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Posted: 5/28/2008 3:47:48 PM | | You sound like a real sweetie! easy going and good dates that are a break from the norm, i think youv just been unlucky with the last two girls. Keep fishing! good luck xxx | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 6:45:45 PM |
You sound like a real sweetie! easy going and good dates that are a break from the norm, i think youv just been unlucky with the last two girls. Keep fishing! good luck xxx
Thank you. I appreciate the complements. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 7:27:31 PM | he only reason I bother is for the desire of closure. I would like to hear the words "I am not interested in seeing you again" or something similar, and perhaps even a short explanation as to why. I am mature enough to take criticism and rejection, in fact I prefer it to the simple brushoff.
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If you want to raise your maturity a notch, don't worry about it. When you think about it, there is no social contract that says people who aren't interested in us (or flat out don't like us) need to explain anything. That's the deal. At best, we aren't their type, at worst we get a long list of our character defects. Sometimes its helpful to know what they are, in case we are personally blind, immature, selfish etc.
If you are lucky, once in a while someone will "clue you in". GO HOME AND WRITE THAT DOWN, you don't want to conveniently forget it in 2 weeks, and keep doing all the wrong things.
Sure you can call and ask "for an explanation". I feel that way right now about someone..but I feel more empowered that I have not. It also tells them, their opinions or life isn't the be all end all for us today. Then they might contact you....
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PRECISELY ---- ((((someone doesn't return your messages, and you try a second time, that's fine, because you never know if sometimes a message doesn't make it to a person or something goes wrong with their email or voicemail, but a third time is basically crossing the line into harassing a person)))) | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 7:53:43 PM | | Hey, OP, I'm not easily entertained by profiles, but yours really cracked me up! Don't be discouraged by these young girls. I remember how stupid I was at that age, too. But like others are saying, if someone becomes distant and doesn't return calls, take it as lack of interest and don't pursue. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but some people do not feel they owe you any kind of explanation or "closure" because they went out with you once or twice. For some, it's very confrontational and uncomfortable to have to tell you they are not interested and why. I think it is a good call dating women a few years older than you. They may be more on your wavelength and have better communication skills. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 7:56:53 PM | | In a perfect world - a text or phone call would be nice. Get use to it. That's the way things are. If you stay single for very long - you may be guilty of the same thing. Never say never. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 11:19:05 AM |
~Kyn~:
Wow...bloody long read OP...couldnt ya just have said I dated a coupla girls who had guys hanging around and both of them blew you off.
Kyn, you owe me a new keyboard because I just ruined mine when the coffee shot out of my mouth and nose from the laughter.
OP, they are either immature, uninterested or flakes (perhaps even a combination of all 3).
Block ‘em, forget ‘em and move on. They aren’t worth your time. | |
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Deonyx
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Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 1:58:28 PM |
Hey, OP, I'm not easily entertained by profiles, but yours really cracked me up! Don't be discouraged by these young girls. I remember how stupid I was at that age, too. But like others are saying, if someone becomes distant and doesn't return calls, take it as lack of interest and don't pursue. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but some people do not feel they owe you any kind of explanation or "closure" because they went out with you once or twice. For some, it's very confrontational and uncomfortable to have to tell you they are not interested and why. I think it is a good call dating women a few years older than you. They may be more on your wavelength and have better communication skills.
Thank you. I will return to this.
In a perfect world - a text or phone call would be nice. Get use to it. That's the way things are. If you stay single for very long - you may be guilty of the same thing. Never say never.
This is a bunch of BS, and is exactly what is wrong with people, and the world today. The small things just pile up to equal the despair that is felt by everyone, each day. Nobody cares for anyone other than themselves anymore. I refuse to "get used to it." This is how it is, yes, but I will fight it to my dying day because that is what I believe in. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 1:28:23 PM | ..........OUT ON A DATE AND HE'S DESCRIBING ANOTHER WOMANS LONG HAIR AND BREASTS, THAT HE COULDN'T GET TO DATE HIM WHAT 'S UP WITH THAT??????? | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:47:37 PM | .................AND THE MINUTE, I SAY I NEED SOME SPACE TO DIGEST OUR DATING HISTORY.........HE FINDS "ANOTHER " TO DATE RIGHT AWAY!!!.............HOW EASILY WE REPLACE ONE ANOTHER TODAY IN THIS "THROW AWAY" SOCIETY............NO WONDER WE ARE OUT HERE LOOKING FOR RELATIONSHIPS!.....ITS OUR "TOO CASUAL" HABITS AND ATTITUDES THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS EVERY TIME!!......................JUST GO TO THE "STORE " (OUR PC) OR (DATING SITES) .. AND FIND A NEW MODEL!!!!..............I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK ......
JAN | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 9:02:51 PM | wow.. sounds like you found some ladies.. with some drama.. keep on trying.. no worries.. lesson learned.. and dont let it stop ya.. .good luck  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 2:32:32 AM | | I jus read your story, the pointless essay on whinging about being rejected that it is! Chin up an go for girls who can atlest drink man! Everyone gets rejected from time to time. If you ask me internet dating shouldnt be taken too seriously anyway. There are far too many weirdos on this site. Thankyou for robbing my time i will now go back to living my life. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 9:58:29 AM | | seems pretty simple to me..they were dating more than 1 person...on your date with the 2nd girl u got to meet one of her other dates..he got pissed off...applied pressure to her and she dumped you...since it was only a 1st or 2nd date is it really that big of a deal? move on and find someone else to date! there your problem is solved! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 11:48:40 AM | Ummm...the second girl was probably all excited that the guy who wanted to be friends..but now doesn't...is now into her.
You just helped her get the guy that she wanted and was rejected by...before meeting you! | |
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