| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:33:58 AM | | My instincts tell me this guy is a scammer...it won't be long before he starts asking you for money. I would be extremely careful! Good Luck! | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:56:06 AM | OP, "This guy sounds a bit creepy to me"...Youve never met?...This guy is using the big "L" word already (love)...He is either a scammer or a lonely emotional wreck...
Spend time getting to know someone...Meet them first...Im sorry for ya, "You seem like a nice person"...Some guys play on the unsuspecting and sweet woman"...Emotional predator alert... | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 1:23:34 PM | | PLEASE and I'll say it again... PLEASE be careful... When I started playing on dating websites - I soon realized that every guy who goes "out of the country" falls in love quickly... It's almost like a scam and I've been scammed before.... He'll love you to death and then all of a sudden he's trapped somewhere and needs MONEY!!! Yes... MONEY!! Just be aware... I'm not saying this guy is a scammer - but his M.O. seems very familiar... | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:00:57 PM | | Does he have a foreign accent? is his spelling a bit dodgy? The fact that he has mentioned Africa sounds scammish to me... and he has called you from there. I mean come on how many guys honestly do all this travelling abroad and whatnot??? hmmm the plot thickens. lol | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:48:48 PM | n... he has been chatting with me on yahoo im reguarly and calling me from Africa and England (sites he works in as a mining engineer) ... but he has bee
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Please Please Please, read about preventing internet scams...Guess what the reason is African ISP sources are not allowed on POF? Ever heard the word NIGERIAN SCAM. There's thousands of them (scams in general). I'm sure POF has one, CL, MySp, etc. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:02:28 PM | Run???? Dont run- freaking meet him for Gods sakes-
fuck this lonely heart, live safe red flag shit.
He just might be just what you need- don't listen to these flag
wavers!!! Take a chance in fucking life- meet him!!! He may
be nothing you want and then again he may be everything you want.
Meet him.
He sounds like a good guy- so he said he loves you- you probably make his
day brighter and thats how he expresses himself- yeah some people do have
heart.
Creepy??? The only thing creepy around here is how everyone
locks thier doors and pulls thier blinds as soon as someone shows emotions
around here- give him a chance.
A Nigerian scam!!! His mom watches the kid in Pennsylvania for God Sakes-
God - you know what - I give up- lock your door and pull the fucking blinds.
Good luck. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:13:47 PM | | HMMMMMM met a guy on this same site that was soooooo similar... said he was in west africa settling his dads estate.... turned out he was a FRAUD.... scamming for money... he said he had a house in the next town over from me, that he would be returning to, but then i noticed he knew NOTHING of the area... said he loved me... i wasnt impressed and started investigating... asked him for his local phone and address... turned out to be a little old lady whom had never heard of him.... I shut him down real fast.... be careful when dealing with ANYONE when you dont feel quite right.... just my opinion..... | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:15:39 PM | Seems more than a bit sketchy to me......
Sorry-I think you're being taken for a ride. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:35:22 PM | Honey, there isn't a woman alive who hasn't attracted a jerk. Don't be so hard on yourself.
I am afraid I have to agree with everyone here that the "love" guy is a scammer. It's just amazing that these guys do what they do and do it with such finesse and tenacity. Give yourself a pat on the back for realizing these weren't on the up and up with him and stopping short of being another victim. Yay for you.
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:35:23 PM | | OP - My instincts say scammer as well. Always be wary of those who profess their "love" too soon. Especially if you haven't met. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:35:55 AM | *Major Red Flag* . . . Africa . . !!!
~ Just keep Looking ~
...for someone more domestic .. and dedicated .. to You..!! | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:52:43 AM | 1) listen to your gut. Of course he's moving too fast, he's in love with being in love
2) figure out EXACTLY what you want. Stick to it
3) Plan out what you're going to do if he doesn't like "no" for an answer. He will probably accept it--after a while--but he lives close by. Best to plan for the worst and expect the best...than to get surprised.
