| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:12:23 PM | /quote "There are so many ways to look at this: Is he/she hiding something? Is the person actually employed? Does it really matter? I guess if you are looking at someone's profile and that's the deal breaker for you, then that's on you, not them. "
that is true.. and I should amend my earlier comment... I could care less if they actually list a profession on POF.... my deal breaker is more... I can't see myself dating someone that either does not have a job, depends on the government to pay her bills... (stay at home moms are a different class) ( and yes I realize that there is always extenuating circumstances for everything in life)... | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 52 | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:39:42 PM |
Frankly, my living expenses are not even close to that amount. I like to have a nice home and comfort. And there is nothing wrong with that. The kind of men who would expect me to want less are the kind that I will not be interested in. Call me a 'golddigger' but it's true.
If you like to have a nice home and comfort, then shouldn't you attain those things yourself? If you attain those things yourself, why would it matter what your dates do for a living? | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:46:06 PM | ^^^^
I suppose it wouldn't matter if you're just dating to date and have no intention of ever getting serious with a person. But if you're thinking you might vacation with them at some point, or have them meet your family, or live with them, or even marry them, it matters. Personally, I don't date much because it's kind of a pain. I definitely don't date anyone who I'm fairly certain right off the bat I would never consider marrying, and I wouldn't consider marrying a person who didn't have a profession.
I agree with pretty much what vro312 says, however just out of curiosity....why is being a teacher a deal breaker?
I was kidding about the teacher thing.  | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:49:12 PM | I would report them to the authorities PRONTO!!!
A senate investigation should begin IMMEDIATELY!!!
Could well be a terrorist, enemy from a evil planet, devil-worshiper...
cattle rustler, grave robber.....the list is endless
....there is NO end to the FEAR
this should cause one....
Isn't there a LAW against such wicked behaviour???
If not, there should BE!! | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:33:35 PM |
If you like to have a nice home and comfort, ...then shouldn't you attain those things yourself?
Having these things already means just that. I have that now.
If you attain those things yourself, why would it matter what your dates do for a living?
IT matters a lot to me, if a man I am supposed to take seriously does not also want these things, then I would feel very resentful and grow bored with him. That's why. There is nothing fun, romantic or even interesting about being poor, living without knowing where the next meal would come from, or a home to live in. If a man does not seriously care about these things (as I do) then that is definitely not the right man for me. And I would be fooling myself in thinking otherwise. I know myself well enough to know that. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:33:27 PM |
What if you are young and retired, like I will be next year. That is not a profession. I don't want to put retired in that slot, why because many women have stated that they will only date someone with a job, how silly can you some of you women be
Just silly enough to not date a guy who's retired at 45. While I'm working, I want to be with someone who is working. For me, work is about more than income, though it's certainly about income as well. Forty-five seems awfully early to stop working. And if you were planning on doing something else after you retire, I imagine you could just say you do that something else.
Most of these silly women have already said they don't care if the profession isn't listed on the profile; they just want to know what it is before they meet a man.
Besides, retired women would probably be happy to be with a retired man, so why *not* just say you're retired if you're retired? Retired women also tend to be more mature . . . and therefore probably less "silly." | |
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LCB07
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Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 66 | |
| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:59:18 PM | I'm not sure I get why it's important to list a profession here, as long as they have one. I'm vague about mine on here until I'm asked because it's not easy to explain and is better left for an email or phone conversation.
I have this in my profile..I don't care what you do...as long as it makes you somewhat happy. We spend too much of our lives working to not like what we do. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:07:56 PM |
does that mean you prefer to be with someone who is irresponsible with money?
No . . . it means what I said it means . . . While I am working, I would rather *be* with someone who is working. I like working and I like my job; I will do best in a relationship with someone who also likes working and likes his job. In my own opinion, which does not need to agree with anyone else's opinion, 45 is too early to stop working.
I'm not sure how you came to your conclusion considering the posts I have made in this thread. If anything, I have made it ridiculously clear that responsibility is one of THE primary traits I look for. So the answer to your question would be no.
However, I do prefer to be with someone who has functional reading comprehension skills.  | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:33:31 PM | For me, it doesn't matter whether someone posts their profession or not, but I would like to know a person's profession before I meet them. If it's not posted and they don't choose to share it with me before the first meeting, then it seems as if they have something to hide. Our career choices do reflect some on who we are and I would like to know as much about the man I choose to meet before I meet him.
