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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:32:15 PM | I am more of a solo person. I have always been that way all my life. I have a small group of friends I hang out with but I never like hanging out with large groups of people. Well maybe that isn't true, do concerts count as a large group?
I can be social when I feel like it or when I feel like causing trouble.  | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:00:01 AM | | I've always been a bit of a loner, but that only goes so far. No one is an island, so obviously companionship is a need that brings most of us here :] Even so, however, I usually prefer one-to-one interactions instead of social events. | |
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Mizzi
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Joined: 5/2/2008
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:26:47 AM | Grew up in a big family and had lots of friends at school but as I have got older they have dwindled. Concentrated on bringing up my daughter and gave relationships a wide berth. Now I have a couple of close friends and my family but thats all.... So a loner I am.... x | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:29:16 PM | There are different ways to answer this question, so here goes.
I'm not the "run with the pack" type of guy at all. I could care less if people accept me, love me, hate me, I'm my own man period and stand for what I feel. I don't need to be around other people and do quite well being alone much of the time. I have to say though also that, that does not mean that I would not enjoy having someone in my life, but in general terms, I don't ever feel the desire to have to hang around a group of people. If I find that one woman that is the right one for me, that will be all the social interation that I really would ever desire. I'm actually very social, but very social with one other person is what I'm happy with.
It helps also that I see beauty in everyday things. I'm never bored and so being alone is not a boring thing to me. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:03:55 PM | I'm either extremely outgoing and social or really closed off and solitary depending on what mood I am in. If I do feel like being around people, I like to join them where they are on my own so I can quickly exit when I've had enough of it. I absolutely hate throwing parties and having get togethers cause it's harder to throw people out than it is to leave.
I guess I sort of like/crave an equal amount of both in unspecified amounts... | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:50:56 PM | | 6 months out of the year I live in a camp in Afghanistan with 100 other guys. When Im home I like to have my selfish and alone time. Im not antisocial by any means, but its nice to do things alone when you want. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:58:25 PM | | I'm solitary, very. i dont like busy places and crowds and tend to enjoy private time : but doing as others do, fishing, movies, music, reading, relaxing around the house, walking in the woods, swimming in the lake/beach, running my hound, teasing my cats. I also enjoy dining out, going to the mall, or visiting, especially on a slow day or weekend. | |
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Naamah
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:48:06 PM | I think humans generally do have a need for interaction with other humans. Even those who say they are solitary are choosing to spend some of their time here on a forum, engaging in communication with other humans in what is essentially a social context. But I also think that humans have an inbuilt need for solitude, at times.
Reading this thread it seems that everyone wants a bit of both even if the balance varies between individuals...we all want some interaction, and some time out. I tend to think that the more important aspect for each of us is that we need to feel as if we have the ultimate say in when we do and don't interact. Few people like being stuck in a crowd when they don't want to be there. Few people like being totally alone when it's not of their choosing. Really I think the important bit for our individual sanity, is knowing we can choose either, at any given time, depending on how we feel at that point.
Maybe we mostly crave whichever one we feel we are most lacking? The serenity of yours being the only footprints in the sand at a beach, the peace of gazing over a natural landscape where there is no visible sign of humanity, the sense of being totally free from the presence and impact of others...might sound really appealing to you if you're finding it hard to get that sense of solitude in your life. But if you feel isolated and lonely in your life, then those images may well sound quite desolate.
My guess is that we are genetically programmed to enjoy being a significant part of a small social group, which would by its nature allow us some time out when we felt like it. But the way humans have populated and developed and expanded means that we are all now far more trapped in a sea of humanity (we're everywhere, we're everywhere) that leaves many of us craving something more intimate. I bought a small rural acreage some years ago...my little piece of the planet...where ducks outnumber humans ten to one. But I do sometimes get the urge to go and be part of what's going on outside my gate, where ducks are fewer and humans are more plentiful, knowing I can come back here again when I'm done. I like both, as long as neither one feels forced upon me. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:42:30 PM | I'm a total loner, I've been one my entire life though, there was a time in college when I was part of a large group of friends we had to take several cars to meet up somewhere. That's really the only time in my life it's been like that. Then everyone kind of grew apart as life progressed. It's really hard to date when you're like this, lol!!!   | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/4/2008 5:16:44 PM | | im a solitary creature but for some reason i feel the need to interact with others from time to time however seeing how i get treated when im trying to be respectful when introducing myself to ladies on this site i might just go back into my shell | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/4/2008 6:02:55 PM | | Human beings are the most socially complex of creatures...I think it has never been so comfortable to be a single individual ( for both sexes) and to enjoy our western way of life ...as it stands now!? | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:56:36 PM | Like most everyone I am split, about 70/30 alone to social, I like my alone time. I grew up with a large family and helped take care of them until I was in my mid twenties, and this is my time now. but every month I start to go out more. but when I was younger I was a very social creature, and with age I have slowed down. but I feel a second wind about.. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/6/2008 8:09:28 PM | | Because I am innately friendly and helpful, I attract a fair number of people and often end up in charge of group things. However, I seem to enjoy thinking more than the average bear and even there isn't a certain level of thought present, I'm sidling towards the door. I have enough important relationships that I don't have adequate time for that it doesn't seem like divvying up things in smaller chunks is the way to go. Intellectually, I am VERY much the lone wolf because Is imply can't be bothered to steer around other's opinions and preferences... gentle and patient yes... but not guided by others. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:55:25 PM | "Lone Wolf" always have been and always will be:
There aint no man gonna invade my territory there aint nobody out there gonna mess with me because I'm big and hard and battlescarred and getting long in the tooth desperate and hungry and got nothing to loose.
