| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:56:26 PM | Cooking, cleaning and sewing definitely would not scare me one bit. Btw, can you mend my pants, cook me a sheppard's pie and clean the stove top for me?
Only if you can rebuild a Ford 9" rearend. All kidding aside. I don't have a problem cooking 50% of the time. I actually like cooking for people other than myself. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:58:23 PM | I would never be afraid of a guy who can do all that!! I think he would be perfect in that we can share the duties. It would get the guy MAJOR brownie points for sure and certainly make him more attractive in my book.
If he were cute too..........BINGO! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 9:04:23 PM | I don't know any girl (msyelf included) who would be afraid/scared of a guy who can do all these things for himself. I'm sure 99.9 % of the guys I've dated could outcook me *in the kitchen anyway.. hah* , and I do all the domestic stuff of life but don't particularly *love* it , but as adults we do what has to be done right?
I'd have a bigger problem if he didn't know how to do laundry or at least make himself a sandwich! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 9:19:49 PM | Don't most single men know how to do this? How else do they get through life?
I think it'd be weird to meet someone who lives alone and can't do any of that. It has nothing to do with gender... | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 9:33:39 PM |
MSG#54,DJ said:Don't most single men know how to do this? How else do they get through life? I don't know any single guys that don't know how to cook or clean. Some are better cooks than others and some keep their house's cleaner than others. I seriously doubt if a woman would have a problem with a guy helping out in the house. I'm sure some women would rather be doing yard work than sitting in the house cleaning all the time. Besides,if a guys going to help clean then most likely he's not going to be as bad about messing the house up. Besides,,Women look pretty hot sitting on a riding lawn mower.  | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:12:42 PM | It is just part of the partnership process, so what is the big deal. I cannot sew a thing, but a button. I hate laundry, so I do it when needed. I was a chef, so I went grocery shopping, and I did all the cooking. Since I have two Australian Shepards, I have to vacuum 2x weekly. For guys who do not get the hint, if you help around the house. Your lady will have more time for you, and your (MY) ideas of fun. Now if the guy spends all his time making Barbie clothes......You might have a problem.
I think women look hot doing laundry, and sewing and anything I hate doing. I look great cooking, exercising the dogs (I am gone for a while), and using my Dyson. It has yet to cause any shrinkage...... | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:30:19 PM | "If I had a nickel for every guy I've known (not dated, just known in general) who swears he does all these things, yet somehow the proof never seems to be in the pudding? I'd be one richa$$ chick now. " sweetness-one, I love it.
OP, this is the way I see it. I've been married twice and both men became invalids when it came to cleanup. Give me a man that continues to pull his weight in the cleanup department and I'll give him my gratitude, along with a few other things. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:37:33 PM |
Don't most single men know how to do this? How else do they get through life?
LOL...you'd be surprised. I'm resourceful I guess. I don't know how to cook, sew, etc. I shouldn't say I don't know how, so much as I have no interest in learning.
I eat sandwiches, fresh fruits & veggies and frozen foods. Nothing spectacular. No one ever taught me how do cook or sew or whatever. I'm a neat freak by nature, so it's natural for me to keep tidy. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:03:11 PM | What we're afraid of....
A guy who's never satisfied...."that's not the way my mother did it!".....type comments (these were very popular early on in my marriage)....
Scary = A guy who 'needs' his home to look like a magazine spread 24/7
But then, I'm a slob....always been a slob....probably always will be a slob. Dust bunnies don't bother me much....neither does that ring around the bathtub - I only use the shower anyhow!
You don't mind cooking, sewing, baking, etc....that's great!....I don't and will avoid each of those - as well as just about any form of cleaning - as much as possible! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:07:03 PM | My ex did all those things (and more), except for sewing. And I never felt threatened. My identity as a woman was never tied to a broom or a dust cloth and neither was his tied into his hammer. In fact, this whole gender divison thing is something I only discovered since I've been here on POF.
We both learned how to make pies together when we became grand-parents. He'd make and roll the dough and I'd be in charge of the fillings.
And during our time together, he also discovered that he had a passion for making fancy gourmet meals, where I'm more inclined to do the everyday meal type of thing.
So on the weekends I worked, I would often come home to a shrimp c0cktail on ice, with the leaf of lettuce and the slice of lemon cut just so...followed by some new recipe he'd found in "his" cook book.
My ex had a very physical demanding job (carpet/flooring installer) and had to have surgery on his back at the age of 32. And although he continued to work in his trade after the surgery, his back always bothered him.
So I just naturally took over the yard work and the shoveling of the driveway to spare his back. And because I got home earlier than he did, I also prepared and cooked all the evening meals during the week. And did all of our laundry.
So...the way we balanced things out is we decided he would make the lunches...his, mine, and the kid's...something I HATED doing...and he took over the grocery shopping...another thing I detested doing. It worked out well for us.
Many nights after supper I'd be out shoveling snow or mowing the grass while he would be inside doing the dishes and tidying
up the kitchen. House chores and gender roles/issues were never a problem for us...it's too bad we couldn't see the forest for
the trees. Anyway...
