass stuff - it ain't pretty. Just calmly express yourself, apologize for the nasties, but don't dwell on them. Let her say how she really feels, and don't try to change her mind. If it doesn't work out believe me you have given her something to think about. Leave a good impression.
If you get rejected simply move on with the life you want to live. Do what you want to do. Sometime down the road if you still have feelings call her up to wish her a happy birthday, merry christmas, or something like that. Maybe you'll end up talking for hours, maybe it will be one of the most awkward events of your life. Just don't center your life around getting back together with her.
I broke up with the high school/ college girl friend. Almost a decade later I ran into her and we chatted for hours. Funny thing was I came away asking myself what did I see in her. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 6:28:56 AM | Hi Op
A women needs to be feeling secure and safe (never the overpowering type) with love, concern & a trusting concrete relationship.
You broke that trust. Which should be the most import thing in the world when you love some one.
It will never be totally the same even if you did get back.
Sorry. If you love her that much, give her space to move on. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:15:21 AM | | To me, it sounds as if you would get bored again and leave again. | |
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Posted: 5/25/2008 8:55:27 AM | Here is what I find so interesting about people. You are in a relationship with someone, you hurt them, say mean things to them, leave them and then realize whoops I made a mistake and then expect your partner to forgive and forget and move into happy land with you.
I think when you care about someone, you acquire a certain threshold for their particular brand of BS. However, that threshold more than likey has a breaking point, unless of course that person has self-esteem issues, then they will continually take whatever you dish out. I don't know what the situation is with this woman, but she may have reached her limit with you and if you really care about her, you will leave her alone.
However, if there is hope, let me share some of my personal experience with you. I had someone come back who told me he was ready for the kind of relationship I wanted and went on to tell me that he knew exactly what I wanted and was able to give it to me. What was so interesting about this was he expected me to just conveniently forget all of the mean and inconsiderate things he had said and done to me over the years. And you know what, I tried. However, his behavior did not mention his words. He still did hurtful things, he still said mean things and what was more incrediable than anything was he blamed me for not trying to make it work with him. He keep telling me I was scared of my feelings for him, which was not the case at all. What I was scared of was that he had not changed at all and you know he hadn't.
Moral of the story for you? If you really want her back, you need to show her. Not just through words, but through actions as well. You need to be consistent and you need to regain crediability with her, this won't be easy, but if you really want her back you will do it. | |
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