| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/29/2008 3:48:23 PM | | I prefer to date Men that have no children mainly because mine are grown, I raised them already, so why would I want to deal with someone else's kids and there ex when I don't have that in my own life... I feel like this is my time now and do not want to raise another family. I just think it is a personel choice. Ronda | |
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| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:13:49 PM | I don't have kids, so I can't relate to the "kid" thing. At the same token, I won't date a guy with kids under the age of 18. It boils down to where I'm at in my life. I don't want to be a babysitter, nanny, or ATM machine.
If I want the young kid drama, I'll go to NYC and attend some Broadway plays - it's better drama | |
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| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:19:15 PM | I'm not saying that I wouldn't date a guy with kids, just not LITTLE ones... Pre-teen, teen, and grown children fit best into where I am at in my life, and where I want my future to be.
There are always situations where exceptions may be made as well. If I happened to meet the guy who has everything I'm looking for and more, but has a 5 year old, well then, I'd probably consider making an exception.
I think each situation is different, and to classify everyone into the same stereotype is probably not a good idea. Perhaps if you are looking to share your life and children with someone, then you need to be looking for a mate that wants the same...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:42:58 PM | Geez wow and yumpin yimminknees, I don't know what jello tree over half the noogie sandwiches on this block came from but I'd say about 97 percent of people should not be dating they should be in therapy..... what in blazes does good decent human character have to do with whether or not someone has children! If you are lucky enough in this lifetime to meet someone who is humanly decent and has emotional intelligence and decides to become devoted and care for you ... what is wrong with that ? Alot of people are looking for all the wrong things and will be doing all the wrong things in order to create all the wrong things ... Nothing lasts forever but decent human beings will always be decent human beings til the day they die... and that by far is the best reason to stay bonded with anyone.... so many people on here are going to end their lives in shallow and very lonely and empty lives as their is nothing we do as humans more valuable than rearing emotionally intelligent and compassionate offspring. You cannot love if you were not loved and so many people on here need and they are missing what it is that they really need ..... self centered people are lousy lovers and socially inept at creating long lasting bonds and do not see the value of what life and death are all about .. we are only aware of the existence we create now and anyone that would forego a relationship with a decent human being is simple and ignorant and very shallow .
Someone commented on the fact that you could be responsible for their offspring if they died and stated that they could not do that .... what in hell happened to loving someone so much that caring and carrying that individuals offspring to adulthood would not feel like an extreme honor .. to know that they were safe and loved and you did the best you could because they were a part of the spouse you loved ? So far on this site I have not met a man with honor and integrity and decency and these qualities are much more important than whether or not he has children. | |
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jani1
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Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 54 | |
| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:27:18 AM |
Why is it that many women say they don't want to get to know, even on a purely friendship level, a guy that has kids.....when they have kids themselves......and use the excuse "I don't want any kid drama"? I mean....is that being a little bit hypocritical?
My guess is that childless women would have that opinion. For the same reason as a childless man would prefer a childless woman. Most anyway.
I personally have kids and I would prefer a man who has his own kids already. And thats becuase I am pretty sure I dont want any more of my own.So if he already has some, he is less likely to want me to have more with him. | |
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| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:46:34 AM | | Why woyld you want to be financially responsible for someone else's child and responsibility? In Canada that is what happens when you marry and divorce a single parent with custody of a child from a previous relationship. | |
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| The no kids issue
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:12:44 AM | | I'm in your boat as well kneehigh and I agree, just dont ask me to babysit ever | |
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