Yeah I'm a lone wolf I've been chased and I've been bit.yeah I'm a lone wolf.They like to shoot at me but they miss.
Yeah I'm a lone wolf and I ain't never been trapped, and God help the people that think they got me cornered at last.
I've been hunting.I've been tracking. I've been running since I was 3,born in Louisiana Swamp,moved with the pack to Tennessee.
Raised by black and white dogs to some country,some rock-n-roll. They said now boy your gonna have to quit your houlling so.
Staying up all night and chasing Lassies by the moon laying up all day on the porch playing guitar tunes.
Yeah I'm a lone wolf and I no longer run with the pack.Yeah I am a lone wolf.I don't ever look back.
Hey I am a lone wolf out here on the prowl and most of us have been penned up but I'm still running wild.
Hey I'm a lone wolf.I've been chased and I've been bit.Yeah I am a lone wolf this ole dog knows all the tricks.
Hey I'm a lone wolf.Still hungry and I'm on the prowl, and most of us have been penned up but Bocephus is running wild.
You better watch out because I'm hungry and I'm on the prowl.
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/8/2008 8:33:10 AM | I'm a loner. I'm good with individuals, but more than two people that I don't know well and my social circuits start smoking. As a result of not being able to handle social situations well, and the continual failure that they breed, I've learned to spend my time alone. I enjoy it, at least.
The only thing about it that sucks as a guy is that when you meet a girl, all is well until you meet her friends. Then you're thrown into the water like a bloody arm into a circle of sharks and all you are is ripped to shreds, in silent glances and knowing sighs. Every. Freaking. Time.
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:04:09 PM | I have a very gregarious personality.. I love to be the center of attention and I am usually the life of the party. But I have been alone for so long that I don't tolerate physically living in close proximity to other people. When I moved in with a room mate 4 years ago it was a major adjustment for me..and still is..
I expect if I ever re-marry which is my desire I am going to have to have a man who understands that I need my space from time to time.. hopefully he will be similar to me.
I also don't know how I would tolerate family being in my business alot if I were to marry someone who is close to his family because although we love each other in my family we stay out of each other's lives unless there is an emergency. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/13/2008 4:58:30 PM | I think with so much of the developed world using the internet -and having it in their homes- we've become a society of solitary people.
I'm definately someone who needs lots of alone time, and in regards to socializing, I prefer one-to-one rather than a group. But I do like to go out and socialize occasionally and I prefer a large group of people I can ~disappear~ into rather than a small group. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/14/2008 7:39:23 AM | | I'm a loner by nature. At home, there is a pack of 2, me and my dog. If a man is going to fit into this equation, he'd better like dogs. | |
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| Are you a pack or a soliatary creature?
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:31:36 AM | | As naamah lays out above, the balance point between solitary and group orientation differs amongst individuals. My own experience is that it also changes through time. I used to be intensely solitary, couldn't stand crowds, even the thought of going to the mall was chilling. Now as I age and become more mellow, I find myself enjoying group activities as much as the solitary ones. Once my last child leaves home, I'm even considering selling the house and moving to a downtown condo. Strange how a life changes through time. | |
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| Are you a pack or a solitary creature?
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:52:54 AM | Can the young Bear turn into the old Wolf?
The older I get the more detached from and the less I have to say about most things.
I used to like to argue and debate. Now I can't be bothered, which leaves twice as much time for reading!
I used to talk about my work in my "normal" life. Now I rarely mention it.
I used to party like a Bear. Now the Wolf watches, saying little.
While I know many people and can get along with most, I count few as true friends.
I used to talk a lot. Now I listen more. One mouth - two ears.
Life is about the smiles.
Now I can slip on The Bear costume for "command performances" (read "work" here) and yet really am the Wolf in Bears' clothing :) | |
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