| | He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?Page 3 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | To answer the original question - a gentleman would never ask a lady what her so blunt a question as "how much do you weigh?" So, there is no need to respond in a lady-like manner when it happens.
If he asks how much you weigh, ask him how much he makes per year and how much is in his bank account. And press for actual numbers, because if he's demanding total honesty from you, you should get the same, right?
And then regardless of the answer, move on. Site's called Plenty of fish for a reason! ;) | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:43:29 AM | A gentleman SHOULDNT ask a lady her weight. The flip side is we shouldn't HAVE to ask either. (rolls eyes...) Some have been well.... lets just say SHOCKED when they met someone for the first time. This goes for guys and gals. The stories I have heard from the women I have met here put my stories to shame. So guys are as bad as women it seems in every way about lying about their weight. The funniest thing I have got from the women's stories is they say they get just as frustrated with men who lie about their height and how much hair they have on their head... (wink)
People.... all this stuff is going to be obvious when they MEET YA! LOL??? So then instead of being skinny, or heavy, or bald, or short...... your also a liar. NOT a good way to kick off a relationship. Just be HONEST!
And as some have pointed out actual weight isn't as important as just how you look and carry the weight.
The solution is OBVIOUS for both guys and gals.... Sorry if this offends but POST A CURRENT FULL LENGTH PIC. Not just a facial shot. Why make anyone try and GUESS what your going to look like when you walk through the door? I love it when I walk in and the woman sighs and looks relieved and says..... OMG you look just like your pics.
Look everyone goes for different body types. Some of you gals and guys seem embarrassed by being over weight. Someone loves ya OK ! I am the opposite. I'm slender (never say SKINNY please... lol)
I have MULTIPLE current pics showing my body size. Many women do not want someone with my build just like some do not want someone heavy. Best to know up front so we don't waste time! The goal here is to MEET someone so they are going to find out eventually right? Just be honest from the beginning. It all sorts out for the best if your just honest. I think the resentment and frustration on here comes when people misrepresent themselves or....... perhaps we at times just have VERY different ideas of what the body type terms on here mean exactly. What "average" means to you.... may mean something TOTALY different to me. Same with "athletic" or a "few lbs over". There is tons of wiggle room in that broad of a term for personal judgement.
Now USUALLY folks that claim to be thin or bbw know what they are pretty much.... (wink) You RARELY see someone that claims one of the extremes, be WAY off base. LOL.
But the other three body types on here vary wildly as far as what an individual views themselves as. And I don't see any viable solution to the problem here other then simply...... post a CURRENT full length pic. We are not asking for bathing suit pics here ! Wear something like you would actually wear to MEET SOMEONE from POF. That does not have to be revealing. Wear cowboy boots and jeans and a T-Shirt if that's what you would picture yourself showing up for a drink or coffee wearing!!! Be YOURSELF !! But be honest here also.
Now look !!! I have not in any way complained about ANYONE else's body type. Please do NOT start in on me here. (LOL) I have no room to be talking about anyone elses body for SURE! LOL All I am saying is everyone should include at least one full length pic of SOME KIND that's current and reflects your body type.
I wish everyone here only the best of luck in their online quest.
Kindest Regards
Cowboy | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 7/15/2008 8:58:24 AM | LADIES..... COME ON!!!!!!
I do not ask women what there weight is because for one I don't care, and second and most important my daddy told me a long time ago "that is just something you never ask a lady".... With that being said, I do not mean this in a rude way... but when a guy ask you what your weight is, he does not really want a number.... he is asking you if you are fat.... and by that he wants to know if you look fat. Guys know that diff people have diff shapes and heights and all that, that ya'll have been posting about.... he just wants to know if you look fat.... I know I will get a few hate post from some mad women, but like I said, I'm not trying to be rude I'm just putting the answer out there.... If I offended you I'm sorry  I'm 6'4" and 240# now ya'll know | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 7/23/2008 6:24:54 PM | My answer to that question is: Guess :)
That's good because either they go sheepish on the whole subject and dont worry about not knowing, or they guess low and are pleasantly surprised at how I wear it. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 7/31/2008 11:10:38 AM | The way to respond to a rude jerk like that is to say, "I weigh the same as you!"
He'll run.
Double-standard, but maybe, just maybe it made him think and face himself in the mirror! ;) | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:50:37 PM | It doesn't matter to me if they want to ask my weight........but they may not get the answer they are looking for. I told one guy: " My target weight to get back down to, to look skinny, is 150 lbs.....now .....would you like to guess how much I weigh?" He declined the offer. 
I'm 5'6" and I have large bones. If I weighed 150 lbs, I would look really skinny......160 lbs looks the best on my skeleton and I'm still dancing to get back down there.  | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 8/1/2008 6:49:09 AM | A Tax Lady -- I can assure you that your experience with this man and that particular question will be common-place for any person (male or female) who chooses not to include a photo of themself on their profile. I actually agreed to a "Meet & Greet" last Spring with a woman who refused to offer a photo of herself in advance. She asked me what I was looking for in a woman -- wanted specific physical details, so I showed her photos of some women I'd dated in the past -- she assured me that I would be pleasantly surprised when I saw her. I think you can guess my reaction when I saw her -- nevertheless, I sat and talked with her for nearly an hour -- did I feel like I'd been decieved -- Hell Yes, and that's an experience I'll try hard not to relive.
