Oh , BTW ...was that a baited question ?
No baiting intended… it was meant to be more rhetorical… but since you answered…
I guess THAT will depend on the situation , each person ( & thus ) each situation demands a separate and specific/ unique review !
I meant what are you going to change about your self… accomplishing that doesn’t depend on anyone else or the situation.
Unless of course, you think you’re perfect and don’t need to change. <--- Now, that’s baiting!