This question was bound to open this can of worms...golddiggers. Now, for those men who think women are golddiggers...yes, some are, but so are some men. I think that most women want a man who makes at least as much money as they do. Isn't that what men want, too? No matter what, money will be an "issue" when it comes to relationships. It's unavoidable. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:42:18 PM |
In my own opinion, which does not need to agree with anyone else's opinion, 45 is too early to stop working
ok, so you state an opinion but keep avoiding the reason why. an opinion is not a reason. what is the basis? beacuse you have to work a guy also has to, in a regular job? if the guy is working at home would it matter? suppose he opts to work more some days and less others? does it matter? I take it it's the beign at home that bothers you? please, let's hear it! If a guy is not worknig a regular job it does not necessairly mean he's still not contributing in life somehow. If the guy is busy writing a book for examlpe, that wouldn't be good because his hours would be hard to define?
some women just can't be happy!
if dinenrs are prepared for her, garbage taken out, trees pruned, gardne tended to, everything in the house is fixed for FREE, the laundry is done, and THE GUY is still working at home, it's not good enough!
WOW! Now I'll hear "but i view myself as a female, even though historically women were not in the workforce to the extent as now, but I still want to be the homemaker and if a man does much of the work, it'd hurt my identity as a woman,"
How about being respsonsible and instead of spending so much, try saving so you can be retired at an early age. Must I give a course on how it can be achieved? It's so simple: spend on waht's needed. No budgeting needed. Avoid all fees. But it seems the average person prefers to live the high life so they need to keep working and can't handle it if someone else figured the way to make use of their time on this planet much earlier. Shame on them for thinking!!! Shame on them!!! | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:53:19 PM |
Sewer plant sludge collector...
Streetside garbage can emptier...
Dead animal pick-up dude...
Septic tank pumper...
Equpiment operator at local landfill...
I could go on, but my point is they all provide a service we all need and someone should not be judged on what they do to earn a living...
Amen, these are the guys that make civilized life livable.  | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 10:49:24 PM | ok, so you state an opinion but keep avoiding the reason why. an opinion is not a reason. what is the basis? beacuse you have to work a guy also has to, in a regular job? if the guy is working at home would it matter? suppose he opts to work more some days and less others? does it matter? I take it it's the beign at home that bothers you? please, let's hear it! If a guy is not worknig a regular job it does not necessairly mean he's still not contributing in life somehow. If the guy is busy writing a book for examlpe, that wouldn't be good because his hours would be hard to define?
Dude. Chilax. I'm not avoiding anything. And I think I did say why--I like working, and I want to be with someone who likes working. I didn't specify what kind of work, or how much work, or what kind of hours go into the work, or where the work is conducted; I just said that I want to be with someone who works.
Sounds like this is a sensitive issue for you. Clearly my comments have hurt your feelings, and I apologize for that. They definitely weren't personal. Even if I am, as you seem to think, making some sort of grave error in judgment, I can't imagine why it would provoke such an emotional reaction from you. If you don't like women like me, avoid women like me.
It seems to me that if one is working, one would not have a hard time saying what kind of work one does--that's all this was about. The guy said he was retiring and didn't want to put "retired" as his profession, which sounded like he didn't plan on working--because, of course, if he did plan on working, he could just say he does whatever it is he does, even if he does it inside the home.
WOW! Now I'll hear "but i view myself as a female, even though historically women were not in the workforce to the extent as now, but I still want to be the homemaker and if a man does much of the work, it'd hurt my identity as a woman,"
I'm not sure how you drew the conclusion that this would be something I might say--I don't speak or think this way. I never said anything about homemaking, and I see nothing in any of my posts or in my profile that might lead one to believe I would begin making comments about my identity as a woman. I'm quite secure in my identity and it isn't impacted by the behavior of others. I actually think very little about homemaking. I have no offspring and probably never will. And I love to share work.
How about being respsonsible and instead of spending so much, try saving so you can be retired at an early age. Must I give a course on how it can be achieved? It's so simple: spend on waht's needed. No budgeting needed. Avoid all fees. But it seems the average person prefers to live the high life so they need to keep working and can't handle it if someone else figured the way to make use of their time on this planet much earlier. Shame on them for thinking!!! Shame on them!!!
How do you know I haven't achieved that already? I wasn't talking about earning money, I was talking about working. For me, 45 is too young to stop working. I live no high life, I've planned quite well, and I actually have the option myself of retiring early. I just don't want to. I want to work. And I want to be with someone who works. I have seen people stop working at an early age for various reasons, and although some of them were financially secure, none of them seemed to me to be particularly happy. They seemed to lack purpose. In fact, one of them just called me tonight. He's always looking for something to do, and I always wonder why he didn't just keep working so he's not so bored all the time. So my experience and background has led me to the conclusion that for me and anyone I'm with, it's best to continue working.
some women just can't be happy!
I agree. And some men can't be happy, and it's sad. I myself am quite happy. You, however, don't sound so happy.  | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:19:44 PM | | you don't want to date a loser...if anyone cares half bad about what they do and they're making a living then they should and would tell you. don't except anything less, even if they make 7 dollars an hour. don't be a fool in this....a guy should work as well as the woman and if he can't commit to making a dollar he can't commit to......you!!!!! | |
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