4) if this ever happens again with a fellow: the first time he says he loves you when he doesn't know you, ask him what exactly he loves about you. Quiz him until he realizes he doesn't know you well enough. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:37:20 PM | however, there are so many threads on here about first date sex and how lots of long term relationships got started that way and how MANY men post that sex on the first date, if the person is right for them, doesnt deter a relationship- so I think it has more to do with a case by case basis--
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Well I have only seen two threads, and both were started by the same guy. Trust me my dear, If we have sex on the first date, its' probably the last date too. It goes both ways. Its the women I really like that I get all nervous about and want to "make sure she is really interested. etc | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:14:09 PM | Africa huh?
I met someone on here that mentioned he worked in/out of Africa... but claimed to live near me and was willing to relocate.
He came on strong right away, not saying that he loved me, but almost immediately said I was his girl and that it was just the two of us.
But we'd only IM'd... and we'd never even met in person... wtf!?
I was weirded out. And games, a scam, whatever it was he was trying to do with me did not work.
I never spoke to him again. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:27:16 PM |
This guy says he's a Christian and goes to the local church...
Find out which church, then go see if anyone knows him.
How do you know he's called from different countries?
Have you met his mom or child? Ask yourself how someone could 'love' you when you've never met the child and he has no idea how you would behave with his kid.
Lot's of questions, no answers. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 6:19:41 PM | "He doesn't love you. He loves some idea he has in his head of you. Until you meet in person. All this is an illusion. So be careful of those who profess their love this soon."
exactly
could be a host of things: a scam, possible deviant, could be truly a really hurting guy but not read and unresolved greif and reaching out and grasping any attention mistaken as love, looking/hoping for a rescuer?
Becareful, too many people getting hurt these days, if you sense something wrong, step back, watch, if he gets demanding, sounding paranoid, or talking about his life being over, etc; cut it all off for your own sake | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:15:09 PM | How do you know for sure that he's a homeowner here? My friend met someone who was in England but travels often and he said all the right things too soon to her too--rushing things. She started having feelings for him thinking he was for real. Then after several weeks, he asked her to send him money so he could come visit her in Calif. She actually did that and sent him $300 & she of course lost the money and never heard from again. Your friend's circumstances sound very similar. I'd be very careful with him & never send anyone money no matter what they say.
Stay Safe. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:23:21 PM |
... but he has been telling me he loves me the past few days. I am totally unsure of this! We havent even met yet!
He's going WAY too fast! I waited until I had been dating my ex-gf for 6 MONTHS before saying "I love you".
I hate to say this, but I feel he is trying to use you to fill a void left by his deceased wife. And that's not what you want. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:31:47 PM | | Hi there, Poetic Bliss. Here's what I think. Okay, this doesn't sound good....that's been established. However, if you have any reasonable doubts that maybe he is on the level, hang back and see if he ever comes "home" to his place close to you. Let him make all the arrangements, and do not go out of your way to give or send him anything. Just wait and see. I'd be really really leery of a guy who says he is in love with someone he never met. I had this happen to me once with a guy on my reptile forum. I found out later that he was seducing a young girl on IM at the same time (I think, even during our IM conversation where he was telling me he was in love with me). I know how much you want to trust, but I'd keep my guard up on this one. Nothing wrong with making a guy prove himself a little. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 1:29:40 AM | similar thing happened to me ..... a guy was telling me he loved me before we met ...
when we did meet it was fantastic and it was like love at first site for us both and i thought i had finally met the one
BUT !!!
after 6 weeks of romance and falling deeper and deeper in love .... he had money problems and i was buying his fags, drinks, paying for take aways ... giving him cash ... i spent a fortune trying to help him and im a single mum on benifits... he even wanted to move in with me secretly to avoid his debt problems and i quote "hide" for a couple of years ... this was when i found out he had £30,000 worth of debts chassing him... but love is blind ... and i did all i could to help.... then one day, he vanished ... and broke my heart badly ...
so be dam careful ... keep your eyes open and stay in reality what ever you decide
good luck | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:05:21 AM | Yah...I agree....
Move on from this one....the red alarm is flashing big time. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:14:25 AM | lets be frank Ms. Bliss
on your profile..
you said, you're looking for you (someone)
now that you find it.. and the min someone give you that attention.. it's another plm.
i think youre just overwhelm.. wouldnt think or expected someone would give you that attetion..
so what if he said he loves you.. im like that too..
how about this.. Jesus loves you, but hes not IN love with you.
he could be saying the same..
love you!  | |
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