| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:38:46 PM | just phone the guy and ask him how he feels.
when he asks who you are and battles to remember your name, maybe then you will get some closure.
he cheated on you - that means he moved on before you even knew that the relationship was over.
how much more time are you prepared to waste on him? | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:25:28 PM | That is called baggage and unless you get rid of it, your relationships in the future will be doomed.
Women do this all the time. You miss what you THINK your relationship was and not what the reality of it was. Someone cheated and you miss that? unreal.
You think it was so magical because of the time you put into it. You only think of the good things but you wont be real. Well it obviously wasnt very magical to him because he cheated. You are romanticizing something that wasnt good. He is much happier now and its obvious he has moved on without you so the good is only what you perceive it to be.
Unless you wake up and see the truth, then you will be hopelessly dysfunctional in the dating world. See how things really were, or be prepared for emptiness. You can do one or the other. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:44:08 PM | Definitely try to get back together with him. There is absolutley nothing crazy about wanting to show a guy he has total control over you and can have you back after cheating on you. I mean, what is a relationship without those whirlwind changes of emotions going form extreme highs to extreme lows? What better way to accomplish this than being cheated on, repeatedly even?
Finally, once he dumps you for good and you want to start dating again it would be really cool for you to hold something against men in general because you made the smart, self-respctul choice of going back to a cheater. This way you can be totally bitter and hostile towards any man that really likes you and would possibly treat you like gold. In turn, you can keep the drama in your life because that is what is important, not love and respect. OBVIOUSLY!!!!
Hooray for drama and treating women like crap! Too bad for guys like myself. Even when we try to train ourselves to treat women poorly, it's just not in our nature to do that to someone we like, let alone to someone we love. At least I know why I have been, and continue to be, single for so long. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:51:09 PM |
Face it, it's not that the men you're dating don't measure up to your ex, it's that none of them measure up to the person you think your ex *should* have been, but wasn't. And there ain't a man alive who can measure up to that kind of standard.
Very, very well said. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:02:22 PM | | great posts; you too SD. I remember 50 cent the rapper once was asked how come he had so many young girls, even young rich white girls wanting him; he said," the more you treat them like crap, the more they want you." | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 4:45:30 AM | Put a rubber band around your wrist and every time you think of him, snap it hard. You'll never get over him if you don't stop thinking about him and stop thinking about getting back together. He cheated. That means he chose someone else over you. That means it's over. If you got back together, you could just think about that mouth that is kissing you was licking someone else's c*nt while he was cheating on you - can you live like that, for the rest of your life? Can you ever trust him again? It's not worth it. You got away scott-free and now you just have to allow yourself to move on and enjoy life with someone new. Don't let him keep hurting you when he's not even around anymore.
You're not the first person to be cheated on and you're not the last either. I've been there and believe me I was deeply in love for 5 years - but when I found out he cheated, the only thing I wanted to do was snap his d*ck in a hot waffle iron. Life moves forward, never back. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 10:36:12 AM | nice point but a little extreme with the quote..
Sorry Valley Center; thats what he said and if you read the posts that's what it is. Just keeping it real. Thats the problem, we live in a sugar coated society. We need to see things as they are and look at peoples actions and not at their words. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:52:57 PM | get over it...
This is typical bad boy / nice girl rubbish.
She goes for the bad guys, then this is what she gets. Girls like this need to wake up...
yawn...next... | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:57:23 PM | In the year you have been apart what have you done for yourself to help you get over him? Anything?
Or have you just sat around, thinking about the good times and deluding yourself into thinking that the bad times weren't that bad?
He's an ex for a reason:
He had an orgasm in another woman. He let another woman touch him where you should have been the only one to touch. He kissed her and touched her like he touched you.
What does that mean? It means that the looks he gave you, the ways he touched you and the words he said meant nothing.
But, if you are all good with that... go ahead, call him up. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 4:17:52 PM | Yeah he must have been a great measuring stick to use. It is unfortunate that no one has measured up to him. ( Slight sarcasm, sorry I am blunt... what can I say)
His great qualities include.
He disrespects you by cheating on you.
He decides that you are not worthy enough for his loyalty then proceeds to act in a way which confirms it.
He makes a conscious decision to cheat, knowing that you will be hurt, emotionally drained,upset.... but does it anyways.
He potentially infects you with a STD.
Dishonest..... sneaks around.
Besides that...... he is a great guy.
Maybe if he put in even a fraction of your desire into the relationship, none of this would have happened. I guess actions DO speak louder than words.
You deserve, require, and should demand respect from the person you are with.
But you won't need to, when someone sees you as a partner, not an option. | |
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| Can't get over an ex...
Posted: 6/8/2008 5:32:12 PM |
nice point but a little extreme with the quote..
Every time I think to be nice to a girl, I remember that like you, they only respond to men who treat them like shit. Thank you for providing us with yet one more example of the truth! | |
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