| i dont understand women sometimes
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:50:02 AM | | ^^^playing telephone games is juvenile. Chasing after her isn't going to get her back. The spark wasn't there, let it go. You can't bully or trick someone into liking you. | |
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| i dont understand women sometimes
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:53:14 AM |
^^^playing telephone games is juvenile. Chasing after her isn't going to get her back. The spark wasn't there, let it go. You can't bully or trick someone into liking you.
Got to disagree with you there. Some women want to be chased. If men couldn't 'trick' women into liking them, then there would be no love songs. | |
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| i dont understand women sometimes
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:53:55 AM |
is it so difficult to figure out she did not like something about how you looked, behaved, spoken, walked, sounded etc?
Is it so difficult she couldnt have said so, answered his IMs, responded on line, not expected him to have ESP, read his mind etc? [insert the 'well, duh!' emoticon I wish they had] | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:00:55 AM |
Is it so difficult she couldnt have said so, answered his IMs, responded on line, not expected him to have ESP, read his mind etc? [insert the 'well, duh!' emoticon I wish they had]
That's what should be done, for sure. I had the experience recently. Met with a lady who seemed eager to do so. We had a good time, talking and laughing. I never heard back from her after that. I sent her three messages and her only response was to delete them. A couple of weeks later, she deleted her account. I will be puzzled about that the rest of my days, I think. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:02:48 AM | | not trying to bully or trick..just trying to put some closure on something..if u were in our shoes..you'd understand. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:07:16 AM | RogMcK - your response was great - thanks for the smile!
I guess there won't be any love songs written for me - I'm too slick to be tricked...jkjk
Cheers! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:09:47 AM | Gormetchef50 - I've been in your shoes, I can understand where you're coming from...I just feel that trying to catch her on the phone when you really know in your gut that she's just not all that into you is not productive. I feel you get up, brush yourself off and move on.
I'm taking an extended break from dating myself, because I don't want to play games (and from my younger sister who is actively out there trying to find 'the one', everyone is playing stupid games...I'd rather be alone and happy than with someone and confused.) | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:18:51 AM |
I'd rather be alone and happy than with someone and confused
Ill second that! Sounds like the basis for a song...you may be in luck after all, Pers14!  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:24:17 AM | mthomimark
What I have found is most people using the internet as their main thread to the dating world are very dysfunctional. They hide behind the protection of their computer. Many can't communicate well and they are terrible at confrontation. The internet is creating dysfunctional communicators.
You know I am coming to that conclusion. I have found some guys completely go out of whack. You try not to offend anyone yet somehow they go out of their way to completely break all rules in social graces. Then you give up! What surprises me is some do it again and I have allowed it! Because I let my guard down once again. If you want to stay in cyber, you have to grow thick skin or vow not to be protective of someone else's feelings, sacrificing your very own. Be astute and refuse to be a charitable institution, no matter how much emotion you have invested. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 8:52:20 AM |
Ill second that! Sounds like the basis for a song...you may be in luck after all, Pers14!
Haha! Maybe there is hope for me! I am a romantic at heart, and I'd love if a man wrote a song or poem for me...but being the realist - I write songs and poems for myself. You have to love yourself first before anyone else can.
Best wishes to all! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:14:02 AM | ok, just my 10 cents: there was something she did not like about you. She thought there was no need for you to know. Silence speaks too: this is what men do not understand. Communication does not need to be spoken: it does not always need words, the act suffices.
If I meet people and I end up not being able to develop respect for them, I don't tell them why: I simply disappear from their life. If it happens that I disappear for other reasons, I usually tell.
Do you find it is a challenge to understand the feeling and the reactions of others?
They may feel the same way about you. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:23:47 AM | | sometimes its not all that easy to just 'getup, brush yourself off, etc'..especially if feelings are involved.yes, he knows in his gut the party's over but i like to catch them in the act of lying.I think maybe it will save the next guy, especially if she thinks before she plays these silly mind games. besides, it was a disrespect in the way she handled it and I, for one, am gonna tell her how i feel..the good, bad, & ugly.Unfortunately, if u wanna date out there, its gonna be a cold, cruel world sometimes and i have developed thick skin over the years, but once in awhile i let my guard down and get crushed.For those, i'm gonna tell 'em like it is..anyway..anyhow..i can. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:27:39 AM | Ha, I don't normally waste any time in talking to a female if we hit it off good. I'm fairly upfront in nature and honest as well as touchy feely. I take a risk doing that with a new woman I am with but it's worth it because most women seem to like a forward man. At least in my experience but I also talk and communicate and try to keep focus on other things. Don't be afraid to take the cue if she's talking dirty, I like it when they talk dirty, lol.  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:33:41 AM |
but i like to catch them in the act of lying.I think maybe it will save the next guy
I am not trying to be confrontational, I just found your response interesting. Why do you feel that you must catch them in a lie, even if you know in your gut it's over? Why dedicate energies (negative or positive) towards someone who does not care for you?
Satisfaction? Revenge? Feeling above the her? Do you feel catching her in a lie will change her, that it will "save the next guy"? She won't change her methods and will resent you thinking you can 'teach her a lesson'. If she doesn't care enough about your feelings to be honest with you, she won't learn anything from a 'telephone game lesson'. She'll just think you're a loser and move on, no lesson learned. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 9:39:07 AM | Aeroforce1, trying to figure women out is like 
The sooner you quit trying to figure them out, the sooner your head will stop hurting.
