| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:45:32 AM | i'm sorry, but for a woman to say that the kitchen is her domain is one of the most hypocritical things i have ever heard (read.)
if any many were to say "a woman's place is in the kitchen" every single woman within earshot would flip completely out, without restraint. yet, you can lay claim to that particular room, while shooing a man off into the garage.
"a man's place is in the garage" is just as sexist as "a woman's place...etc" is.
i'll get my hands dirty in the garage if need be, i'll cook dinner if i want to, i'll sew if i need to, and i'll clean when it needs to be done.
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:12:03 AM | OP, many* guys like to cook, but want a woman running around after them or to be their audience whilst they show off their skills, and clean up after them too. This drove me batty in a previous relationship. 
I've got a feeling that you're not one of them though.
Having read your profile, you seem like a dream... 
I just wish you were closer!!! 
Surely not ALL the women near you feel this way, maybe you could try looking at less traditionally minded ladies though.
I'm sure you're more than able of attracting the right woman soon enough, try not to get too impatient.
*Note I said many not all or even most! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/29/2008 2:54:25 PM | | I eat a decent meal almost every night because I like a good meal and eat well. Whether I cook it myself, at home, at someone else's, or go out to eat because I live alone. My life's not on hold because I'm single. As far as sewing and cleaning is concerned, I do what I feel needs to be done but wouldn't mind a little help :tear:. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:33:42 PM | | Well, I have been on my own since I was 16 years old...wow thats almost 30 years now. Of that time I was married for about 9 years. I learned how to take care of things out of necessity and the fact I would not rely on others to take care of my needs. I love to cook and have a culinary degree. I learned to sew in the Marine Corp as well as be responsible for my own laundry and mending. In a relationship, if my significant other preffered to take care of me in such a way, then more power to her as I see it a connection. I'm perfectly fine with inside chores and outside chores. its about what would make us click, together. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:55:28 PM | Many women understand the cooking/cleaning abilities because,as others have mentioned, many men are living a single lifestyle and no one is going to do it for them.
Baking and sewing on the other hand makes some women think that they are not exactly........manly things to do.
Personally, these things are my favorite hobbies and I would love a partner who shared my kitchen and his recipes. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:46:13 PM | On the other hand, some women turn men gay.....I saw it on Oprah!
I believe in bartering, so I can cook. You do the laundry....I can mow the lawn, and edge it...put out the trash....As far as who fixes the car? I buy new ones, with service policies.....and work hard so someone else can fix it.....What do you do to a new car nowadays.....do the plugs every 100K. Put in synthetic oil at Walmart, and drive it 15k.....
The one guy who can sew, way to go....I never learned how.....I will just barter with my sweetheart, or run out of clothes!
Plus, I have a dark side. If I cook dinner for someone, it will be really good.....Then I will have the house allready clean, their will be two dishes when I am done. Now you have been drinking wine, while I was cooking for you...
So......Voila...An attractive drunk women, who has just been cooked a great meal. Of course she is the "one", since I am on as long term.....She is relaxed, and I just took care of her.....So, put on the merry widow....and lets go play twister!
Do I have to explain everything? If you take care of her, she will take care of you! If you spoil her rotten, she will do the same.....
Or, no more "cooking"!
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:43:04 AM | Not afraid of it at all and I'd happily trade you most all of those chores for the more typical "guy stuff" like fixing things as I find it much more fun.
Can you still be the one to kill the big spiders and stuff tho?  | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:14:20 AM |
So.. it has been my experience that girls are afraid of a guy that can cook, bake, sew, and clean. What is wrong with that? Yes those are the things that come to mind. Girls don't seem to mind the fact that we can work on cars or be handy around the house. So what gives??
Will you marry me? | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:58:57 PM | It could be that if they don't cook or sew or clean they might be afraid that the guy is showing them up(the girl) and making her look bad. I would love it if a guy can help out with all those items. It would give me a break.  | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 3:18:44 PM | OK, I have to be really honest here!!!! I could not contact you by email as they took my pic off because I was holding my grandchild !!!! And honestly I have not read a profile at POF in about a year that even interested me in posting a new photo!!!! If the photo is a big deal which I understand........ I can arrange for that!!!