So no...I'm not afraid of a guy that can. In fact, I don't think I could be with a guy that can't...but that's just me...to each their own.
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:12:19 PM | I have found that the best unions are formed by finding a balance.
My favourite old flame liked to clean the house on saturday mornings.
I, on the otherhand, preferred to sip my coffee & read the paper. I would do
my share while he was out golfing. He mowed the lawn, I took care of
sewing needs. We each did our own laundry, but we shared the cooking.
I've never been able to get my floors as shiny.....I miss him, sometimes.
A bit of cooperation goes a long way.
I'm not afraid of any man that can take care of himself, but I have had
a few men get wierded out by the fact that I have a hammer drill.
They just don't understand that a girls needs to bore through
some concrete once in a while.
~mizz | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:18:30 PM |
MSG#57,thebugisback wrote::"If I had a nickel for every guy I've known (not dated, just known in general) who swears he does all these things, yet somehow the proof never seems to be in the pudding? I'd be one richa$$ chick now. " sweetness-one, I love it. You would come up a nickle short betting on most older guys thats single. Specially if you was betting on a country boy  | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:49:06 PM |
I'm looking for such a guy A guy who does his 50 percent around the home while I do the other 50.
Here's the thing...I DO want a guy that does his 50%.
BUT...what I like to do ...is look after the house.
That doesnt mean I wanna be a Stepford Wife...it means thats simply what I like/love to do and his 50% should be a balance to mine.
ie. its not stereotypical...I can/have done more and more than capable of it.
Whats important is...my priorities are set.
I *do* believe one partner (when it comes to family/children) has to put their career on hold to fulfill the greater needs aside from cash.
Ive said this before but...
I liken family to a flower...
Give it sunlight & water...it will grow/live/function
But if you really want it to bloom...it needs a great deal more than the basics.
Family is the same and so are relationships. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:55:31 PM |
We both learned how to make pies together when we became grand-parents. He'd make and roll the dough and I'd be in charge of the fillings.
At the risk of sounding like a total wuss...I think that's really sweet and reading that put a smile on my face. 
My parents in the last few years have started making wine togather, I can only imagine the excitment of making wine and then drinking it, but whats important is it's an activity they do togather. After 28 years of marriage, thats not bad. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:04:59 AM |
How can anyone not like that? My uncles are great Italian cooks
Cooking anything, other than sandwiches or canned soup, requires getting your hands dirty, touching weird textured objects, etc, etc...
Pushing my hands through ground beef reminds me of movies like Saw, and I always envision my hands being cut up in a meat grinder and being sold at Safeway.
Handling eggs, make me think of those poor little birdy fetus' -- so basically I'm touching an abortion. *pukes*
Eating food, everything is already assembled and mashed togather so my mind doesn't play tricks on me. I just zone out and eat.
I love food though...I wish I could get past my fears/phobia/paranoia's...I have a really weak stomach and almost anything gross will make me gag. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:12:03 AM | | Probably has something to do with the cultural mores and gender roles in your geographic location. In fact I'm going to say that it's not probably, it is. It's not like that throughout the entire world that's for sure. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:31:17 AM |
Handling eggs, make me think of those poor little birdy fetus' -- so basically I'm touching an abortion. *pukes*
I doubt this will help your revulsion a bit, but actually an egg is more like Aunt Flo minus the blood. It hasn't been fertilized, so there was never a chance for it to be a chick any more than each time a woman ovulates it is a baby. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 1:46:21 AM | | guy4theforums, I was quoting sweetness-one. However, my personal experience with men helping has not been good. Most, not all, but most haven't even offered. When they have offered to help I was impressed. What you missed was when I said the man that helps with the housework would have more than just my gratitude. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/27/2008 2:49:20 AM |
girls are afraid of a guy that can cook, bake, sew, and clean.
I don't mind at all. As long as he doesn't expect me to wash the car, do the garden and mend that broken tap. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 4:51:52 AM | Well ive read most of the post about this and thought i would post my thoughts
For me i was a carer for my mum and dad since i was 15 so i am used to cooking cleaning etc i had to do most of it around the house .
I have met some lady's that didn't like the fact i could cook etc and on the other hand some did like it as thay would just come in from work and who ever was home first would do the meal and when the other would come in thay would clean up a bit so it always worked out even to some point .
But now i am glad that my mum and dad made the point of me learning to cook etc as now i am on my own i still can look after my self and have friends around for meals etc | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 5:01:49 AM | I don't see a problem with a domesticated man.
I would worry however if you tried to breast feed a baby!
So many women on here seem to have a problem with the ironing. Just do what I do and iron once every four years. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:12:18 AM | To me, a man that can't sew a button back on his shirt, cook a basic meal to feed himself and perform normal cleaning duties is a cripple.
This is 2008 for heavens sake. What would a man think of a woman who couldn't pump her own gas? | |
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