| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:28:09 AM | You seem intelligent and well adjusted, and pretty funny. You must know that denying yourself the chance at something that could work out will only work for so long. Do you plan on being alone for the rest of your life?
Deny your feelings...that will ensure you live a life of fear and loneliness OR you could try it out, something great could happen. Taking a chance on happiness? why would anyone want to do that? LOL... | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:55:03 AM | She sounds inteligent? Huh? How is it smart to avoid dating for 24 years because your so freaked out about getting hurt? Thats' childish. I read your profile and you seem to want a lot of attention without much substance. You are EXTREMELY immature and insecure. So all you want to do in life is be a part of things that you know for sure will work out? Ridiculous and very dysfunctional.
What you are saying is:
1. I dont trust my own decisions to choose a good guy so I just wont try
2. I want to go through life and just not get hurt
3. Why are you on a dating site if you dont want to date people?
4. I love the attention guys give me and then when they like me I run and reject them and then tell people I'm being stalked.
You talk like you are 15 years old. You talk about this and that about yourself, does he like me, policeman are so sexy, and all this stuff with alcohol, I want to do illegal things, lol; oh brother. Do you just want sex? Do you just want a friend and then when you or they like you you just run like a child? Do you just want attention? I mean whats up.
You shouldn't worry about liking someone because if you tell them your philosophy on relationships and tell him about yourself, he will run. I'm not worried about you; you just have a lot of growing up to do; I'm worried about the train wrecks you might leave in life by getting guys to like you and then dumping them. Life is about good and bad times; its the adult world; taxes, death, and dumb posts on POF are the only things for sure in life.
A life without pain is only in Heaven and in fairy tales. Grow up and live. Good luck. | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:08:09 AM | | mthomjmark..she doesnt necessarily lack intellegence......she is lacking in emotional intellegence............she could be a genius in book learning and still not have emotional intellegence....................I still say she has fear for a reason, that only she knows........she is a young girl in pain acting out.................... | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:56:08 PM |
Yay me. I finally texted him. He said he's down for hanging out. I never replied to him after that.. give me a few weeks haha.
So, basically, you say you don't want to get hurt but you don't mind hurting this guy by toying with his emotions and stringing him along for "a few weeks." | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:09:30 PM |
I just read your profile, so I am not sure if you are being serious with your question.
Good to know that I am the only one who caught that. Me thinks she had been on more than a few test drives. | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:28:41 PM | | Wow... you can stop yourself from doing anything you want, feeling anything you want and you can keep yourself hidden away safe like good china your whole life. I would consider taking a chance and getting hurt I've learned a lot from the more painful experiences of my life. I just recently had a relationship end that meant very much to me, it was sad and painful but I have no regrets and feel better for having taken the chance. | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:37:02 PM |
how do you stop yourself from liking someone?
Just do nothing, and after a while, the feeling, and the person, will go away.
I do think you could be asking questions which are more useful for you, such as "do i ever want a relationship with someone?", and if not, "why am i on PoF?", and if yes, "What am i going to do to stop this fear from running my life?" - given that you (like everyone else) are very likely to be hurt once in a while when you let someone close.
These smaller questions are all part of a larger and IMO more useful question:
"Will the person in charge of your life, please stand up?"
cheers - Grant | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:19:24 PM | | I agree with mthomjmark - why are you on a dating site if you don't want to date people? Go hang out with him, have fun. If you don't want to get hurt, just have fun without expecting too much. | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 6/15/2008 3:12:43 PM | I do want a relationship with the right person but being open to that experience is very scary to me.
I want to be the person in charge of my own destiny and not depend on someone else.
I just have to gain back the confidence to accomplish that feat!
I am confident that through meeting different people, my personality will spark an interest in that special someone and I then can say "I like someone...this IS supposed to happen to me | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:57:03 PM | OP, it's not easy to free yourself from liking someone, but it can be done. First, you must figure out how to kill any attraction between you and them. If you are shy, this is pretty easy. All you have to do is make attempts (clumsy as they will be) to get to know someone and they will run. That's what's always happened to me, at least. Why does it work like this? The other person immediately writes you off as inconsistent, weird, undersexed, because you are not perfect in every way.
See? It's really quite easy. | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:47:59 PM | if you really want to stop yourself from liking someone then it's better (easier) to do before you really get to know them - cut them off completely, don't look at any photos of him you might have, don't read anything he writes, whenever you think of him cut the thought off right away and make yourself think of something else... keep busy... fill your mind and life with other things and the memory of him will start to fade over time
once you've actually started to get to know him and spend time with him it gets harder and harder to do
if the question was rhetorical and you really wanted permission/advice on how to proceed, then i'd say, why not take a chance....sure you may be hurt in the process, but you might equally find a richer, deeper joy and contentment than you've known before | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:34:42 PM | | My question is if you try to avoid male relationships at all cost, and you are desperate to stop liking someone you are starting to like, why in the hell do you have a personal ad up on a dating site? | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:07:21 PM | Are you a TEASE masquerading as a "ball of confusion"?
STOP wasting our time with your "...I think that maybe, just maybe I like him..." crap.
I pity da fool who is the object of your desire, cuz chances are that when he expresses a genuine interest in having a REAL relationship with you, you will run for the hills. Hopefully, you won't dial 911, scream "RAPE", and alert a SWAT team when all the guy did was ask to meet you in a public place.
DO THE RIGHT THANG!!!
Either sh*t and get off the pot, or leave the poor guy alone.
And you have the gall to call yourself "KEEP N IT REEL"???
You are the epitome of hypocrisy and self-righteousness.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself!!!
You belong on an Alternative Lifestyles website such as "Sports Illustrated Magazine's Cross Dressers And The Hemaphrodites Who Love Them". | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:13:26 PM | LOL Elaine
I thinks its called one-upman-ship (or would that be woman tops man-ship) when she castigated the guy. And you are correct it goes by both names. And now for the next drama installment. Popcorn anyone? mine with butter n salt, please, while we are keeping it reel.... | |
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| I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me!
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:49:08 PM | Hehe I couldnt resist....I found it amusing that OP seem to accept the suggestion she may have Dissociative Identity Disorder...but didnt like the term Multiple Personality Disorder!!
Maybe you thought that was just for cRaZy people OP .............. ?
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