| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/24/2008 11:38:48 PM | i started to read a response a couple posts earlier and gave up. i hear some sort of excuses of a weak explanation.
i'll see if i catch the drift from her: so if a guy worked, and there was no care about where or how much, how about 5 hours in an entire year? or is that not enough with the new definition so the definition has to be revised. sound like government with lousy legislation.
basically then, it does not matter if a guy worked or not in all practicality if the woman wants him to work, for he could decide if he works a minute a year that would satisfy the definition and all would be fine?
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I really think a certain person just can't handle that someone else figured out how to beat the rat race.
Just be happy the guy decided to be responsible so you'd never have to be concerned about him taking you for a ride, unless women prefer a guy who can't make ends meet so she gets the opportunity of lending him money and so when they break up and he still can't stay out of debt in spite of earning money, she'll be complaining how he hasn't paid her off. yeah, that's the more exciting life alright! | |
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vro312
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 12:14:11 AM |
As I peruse the profiles I notice that some men have nothing written in their Profession option. It just makes me wonder if they are employed or not. Would that make a difference for men/women?
Why would someone not write in that option whether they have either a job or profession?
I once saw a thread about Dating and being unemployed. But the question is about the profile.
Why don't women post their bra size in their profiles? Would that make a difference to men?
Maybe they just don't want to be pre-judged by what they do for a living, so they leave it blank to make it a later topic of conversation.
But, hah hah! You showed them. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 12:23:40 AM | I would and I have dated someone who didn't have their profession listed , for privacy reasons.
Heck I should have kept mine under wraps, woulda spared me the trauma of a few disgusting role play offers... ahh well lesson learned.
Theres a difference between not having a job and not putting the details out there for the masses to see.
The one I can't figure out is the ones who put "prefer not to say" under the have children section, that raises flags for me more than the missing info on the profession line does... | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:15:21 AM | | I see from some of your replies that you think name calling is imature, yet you call me an ignorant person. I have not mis-interpreted your question because from some of the comments from others they have more or less the same answers as me. There are people who want people for who they are and not what they do. yes there could be people who would rather not work, but you can soon find out these things when you start to communicate. you could meet an architect who wants for nothing but is single because he is a self centered, egotistical, shallow moron. From some of the things I have read from other people, it is not important to put what profession you do, thats all I meant. all one person put was that she has a profession, would it matter what it was? You should not ask questions if you are not prepared to accept peoples views and comments. I am not so shallow as to date only people who have put what they do for a living. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:43:27 AM | vro312; Glad you gave me some insight to your personality. I posed this question because I knew the exact response it would generate from you and worded it directly to coincide with your beliefs that what is normal for you must be the norm for everyone else. You are a me person and cannot see outside of your box. And you really gave no thought to this question, just by the way your response is worded. You are what we call a societal person in other words your are institutionalized to act in a certain manner because everyone around you, are just like you. Your friends that sit around home and have nothing to do would be doing the same thing even if they were working, they would come home and sit around. My mind and body does not sit idle like your friends. There is so much more to life than work, you just can't see it because your are trapped with the fact that you will have to work probably into your 60's. I am living , while you are working to live.  | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:13:21 AM | | The fact is that MOST (not all) women have a sense of entitlement and think men owe them. And that's after they cleaned out the first few husbands in divorce court, then have the nerve to say how hard they worked for everything. OK, maybe I don't really believe that, but the way women act sometimes lends credibility to this theory, and often, the louder someone screams "foul" the deeper the guilt. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 7:32:17 AM |
You are what we call a societal person... Cop talk My dad was a cop, that was his 2nd job. He worked for the Burbank police as a Sargent to work his way through medical school, while he worked as an x-ray tech in a hospital. So he had 2 jobs. This was when I was a child. He also worked as a reserve police officer in the San Bernardino Sheriff's dept. while he had his own medical practice. So you see, I am used to men who work a lot, as that is my experience growing up. My father set the example. And he is still working in a hospital. He has always worked.....a lot. I really admire men who are hard-working. It shows strength, mental fortitude, not to mention stability. I am only attracted to man who work. I see nothing.... I mean nothing attractive about a man who does not work.
For me, men who work are normal, while men who don't are not normal. To me that is.
But hey, all of the women (and men) who are into not having money to live, go ahead. If you like that, then go right ahead. It just isn't for me.
<div class='quote'>...comments from others they have more or less the same answers as me. REally, ? .... | |
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vro312
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 8:52:24 AM |
You are a me person and cannot see outside of your box. And you really gave no thought to this question, just by the way your response is worded. You are what we call a societal person in other words your are institutionalized to act in a certain manner because everyone around you, are just like you.
