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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/30/2008 12:55:18 PM | Not at all... My wife wouldn't kiss me at all if I smoked. I respected that philosophy. One reason why I quit. Buuuuttt.......doesn't he own a toothbrush? I mean...wtf? He doesn't brush his teeth at all? eeewwww!!!! That's just nasty!
Ok...scratch that...read the rest of your post...buy him one for your place and ask him to use it... | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/30/2008 3:11:36 PM | | I dont think it's rude. If you're a non smoker he should respect that, just as you should respect his choices. ask politely...tell him the smell bothers you a bit and you'd prefer it if he did. If he's understanding he wouldnt have a problem...just dont be rediculous and ask him to brush his teeth if you guys are out somewhere where such a thing isnt acessable. | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:26:02 PM | If you guys are to the point where overnights are a possibility, then no - it's not a rude thing to ask.
Personally, I tend to be very conciencious about it when I do smoke, but I understand that it does bother some people, and I would have no issue doing a quick "freshen up" when it comes to that time. Heck, if they'd do it for me - why wouldn't i return the favor. :) | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:21:24 AM | I dont think it would be rude to ask them to take care of the odor/taste, you put up with his smoking he should put up with your desire for him to have fresh breath occasionally, even if its gum or mints.......
in my case, my partner wont smoke. | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:35:40 AM | If he's spending the night, for sure he should have a toothbrush of his own to use (not yours, that's gross) so buy him one and tell him you picked one up and he's free to use it. Buy some mouthwash, too :-)
I'm sure if you're out drinking with him, you're in a place that's smoky to begin with so he won't be the only one with smoke in his hair, on his clothes, etc.
Always keep gum handy and whenever you have a piece, offer him one.
There's nothing more gross than smoke & booze breath (and I say this as an occasional smoker).
A lot of smokers, particularly when they're in a relationship with someone who doesn't smoke, are very self-conscious about their breath, stinking like smoke............and they're usually ones to brush their teeth / use mouthwash / chew gum, etc. more often. Maybe this guy's oral hygiene just isn't great to begin with.
A lot of the reason smokers' breath isn't fresh after brushing is that they don't brush their tongue, too. That's where a lot of the 'funk' resides (and that's the same for those who don't smoke -- there's tons of bacteria and stuff on the surface of the tongue -- why more people don't brush their tongue is beyond me). | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:49:48 AM | Nope nothing wrong with that, if he gets offended by it ..I would assume it only to be because he felt embarrassed ,its your lips hes kissing ....so dont be afraid to say something.
I smoke and always brush my teeth before kissing a non smoker its called respecting the other person enough to take a few minutes to clean your teeth and tongue, shouldnt be that big of a deal with him | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:54:28 AM | I think it's reasonable to ask (I know you'd phrase it tactfully wpg chick), but one has to wonder if you find it so repulsive, why are you dating him? Guess it's not quite the deal-breaker as it would be for me... since it'd also be stinky clothes, home, car etc etc.
Was once married to a man who'd ask me to brush my teeth if I went out and had curry for lunch, because he didn't like the smell/taste. It was infrequent compared to the smoking thing, I suspect. I was a bit miffed at how he'd phrase it (you stink, go brush your teeth!) but was compliant. Similar but different? I never did give up enjoying foreign food...
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:16:42 PM | To be honest, he doesn't really smell that strongly of smoke, and I don't really mind the smell of it. I think part of it too is probably that he shaves his head. I dunno. But when I kiss him, I can taste the smoke and it's the taste that I don't like. I don't mind it so much when we're just out and stealing a quick peck here and there (I'm not into PDA's so when we're out in public, that's about all that happens). But when we're alone and can do more kissing, the taste isn't that great. So I really just want him to brush his teeth when he's here, especially if he's spending the night. And I think it's kinda gross to share toothbrushes so I was going to buy him one to use when he was here. I think I've just decided to get a few toothbrushes and say casually, "I bought a few toothbrushes for my friends/my sister who sometime spend the night here, if you'd like one too, feel free to pick one out." (He knows I have one female friend in partucular who will often spend the night here when we have girl's night as she's not allowed to drive if she has any alcohol in her blood because she just got her license and the laws here say '0 blood alcohol for 5 years after you get your license.')
And for the record, the majority of the time after a night of drinking, brushing my teeth is one of the first things I do, so my breath being all alcoholy shouldn't be a problem. | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:32:09 PM |
And I think it's kinda gross to share toothbrushes so I was going to buy him one to use when he was here.
smoking issue aside, it is more than kind of gross..hopefully he had good hygeine habits and with a toothbrush available, he will just use it. Good luck on this one! | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:07:45 PM | Hey... It would also be nice to ask people to freshen up when they've been drinking beer... There are few things more stomach turning than that smell!
As a matter of fact, it wouldn't hurt EVERYBODY to go brush their teeth and gargle if they're going to be swapping spit! I've smelled some non-smokers' breath I wouldn't go near with a rubber nose!!! | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:33:26 AM | | I'm a smoker and I don't care, in fact when I'm dating someone who doesn't smoke to make sure I have a brush and toothpaste on me or at least some gum. Of course there have been days I've brushed maybe 10 times a day because of that, but at least my teeth were never cleaner. | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:50:06 AM | no, he would respect you for speaking up. and u'd have much more fun. it would be a genuine bonding moment, if u have the guts to tell it like it is
say, hunny, here, chew a gum or brush that pretty set of teeth, the cigarette aroma is killin my mojo/makin me dizzy | |
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| Ok to ask your smoking partner to brush their teeth before kissing?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:53:57 AM | Yep... I'm a smoker (usually) and don't mind carrying gum on me or even mouth wash if I'm dating a non-smoker...
When I do manage to stop, it doesn't bother me if I'm dating a smoker.... but does mean I have to use more will power.... or sometimes I wonder if I'm kissing them just because I want the nicotine  | |
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