I dated a woman last year who was a habitual liar -- and I'm being nice in saying this -- she had some very nice qualities --she was gorgeous, she was a FANTASTIC kisser, good dancer (and all that goes with that -- use your imagination!  ), lived a healthy life-style, but when I would catch her in a lie, she would become hostile -- as long as she was able to circumvent my suspicisions, she was fine, but when she felt the "Exit Door" to her lying being blocked, she would try to flip it all around and try to make me feel bad by asking her to be honest with me -- go figure, huh
Anyway, my point is this -- Weight is a part of who you are and what you are, in the same what that smoking is a part of who you are and what you are, in the same way that gambling is a part of who you are and what you are -- and the logic continues ...
If I want a woman who will be around for me in my later years, then I wouldn't choose a woman who smokes. It sounds like you've had some bad experiences with people asking you that question -- I'd suggest that you find a way of being honest with them in your reply by simply offering them a visual image of yourself. HTH | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 8/1/2008 6:56:17 AM | Well thought-out reply Cowboy -- I can't see anyone flamming ya for your sentiments here. I agree with ya on this one
I love it when I walk in and the woman sighs and looks relieved and says..... OMG you look just like your pics. -- I get that alot too, and I want to say to them, "Well, I hope so, because some of those photos were from 2-weeks ago!"
Cozy | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 8/1/2008 10:32:57 PM | '"how strong is your back?" pick me up and guess?
well my fugly pic is me too and if another can get away with what she gets away with.. why not? it's POF and no one emails me anyway! I dont think I can get much worse? so if and when they do get thru their "shallowness" they might just be in for a pleasant surprise? and I wont look anything like my pic! | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:52:32 PM | HHHHHMMMMM Welll isnt this special question something to think about.
I get asked this all the time by Children and I say um
Do you ask Santa this question and they actually think about that before they say NO!!
and I have never been asked this by a Date because it is part of my Conversation before I meet them. so if yall want me for my Weight then you should be on Match Dot Com. anyway This Kinda is Pissing me off send me his Number so I can go over some Manners with HIM it is a HIM isnt it?
Yall Have a Nice Day  
DUDE | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:42:26 AM | I don't get it If a man doesn't like a woman because of her size or because she has kids all men are a**holes. Most women don't like guys that are short, fat, skinny, bald, or broke. Some women don't like guys that have kids, don't drive a nice car, no college degree, bad job, don't like a guy because of his eye, skin or hair color. Women find the silliest reasons not to give a guy a chance I've never heard a guy say I won't date a girl that doesn't drive a sports car or pick-up truck or she isn't tall enough. When it comes down to it women are more shallow than men.
Just for the record I don't think all women are shallow I'm trying to make a point that just because a man doesn't like you for your appearance doesn't make him an a**hole. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:40:26 PM | I have yet have a man ask me what I weigh....But I would have no problem telling..I yam what I yam...Can't and Don't hide it....
I am 5 7 and weight appx 160 ..But wear a size 10 ...And most men have no idea what pounds and sizes really mean....
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/19/2008 10:53:23 AM | | Maybe it is shallow of him and even rude...But I have had sooooo many worse questions than that really, I wish my weight was what they were asking me about. Out of 50 emails 3 are worth responding to after the first three. I have never in my life been asked these types of questions, so yeah, just don't respond to his mail anymore if it really bothers you. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/19/2008 10:49:23 PM | | I think people want to know what the are getting into before they meet someone. I'm sure a woman would be pissed if they drove across town to meet a guy who was 5' had no job and lived with his parents. If you don't post a pic expect people to ask questions like that. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:31:18 PM | Well, if some women weren't hiding themselves by not showing photos of themselves we wouldn't have to wonder or ask. Especially when you talk to someone that has only facial photos shown & a body type of 'Average' listed, they are basically lying & misrepresent themselves when they show up & they are over weight.
Personally, I made sure to show full body shots & a couple that feature my lovely love handles, lol. I don't have a problem with a woman that has a few extra pounds, but I do, however, have a problem with someone that lies or feels they need to hide this fact. If you aren't happy with yourself, or at least accepting of yourself enough to post accurate photos & honestly represent yourself, you likely will fail in a relationship....it's rather hard to be happy with someone else when you are not happy or content with yourself.
Another helpful tip, if you are posting pics that are old, put dates on the captions to distinguish which ones are recent & accurately depict you.
Did you ever think that some of us are asking questions like this or for pics of you from head to toe because we've been deceived before? Nothing irks me more than feeling like I hit it off with someone only to show up & see they have already been lying to me or misleading me. That is no way to start a friendship/relationship! If you truly value honesty, start by being honest with yourself. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/24/2008 6:28:34 AM | | I would tell him exactly what I weighed. It is best to be honest and have no surprises upon meeting in person. I would then ask him exactly how much he weighed and if he had a beer gut. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/24/2008 8:47:28 AM | | I've had women tell me way more embarrassing things that sent me running...suck it up and just say it. We're going to find out anyway and if you've been hiding it, that will kill any chance of a romantic connection. We all know 90% of POF'ers are deceiving themselves and their prospective mates. The old saying "a gentleman should never ask..." applied when you dated from within your own social circle. Quit living the past; after all...this is internet dating. | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/27/2008 10:06:17 AM | Well, clearly weight means something to him. So, I woulda told him. Simple enough. Save each other time. I see no beneficial purpose in lying about the weight or ignoring the question.
--Curtis | |
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| He asked What do you weigh? What would you say?
Posted: 9/30/2008 11:15:54 AM | I don't ask that question of any woman I think is north of 120 pounds. Any woman less than that will probably answer with a laugh.
As much as I think his asking the question was rude, if I were bored enough to chat up women without photos, I can't think of a more relevant question. | |
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