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Posted: 5/28/2008 3:36:53 PM | I don't know if I'd call it weird, but my "demographic" is certainly - um, what's the word? - challenging.
Middle-aged, average, non-relationship/monogamy inclined but also not quite promiscuous in the classic definition (indiscriminant, with many partners), with a job that often entails working during the traditional "dating" hours (evenings, weekends, holidays).
It's not as limiting as a few other examples on this thread, but it definately has its moments. | |
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| are you in a weird dating demographic
Posted: 5/28/2008 5:13:39 PM | The OP should hang out where other vegans hang out, where it's nothing weird and so he wouldn't feel like a freak -- like at their featured/favorite restaurants, or at some Meetup.com group, or maybe VeggieConnection.com if he can relax the requirement some.
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Posted: 5/28/2008 5:26:47 PM | Well OP, I can definitely relate- the ethical vegan issue along with various others- most importantly lack of religious belief and lack of desire to reproduce.
Where were you when I lived in Iowa a year ago? :)
I'll be home visiting next month so let me know if you would like a Red Avocado dinner companion (hope it's still open?) I have to say that I LOVE the Coop there too- much moreso than the Whole Foods down the street from me here.
Sorry to hijack the thread, lol. | |
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| are you in a weird dating demographic
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:41:28 PM | Come to the Seattle area, OP. Plenty of us non-meat eaters here. For the uneducated, here are some links on why people refrain from consuming animal products or meat:
http://whyiamavegan.com/
http://planetaryrenewal.org/ipr/vegetarian.html
--- GingersnapWA, whose wierd demographic is Christian disabled vegetarian! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:17:18 PM | Yeah for sure...young warm girls who believe after they graduate from high school they have to find a decent man to care for them and raise a family. You know Samantha Stevens type...she's out all day with the kids, fighting city hall, or going the PTA and trying to work with other local women to keep the neighbourhood safe, then I come home, get myself a drink, put my feet up and tell her about my day at the office. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:44:01 PM | Ya. I'm a fluffy 67 year old female who lives an hour and half away from the nearest Walmart/ER. I'm a Quaker with no TV. ETC. I haven't had all that much trubble meeting men that I like a lot. In fact, I'd say it's pretty likely I've met the one who wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and vice versa. Of course, neither of us are vegans, so there you go!
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Posted: 5/30/2008 10:32:54 PM |
Heres my dating demographic -
Im looking for a wild guy with tattoos, (think guns n roses type) with maybe some sensitive/moody eminem slung in for good measure... someone who has moral standards, likes the same music as me, maybe religious too , doesnt drink too much, doesnt do drugs, likes the family thing, is intelligent in a worldy way but down to earth at the same time.
Everything pretty much contradicts everything and I know im never gonna find this guy, which is why iv took it all off my profile and given up! so i think i am in a wierd dating demographic..
i would think that you could go for the internal qualities first since some of those things go hand in hand. get the guy who has moral standards, that doesn't drink too much or do drugs, likes family and is intelligent. then, EXPOSE him to the other things such as your music tastes and let him know you think he'd look hot with tattoos. i think it's much easier to bring the bad boy out of a nice guy than it is to turn a bad boy into a nice guy.
just my little theory. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 11:06:54 PM | | I think so...I am a mid 30's single parent of an elementary aged child. Either men are just looking for a women to start a family with at my age or they have already been divorced and are hardened to date another women with young children, OR they are still married. (I can't be sure about the happily part) | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 5:07:27 PM | Hey, thanks all for the replies ...
So yeah, seems like it's hard for all of us here. It's funny, some people seemed to answer this question with playful malice, taking stabs at Vegan. Some were actually in difficult demographics, as i conceived the definition -- feeling like they were in the wrong place, wrong time, were very unusually, or were looking for something very uncommon.
Most said that it's just a weird demographic being single, looking for someone "normal". Go figure.
A final note on the clever woman who considered my sanity, asking if I was looking for "MY TWIN", in caps, apparently for emphasis. Well, no, of course not -- even all vegans are not alike -- even after meeting a fellow vegan, you may find all the normal differences which prevent two people from hitting it off. As for the strong criteria, I thought some about how to explain -- for me, it would be like dating a racist. I'm not trying to equate meat-eaters to racists; it's just an analogy to show how someone's opposite ethics could prevent respect, admiration, and love from growing. I'd suspect that many of you could not love a racist, assuming that you were not one yourself. For me, the choice to date only another vegan amounts to that, and I know myself well enough to know my boundaries, and my criteria does not mean that i'm looking for a twin. One of me is more than enough, at times.
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| are you in a weird dating demographic
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:23:32 PM | | I only date guys with an advanced degree from a foreign country, apparently. Not intentionally, but pretty consistently. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 9:26:27 PM | Oh, and I have a good friend who's vegan, she also would only date vegans, but now she sort of relaxed that policy and is dating a guy who's kosher. Not exactly what she set out for, but they seem to work and understand each others strict dietary constraints as an expression of a belief system.
Anyway, I respect your choice of ethical expression, and am not trying to convert you to MOT or anything, just thought I'd share. | |
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| are you in a weird dating demographic
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:47:34 PM |
with me its like this, by the time i weed out the body size, tattoes, piercings, and lack of compatability and attitudes, and singles with families still at home, and girls that don't make out with critters or sleep with them,there is not awhole lot left to choose from.
Yeah, sounds like you're shit out of luck. LOL The tattoos alone would cut your choices in half. Personally... tatts, piercings, kids and pets are ok with me. You may have to lighten up on one or some of these things ...hmmmm....maybe the critters? People with pets live longer and healthier lives. Remember, the right fit doesn't have to be the perfect fit. Especially at our age....we'll most likely have to make some concessions. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 9:49:47 PM | I worked with a guy who told me he was a Vegan....I said "What's a Vegan"?
He said "I don't eat anything with a face"
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Posted: 6/2/2008 9:52:33 PM | | yeah, i feel for ya! it's hard to find the right person. even when you think you find someone who shares the same core values, sense of humor, great communication, interests and sexual attraction and drive, the whole thing can fizzle when you run into an emotional wall. either yours or the other persons. i guess it's always a crap shoot. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:02:24 PM | | this one made me laugh,really,,i have a cat and dog who do sleep with me,we cuddle and play before bedtime,,but i have to say, i do not make out with them.this is just so bizzare,how could you even suggest that?And to find the right fit,,you are very narrow minded. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:17:07 PM |
this one made me laugh,really,,i have a cat and dog who do sleep with me,we cuddle and play before bedtime,,but i have to say, i do not make out with them.this is just so bizzare,how could you even suggest that?And to find the right fit,,you are very narrow minded.
I think what he meant with the making out with pets part is pet owners who allow their dogs to lick their face. I hope that's what he meant. Surely he hasn't met any women who actually make out with their pets.......or has me? LOL | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 10:51:53 PM | While not vegan I am vegetarian. As a vegetarian I don't care one whit whether the person I'm with eats meat or not. Why would it? It's all about freedom of choice.
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