I have found it can be the simplest of things that attract a woman. I used to wear my hair a normal length, what some would call a comb-over (Gawd, I hated that reference) so, I finally bit the bullet and cut all my hair off. Now it's a crew cut, very short, and out of no-where, I get hugs and a showing of interest from women who would not otherwise give me the time of day. (IS it r-e-a-l-l-y that simple? )
Geez, how long did I wait?
Cheers
Mane
PS: OP, sireuolsy, trehe's not mcuh pinot in tyrnig to udentsarnd wmoen. It's lkie raeindg tihs may seem cmpoclaited, but if you jsut rlaex and let go, you wlil fnid it esiear tahn you tinhk.
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Posted: 5/26/2008 10:02:57 AM | If you have to “guess” about someone’s thoughts about you ..... it is simply not a match. Both sides of a true two way match > know it. They know there is a potential two way match - they know it right off the bat. If you find yourself asking “what happened” - what happened was you were letting your hope run away with you.
There is NO explanation necessary. It is disrespectful to others. Trying to force/bully/trap/trick (blocking your number) is not only silly - it is showing what kind of person YOU ARE.
I say respect others - give them their easy out. Don’t try to force them into explaining things to YOUR satisfaction.
They owe you NOTHING and it is childish of people that think others owe them an explanation.
Just respect others - respect that it was not a two way match. In your mind wish them the best and .......... just let it go. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 10:22:45 AM | I have learned never try to understand a women just accept them for who they are! I don't believe they even are fully aware of what emotions some guys go through. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 11:41:11 AM | not trying to bully or trick..just trying to put some closure on something..if u were in our shoes..you'd understand.
First, I have been in the shoes of a person who is suddenly dropped, ignored, IMs refuesed, etc. Keep that in mind in this reply. Second, I wouldn't be the one who disappears without some form of goodbye. I'd email a "thanks but no thanks" at least. And, if I have emailed "thanks but no thanks" and continue to receive emails then I do ignore. Already said no thanks, don't need to say it again.
On the other hand, If I were the one dumped and I were to use a different number or otherwise trick someone who doesn't want to take a call from me to take a call from me then I would strongly feel as if I were forcing open a closed door just so that I could get the last word in and make them feel bad. That's neither a kind of person I want to be nor a kind of person I would want to date. So, if somebody did that to me I would consider myself lucky to have decided against dating them and their sneaky trick call just more proof that they are not a potential friend. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 11:44:58 AM |
ok, just my 10 cents: there was something she did not like about you. She thought there was no need for you to know. Silence speaks too: this is what men do not understand. Communication does not need to be spoken: it does not always need words, the act suffices.
No, it doesn't. That is what women do not understand. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:02:19 PM | Sorry, I am with Ron 9 on this.
It is childish to assume that others owe us an explanation. Not to tell is sometimes the kinder way out......at least for me; since I tend to be brutally honest, it is better if I speak only when I have nice things to say ( regarding dating, of course, not everything else) sugar coating is quite phony and not very authentic, in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:13:45 PM | | O.K. well.....maybe a take on the situation from a much older woman. Some, regardless of being male or female just do not have the courage to say that they don't feel any chemistry with you. It does come across as rude for sure and slightly hurtful to say the least. Keep on fishin, the sea is full of fish!! Just don't allow yourself to settle for a BTN. You have the world by the tail! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:29:00 PM | She is obviously no longer interested so just move on............
Shes not the only woman on the planet !!!!!!!!! | |
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| i dont understand women sometimes
Posted: 5/26/2008 12:39:14 PM | my guess is you said something to put her off and she is reluctant to tell you this .... alot of people who are not grown up.. and .. hah men are extreme cowards .. I got no problem getting it out on the table usually after the date as some guys are real whackos on here
Sometimes people have a hard time saying things they think might be hurtful to others. It has nothing to do with being grown up or not being a coward ~ but rather being too kind, too soft hearted maybe. The lady is letting you know however, OP, that she is no longer interested.
Sometimes we don't know until the date happens whether there's any real potential there for us. Talking online just adds to the image we create of the other person, therefore increasing our expectations.
I really think people should send a note to those they have been getting to know, to let them know WHY they're not interested.
What difference does it make why someone isn't interested in us? If it's the way we dress and we then dress differently, maybe the next date won't like our new style of dress. It is what it is, people either like us or they don't. So what? I'm not going to try to conform to someone else's image of me or criteria to gain their interest. I'm also not going to poll my unsuccessful dates to quiz them about why they're not interested. It's either there or it isn't. It's not about selling ourselves to someone, it's about finding the right person for us. Next!
Plenty of other people out there though, so just keep on... | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:52:15 PM | You know, I am a realist. So as rude as it may seem that some people act like this, what are you gonna do? It's gonna happen - regardless of my personal view of what people should do.
Some find it rude to seek someone out and tell them they aren't interested in them, some think it's rude not to. It's gonna vary depending on who you're dealing with.
I expect everyone to act this way in the dating world especially online, and especially if I don't know them....because it's just the way people you don't know online tend to act. There are millions of people online (and IRL for that matter); you gotta expect some of them to act like they were raised in a barn. It's just common sense.
If they don't dissappear when not interested and let you know, or contact you again because they are interested, then I take it as a refreshing and pleasant surprise. I can't change what others do, but I can stress myself out less about how people I don't know act. That's the only thing I have control of. | |
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