| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:26:41 PM | I worked for 6 years as a freelance contractor. All of the work I got required me to be away from home as we lived 150 kilometres south of Sydney and all of the work was in Sydney, interstate or overseas.
I would have given anything to be able to spend more time with my wife and kids, but we had the house and kitchen that SHE wanted, and that had to be paid for.
We could have had a much smaller house debt-free and I would have been able to be home more, but she wanted the big house. I loved her and wanted to give her the home she wanted, one which in the end we had no hope of affording on an irregular income.
It's all about balance, but it has to come from both partners. We were both just stupid. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 5/26/2008 4:02:40 PM | This situation depends highly on context.
If you are talking about a stay at home mom or housewife then as a previous poster said they are working for two or three depending on the number of people in that family. You can't have your cake an eat it too. The way higher end jobs are is the higher responsibility and higher on the ladder you get, the more time is required. If you want to stay home then you must realize that comes with some consequences. Choices are designed that way.
If you are talking about a context of a workaholic then there is a core problem there of addiction and other emotional issues. I would suspect you knew he or she was a workaholic prior to that and chose to marry them with all their issues. Did you expect them to magically change when they get married? If so the fairytale is over and real life is here, start living in it. This has to change when the person who is a workaholic wants to change just like any other emotional issue.
Life is about balance. Both men and women need to realize this. This means there will be times when work needs attention, family needs attention, your SO needs attention, the house needs attention, friends need attention, parents, extended family and also the individual needs attention as well. Working together to maintain all these things takes work and communication. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 5/26/2008 4:38:02 PM | | Yeah but JW, they complain or look elsewhere when you do not spend "enough" time with them, so you rearrange your schedule at work so that you can, then they say you are smothering then and they need space. This is a no win situation, but you have to make the best of it. Before all you women accuse me of being sexist and a woman hater then prove me wrong | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 5/26/2008 5:08:41 PM |
Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Because long term mate selection rarely accounts for true compatibility.
The most compatible woman might not be the fit pretty woman who doesn't nag too much.
The most compatible man might not be the taller-than-you-in-heels Alpha male with a great career and a giant house.
The simple answer is most of the time those in marriages married the wrong person. You can't fix or work through what wasn't whole to start with.
For males, the social prestige of his job is attractive to many women out there. Unfortunately men in those positions are typically married to their jobs first and foremost. And before most women point fingers at male workaholics, remember many of you ladies pick them. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 4:32:43 PM | l spent many years in this exact situation and you (or l)do seem to get a sixth sense when something is all of a sudden different.
l did try to make weekends fun(he was only home late fri till 7 am monday )
But when he started bringing all his good clothes and aftershave(remember he doesent even get time to phone me ,hes so busy)l began to wonder why he would need all this stuff with him.l was PARANOID..........l was told and even began to doubt my (Sixth Sense)untill he walked away from me and our son on christmas eve 1999 and has never come to see either of us since,l was with this?????????????,cant think what to call him really as he is no man,for 20 years(met at 17 married at 25) and had our son in 1996,he was gone 3 years later,no explanation..........turned off his phone(learned 6 months later he bought a new one)that l wasnt to know about.
so l think women should wonder what the point is in a man working away from home when he says hes doing it for you...........if so wouldnt it say more if he did everything he could to stay close to home. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 4:51:49 PM | OP - it's easy to go out and earn the bacon. It really is. I think a Chimp can do it. Sometimes, I think men "escape" into the world of work, so they don't have to deal with the wife/kids and the day-to-day boring crap, that we deal with.
How many husbands really sit down with their wives and ask them what they truly want? Is it that 4000 square foot house, and he's working 70+ hours/week, or is it a 2500 square foot home, and he's working 45 hours/week, and can spend quality time with the family. Women get to the point in their lives, that "things" don't matter. What matters, is "people". | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:39:02 PM | My ex liked that I was a "worker' , untill she hit her 40`s that is. All of a sudden, I was suppose to quit work, live on what? At no time did she quit Bingo, casinos, buying 200 dollar running shoes for the kids to show off. Not one time, did she offer to work, even part time, quit smoking, drinking or any thing else. But, yea, I was suppose to stay at home more, spend more time?
Sheesh, she couldnt get to one of our kids games, I tried to get to every one, but I was suppose to spend more time with her. Well. I realized, she was a very selfish human, and all that crap she spoke of was just smoke and mirrors is all.
When woman or men , start this line, dont work, they are looking for an excuse to justify their own selfish existance. My ex proved this, when I realized one day, she couldnt go the kids Doctor appts, school functions, games, but expected me to spend more time on her?
Wow, some people think they are all so "special eh"? | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:04:56 PM |
How do the wives not understand that their husbands are trying to give them and their children the best possible life by working their asses off? Easy one. Because they married little "Princesses" who firmly believe in the "Let them eat cake" philosophy. How can they expect someone who does NOT work...to understand the value of work???
My ex B1tched constantly about me working so many hours; (70-90 a week) but then he never considered cutting back a little on the whining about all the crap we "needed". And quite frankly.....YES, it did get to the point where I was working just to be away from the constant nagging and complaining. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:34:44 PM | { quote" My ex B1tched constantly about me working so many hours; (70-90 a week) but then he never considered cutting back a little on the whining about all the crap we "needed". And quite frankly.....YES, it did get to the point where I was working just to be away from the constant nagging and complaining. " END OF QUOTE}
Do I ever understand GrandmaBoo Boo on that point! Was a time when work was my only refuge, thank the Lord its over now. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:47:04 PM |
I was just speaking to a man who is divorced. He was married for 20 years. He went away to Colorado for work and had an affair. I asked him why he did it. He said that him and his wife just didn't have it there anymore and they were more like best friends; therefore, divorce was best for both.
If he had been home with his family do you think that he would have cheated?
yes.. he's scum an would have found a way... what he should'a done was stand by his woman/family... dumbshit...
as for the thread in total.. hmmm my dad was in the military.. he was away alot in his an mom's marriage ( over 60 yr's an still going ) sometimes someone doesn't have any other option in their job.. | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:06:03 PM |
Because the women are immature and codependent. They want the husband around to entertain them, just like in the beginning of the relationship. The honeymoon is over, and they don' t realize it. They want the honeymoon forever. They are immature. They will wake up one day, after a divorce, and realize they blew it.
Smileee4u....hmmm...she looks like a woman ....but thinks like a man. I think I love her!   | |
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| Why do women complain when their husbands are away from home too much because they are AT WORK?
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:46:47 PM | The emphasis should be on the world COMPLAIN not on the words at work.
These women are a bunch of whingeing grizzlebums who should be avoided like the plague from the first date let alone the marriage.
And, in reality most modern men DO dump them BANG on the spot the first time they hear a single word of petty beeching. They don't go on with the same melodramaitcs that she does. They simply finish the date in a civil fashion and then, NOTHING. No phone back the next day, no next date, nothing.
The final irony is that the men often don't need to dump these women. The women are so shallow that they dump them the day he turns up on a date wearing even slightly unfashionable threads. Or the day that some GF, who has eyes on the guy for herself, drops a piece fo malicious gissop about him.
There are millions of stupid stupid woen out there who wonder why they are dateless but still couldn't recognoise a good man if they fell over one. | |
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