Hmmmm . . . this lacks logic.
Why do you guys get so emotional when I say I'd rather be with someone who works? What's the big deal? There are plenty of women who don't mind if someone doesn't work . . . , why do you care so much that I *do* mind? Like I've said to death, it's not about money, it's about purpose. I would rather be with someone who is engaged in some sort of profession.
But for the sake of ending this irrational banter: You're right . . . I'm a bad person because I want to be with someone who works. I deserve to suffer. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:05:45 AM | Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Yes.
There could be any number of reasons a person hasn't listed anything in that space.
-they just don't feel it's important
-they have a career that can not be described easilly in a limited space
-they have a career which traditionally attracts gold-diggers, and they're trying to avoid them
-they may have a job which is considered by some to be demeaning
-they just never bothered filling in that space
-they wish for some privacy, and don't care to publicly broadcast their type of employment, or the name of their employer to the entire internet
-they'd rather let people get to know their personality first. Rather than be judged immediately by people's pre-concieved notions about a person's career
-the list of possible reasons could be endless
Why would someone not write in that option whether they have either a job or profession? Why would you not bother getting to know someone, and as you get to know them you'll learn what they do for a living??? | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:13:44 AM | this is all so silly.
even if a woman can't figure out if a man "works" he likely does somehow, if it's trying to study chess openings (that's work), making computer programs (again it's work), to helping people cut trees for free since no more money is really necessary to live a decent lifetstyle (this is work), conducting scientific experiements at home for possible adaptation for society (work again).
But to a woman who has blinders on, none of the above is work. If she can't figure out how to save money to get INDEPENDENCE she has to make certain that she's with an equal knucklebrain who has to slave to life a high lifestyle. very sad. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:52:59 AM |
One would think that with your bachelors degree, that you would have possibly found a paying job by now.
You would THINK...however, I have known people with those degrees and HIGHER to be on extended unemployment, some 6 months, others a couple of years, and had no choice to take some min. wage job to keep the bills paid (barely)
Considering the state of the ecomony and being those people who send out resume after resume to every position known to man, regardless people don't even get called in for an interview.
I have known people who went jobless to the point where they had to RE-mortage their homes or sell them altogether and just get a cheap apartment. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:13:49 AM | Okay, here is a generalization to consider:
1. Women are drawn to security.
Security involves a man with a purpose and a man who can take care of himself . What's wrong with that? Shouldn't men want the same in women? I have a purpose and I can take care of myself, and I expect the same from a mate. If he doesn't have a job, fine, but he should have some goals in life and not be sitting around watching soaps all day. However, he must have a source of income other than ME. To me, that's security and that's hot! | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:28:23 AM | Security involves a man with a purpose and a man who can take care of himself . What's wrong with that? Nothing's wrong with that.
But....
this thread was asking specifically why guys don't list a profession on their profile (at least that's what I think it's about. Kinda hard to tell by reading the last page or so)
If a guy doesn't have a anything listed for a profession, you don't actually know, based on his non-response to one question, that he's unable to provide security. You're just making a huge, unfounded assumption that he can't provide it.
He may have left that field blank for one of many possible reasons. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 11:45:36 AM | I met someone on POF who would not tell me in my message what his profession was and when we got around to IMing he still would not tell me for security reasons. He called me and told me what he does and he had a valid reason for not wanting it to be public information. Had he not called and given me the information I would have probably assumed the worst and written him off. So we must be careful of judging too quickly.  | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 1:43:23 PM |
...and had no choice to take some min. wage job to keep the bills paid (barely)
Exactly. This is kind of the point (of the arguing I guess). Nevertheless, I was just wanting to start a thread and see where it went. I have had minimum wage jobs while in the first couple years of college. Before that I had no computer skills, but now have. Even then, I wanted to work full-time, keep my own roof over my head and be able to pay for a car, rent, food, utilities. There is no way that a person in Orange county, where I live, could survive the way that some people do. And then to expect a woman to want to date them....... Hell, even the people who can't speak English from another country can find work. But an adult man with a bachelors degree can't? Nope. I may sound as if I am ranting. But I really think it's unfair when some people claim to have a 'condition' that is supposed to be mental illness, and then get a check from the government every month to live. While everyone who works goes to work, and are the taxpayers who are the ones who pay for those 'mental' people who sit around doing who knows what, and calling it 'work'! | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 1:53:34 PM |
Only a woman would care about what job you have and how much money you make...they need that information to know how much money they have to spend
You think so, thetruth1? When I had "attorney" posted as my profession, I got alot of questions from divorces about child support and custody. Some things are more important than money...like legal advice...or someone who will listen to your kvetching. | |
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