I truly have not seen many men here or on any other site that describes the sorts of qualities, values and perspectives that you describe about yourself!!!! Sorry guys , maybe I have just overlooked you!!!! And if you are out there please respond!!
I am "intrigued" with what you call your "dark side"!! No problem playing the part of the "grateful woman" on the kitchen counter sipping wine while her man makes a scrumptous meal !!!!! This is just not a problem for me!!! A game of "Twister" afterwards sounds like fun. We could even throw in some melted dark chocolate and make it more interesting......goes great with red wine which I am sure you already know!!! And no explanation needed......in taking care of one another in the manner in which you would like to be treated....so simple ...don't know why people struggle with this!!!! Friends.... with the ex is a fabulous thing.....it speaks well for both parties!!!
Hope to hear from you.....even if it is to just chat!!!
"Excellent things are difficult and rare" and that is what I seek..... all of you out there have a wonderful day!!!! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 4:26:22 PM | | I LOVE dating someone who can cook, clean, etc. The last guy I dated was starting to teach me to knit. Do a lot of women really see any issue with these things? | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 4:36:16 PM | I LOVE dating someone who can cook, clean, etc.
Who wouldn't want someone to cook them a nice dinner? And clean up afterwards.
The last guy I dated was starting to teach me to knit.
And he's not around anymore because?
Do a lot of women really see any issue with these things?
Why would they. Something they would have a helping hand with. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 6:18:26 PM | Not afraid of it at all, maybe a bit surprised at times - especially if it is someone from my generation (40s-50s). What makes you think girls are afraid of you? Has someone said something specific? If so, it might be worth posting so that we can see what we think she means. It's a bit hard to work out what might be bothering them otherwise.
I was surprised when a guitar-playing guy friend of mine offered to mend the lining of a coat of mine. It was pretty much torn to shreds and would have taken a lot of patience to fix. I doubted that he had the skills (well, he'd never mentioned anything before) and that he had the patience. Well, he did it. He made lots of tiny stitches and the lining was pretty much restored afterwards. Turned out he worked as a tailor as a young man. It's unusual, but I wasn't afraid of him, more in awe. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:07:13 PM | | I don't mind a man that can cook :) That leads to some good times sometimes. I'm not "afraid" of a man that can do those things....I just would rather do some of those things myself. On the other hand - men seem threatened sometimes by the fact that I can work on my truck. I guess most people just have in their minds the way things "should" go and those things you listed are usually the woman's domain...not the man's. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:33:09 PM | Well if I met a man who could cook, bake, sew and clean and was happy to do it, I would not be afraid, very far from it. I'd be overjoyed! I guess I can imagine a woman who feels more comfortable in the 'traditional' female role and/or derives satisfaction or pleasure from doing those things might not like anyone else impinging on what she feels is her 'territory'.
But, as for me, domestic duties are a necessity that I derive no pleasure from. If I was with a man who wanted to get involved or 'take over' some of those areas, then YAY!!!! And certainly within a partnership where I was living with someone, I would expect my partner to share the load. | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:42:20 PM |
So.. it has been my experience that girls are afraid of a guy that can cook, bake, sew, and clean. What is wrong with that?
Absoulutely nothing wrong with that!!! Scare me?? not a chance!!! ... you can come over now acutally... I have lots of that stuff you can do around here  Where can I find someone like that??? geesh! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:43:38 PM | | I would love a guy who could cook, bake, sew and clean! That would be a dream come true! It would be one less thing a girl would have to do when they got home. If you are willing to pitch in and clean as well as cook I do not see why some women would be afraid of you! | |
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| Why are girls afraid of a guy that can.....?
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:27:00 PM | | No one would be afraid of a guy because he can cook, bake, sew or clean unless you incidentally left out a detail such as he is also an axe murderer. | |
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