LCB07
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Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 101 | |
| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 5/25/2008 4:29:14 PM |
The fact is that MOST (not all) women have a sense of entitlement and think men owe them. And that's after they cleaned out the first few husbands in divorce court, then have the nerve to say how hard they worked for everything. OK, maybe I don't really believe that, but the way women act sometimes lends credibility to this theory, and often, the louder someone screams "foul" the deeper the guilt.
Okay....I resent this. A few have posted similar. Seriously. I know you're saying not all women are like this, but still I resent your statement. Out of all the women I know, only ONE is interested in how much her SO makes....the rest don't care as long as the man can support himself. I'd love to think myself and my female friends and family are extra special, which in some ways of course we are, but really, we're not. Sure there are some gold diggers, but most of us just seem to want partners who work or have worked as hard as we do/have. There's nothing wrong with that. | |
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jani1
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Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 103 | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:16:09 AM | I would not judge someone if they did not have there profession on their profile. Maybe they make a lot of money and do not want men or women to contact them just because of that. Maybe they are a criminal defense attorney and do not want judgments from people for helping alleged criminals out of prison. Maybe they have a job like the FBI, CIA or something and it is on a need to know basis? Maybe they live on a trust fund and are rich but do not work? Maybe they are disabled and cannot work and do not want others to judge them based on that. Could be a lot of reasons so best not to assume someone is a jobless bum if they do not have their profession listed. What are they suppose to write, cannot work right now, I have cancer?
~Carrie | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:26:53 AM | | I met a guy on here that said he had his own business about 3 months ago, well it turned out he had no car, due to dwi's no lisence no job and no money and lived with his mother. Three months later hes still in the same situation, so why do men like this post a profile on here when they cant afford to go out of the house? lol Cant even afford to go on a date lol | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 110 | |
| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:41:38 AM | I haven't seen this answer come up yet in the thread...apologies if it has, and I missed it. I do want to know (sooner rather than later) about the profession, but not because I'm after his money or I need security. I'm doing pretty well in those areas already. I like to know because it's very interesting to talk about our respective jobs. If his profession is similar to mine, we can compare experiences. If his profession is very different from mine, I look forward to learning much more about an area about which I may know nothing.
Are any other women like-minded when it comes to knowing more about the man's profession? As I said, I think it's interesting to visit about jobs and careers.
Hmmm. On second thought, maybe that's why I don't get too many dates -- I'm talking about work and I must be really boring to visit with!   | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:38:39 PM | My profession on here I changed to make what I do a bit more vauge.
When I had my EXACT job on here, I had some women want to date me because of a stereotype about my job, and also had some who would reply to my email with "I don't date 'you people'".
I think some women use the profession as a "screening tool" to meet income criteria. Back home, I could not get a date for the life of me. Once I graduated college and got the job I have now, all of a sudden the girls who only wanted the "hot jock stud muffin" (their words, not mine) in HS and College, all of a sudden developed a liking for the guy who was untouchable back then. I didn't change, just my job did. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:40:38 PM | filling in "profession" is a screening tool, just like a pic, or age, or location. it SUGGESTS common interests, education, attitudes. for example, "real estate developer" is an instant red flag that i would probably disagree with this person's world view and politics. now before all the real estate developers out there rip me a new one, i'm just using that as an example of choices i make when i read profiles. after all, what people post on their profiles is all we have to go on to decide whether that person interests us or not. what we do for a living says something about who we are. and we ALL screen profiles, so the more info, the better. the other point is, i pay my own way and definitely expect a man to do the same. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:50:24 PM | I'm sorry I've'picked on you' ........ you were just the latest response.
I refer to the 'question' and have to ask whether anyone could/should 'date' someone they know little about.
I'm 'choosy' ........ not 'desperate' to date/form a long-term relationship ........ quite 'happy' on my own.
Let's be 'honest' ....... what we are really 'talking about' is income.
Well guys ...... I'm very sorry ..... but I am not prepared to 'Mother' you ....... I am not prepared to cook your meals/do your washing/clean the house .......... and 'work' full-time. Get 'real'. What does a 'housekeeper cost'? | |
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jani1
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Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 114 | |
| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 6:05:10 PM | | Basically I dont want anything financially from the guy and I dont want him to want anything from me financially either. He has to pay his own bills and be a grown up. So he has to have an income. The more "Prefer not to say's" and blanks I see on the profile, the less willing I am to bother. Why hide things? Why should I dig out everything out of the person? I say who I am, so please say who you are. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:34:41 PM | Would I date someone who had no information in their profile for profession? I would talk to them sure, but I want to know if a person who is a "potential" relationship partner can at least support themselves. You might be surprised at how many 40 something men still live at home with mom, work part time at the pizza joint, has no car, and runs down to Kinko's to use the computer.... Seriously! I've worked very hard all my life to provide for my family and have reached a point where we are very comfortable. I have no intention of getting involved with anyone who can't contribute...sorry!
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/3/2008 4:29:20 AM | Yes Kalidor,, I think you might have hit a nail with that one..
It seems that there are a lot of gal's that don't have anything to bring to the table but want a man that has everything.
Whats it cost to keep a place to live??
Is it rent or a payment?
If a man or woman supplies the place to live then the other one should supply most of the other things..
That would seem fair to me..
What if a person has the place to live and it's paid off? " no more payments".
Should the other person just move in and live off of the other persons previous hard work?
This is what so many women I have met seem to want..
No free rides here!!! | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 6/3/2008 4:45:03 AM | I don't assume that someone has no profession when they have chosen to leave that blank. Despite the male identity being tied to the profession in general more than women, many men do not want to be categorized by their occupation.
Some professionals, doctors, lawyers, believe and in some cases accurately so, that their profession produces a mental ka-ching in readers. Others may cling to the truly antiquated notion that their profession is viewed unfavorably although it seems to me that skilled tradesman are much more respected than they were several decades ago in comparison to degreed professionals.
I agree with Zeeba as well, the profession may bring up commonalities or provide an opportunity for learning new things. To me, the profession is just a component of who someone is because most spend many hours each week working so while it is something that I want to know about in getting to know the individual, a blank spot on the profile does not raise red flags.
I also agree with the ladies relative to the profession mattering financially from the standpoint that I want a man that can walk beside me and take care of himself just as I do. It cracks me up, my X likes to suggest that I and other women want men that are bums; yes, that is correct, myself and the others have become stupid and want a guy who sits on his ass while we work and collect child support yada, yada, um not so much. | |
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| Professions~ Would You Date Someone Who Has No Info in Their Profile for a PRofession?
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:59:28 AM | Excuse me ........ but exactly where are you coming from? It seems to me a bucketful of resentment. The fact is ..... if you didn't deserve you wouldn't have gotten!
Even these days ....... yes ....... even these days ......... in general women are paid substantially less for an equal job ........ Condellica Rice(?) is simply a dream to most women regardless of education.........and I wonder if she is paid the same as her 'male' counterpart.
Most women have to deal with supporting the first child ....... their partner .......whilst developing their own careers/raising children ........and guess who takes the lion's share of domesticity/raising children ...... without complaint.
I'm afraid I'm not one of these saints. I never was a fool. | |
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