| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:24:40 PM | if you're looking for marriage then first date sex isn't the route to take. Sure some people here claim LTR based on it but aren't they all divorced, too? Yeah, that strategy works real well, NOT!
Anyways back to your story, sounds like a scammer to me. I did date a middle eastern woman off of here and she told me she loved me after just 1 week in person dating! I hated hearing it. It turns out she was totally superficial - fancy cars, rich daddy, plastic surgery, fancy clothes but nothing under the surface at all. It might possibly be a cultural thing perhaps but I only know a few ppl from the middle east and they happen to all be that way but I don't want to generalize and one shouldn't do that about anyone.
Be that as it may, Africa and on travel a lot smacks of SCAM big time. Report him to admin and be done with him, protect others from him, too. You're probably not the only one he loves...
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:07:51 PM | OP,
He had you at hello.
I've never gotten to the asking for money phase.
I have a formula I've used that works quite well.
If a man has just 1 picture and 2 lines of text in his description or no picture at all he gets blocked. (2 or more pictures are harder to get for scammers and a picture of his dog or car doesn't count).
If he smells like a scammer, quacks like a scammer, and talks like a scammer. He gets blocked.
Does it mean there's a chance I blocked a good one? Maybe, I'll take my chances.
Better safe than sorry.
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:32:58 PM | My only scammer "lived in AZ," was a "gold-prospector," whose "wife had died in a car accident four years before," and "God had directed him to me." Unfortunately, before I got to play with him, Markus deleted him. So I guess I wuzn't the only one God had directed him to. . . . I *did* take a *really* good look at my profile to see if there was anything obvious that had gotten me on his list. . . . . I finally decided it was just my age. Never had another.
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:57:36 PM | *insert RED FLAG emoticon here!!!*
if he's not a scammer he's bonkers for sayin he loves you and hasn't met you. but... the in love with love thing... that could be right on the money. i've met a few of those guys and one even told me he loved me on the second date.
you wanna see a chubby girl run??? tell me you love me on the second date. :P | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:09:42 PM | he is from a middle-eastern background but he says he has dual citizenship with England and the US
Wouldn't he have triple citizenship? England, the US and his home country?
As for sex on the first date, one time a lady and I did, plus a few times later, and a week later she dumped me. She said that wasn't the reason but who knows? There can be as many reasons as there are people. Maybe she didn't like guys who'd do it on a first date.
As long as both enjoy it and no pernicious microbes cross over, what harm?
Back to the main point, best is to cut and run. Your playing him may set in motion events in which you do not want to be involved. You really don't know with whom, and possibly what, you are dealing. Run don't walk and as soon as possible.
if you're looking for marriage then first date sex isn't the route to take. Sure some people here claim LTR based on it but aren't they all divorced, too? Yeah, that strategy works real well, NOT!
As a matter of fact my wife is dead, not divorced. Short answer: No. | |
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| What's the SOS part?
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:12:35 PM | Now I admit I think he's pretty interesting and has a very spiritual/emotional side that is awesome- BUT I am starting to worry that he is moving too fast and concerned for intentions... what do I do????? Seems a bit sketchy ...
YOU TELL HIM EXACTLY THE ABOVE..."you're a pretty interesting guy and you have a spiritual emotional side that is awesome but I am starting to worry that you are moving too fast for me"
BELOW IS YOUR ANSWER.....
He said that he respected my position and wouldnt push the matter but that he felt what mattered most was "our" feelings.
OP...what's the emergency.... why all the drama? is there a shot gun wedding at your back? doubtful.. Do you... love him...no. End of problem..imho
does he (realistically) love you .. without actually having met? ..
..my guess...negative..
you labeled him a lonely hearts club type..
ouch. do you see yourself that way ..is that what you are attracted to....
forget the continent...that's a red herring OP...(pardon the pun POF..)
what are ..your own ...personal boundaries ....with.. ANY.. .man
do have any
your own side of the street...OP what does it look like?
Check it out..... before you cry wolf | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:57:06 AM | Yes! Very careful about strange emails from Nigeria... Once had the exiled president send me an email needing to deposit $1mil into my account and he'd give me $600,00 just to cash it out... Oh! OK... | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:30:33 AM | Why do i get the feeling this guy is a scammer.
What ever you do- DO NOT GIVE HIM MONEY.
dead wife, little kid, all over the world sounds like a scam. Really odd. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:14:17 AM | | Any guy (or person) that claims they LOVE somebody just by internet contact - has some loose screws... Can you say DESPERATION??? Oy... move on... | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:20:30 AM | 419 scammer.
I'd bet his posts aren't in perfect English, right? Gets his pronouns wrong and refers to his wife as him at times? Yahoo email address?
Trace the IP to Nigeria? | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:16:55 AM | | Same story happened to me and he was a nigerian scammer...LOOK out!!!!!! | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:09:43 AM | | He is grieving the loss of his wife. You are not his wife. It will take maybe another year, in order for him to get over the loneliness and realize that he is no longer married, and cannot have sex, right off the bat, as if he were married. He is confused. He belongs in a grief support group... not on-line in plenty of fish. Is he on any other dating site? Maybe you should befriend the lady who cares for his son.... but let him know that you feel creepy about him, asking up front for sex. Maybe, considering that he is traveling abroad, he has frequented prostitutues. Sometimes it is easier in foreign countries. | |
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| He Says He loves me!! SOS
Posted: 5/31/2008 9:00:59 AM | I'd treat this as if it was any situation where your dating partner professes feelings that you don't have. You let them know how you DO feel about them but tell them you're not at that level yet (or that you're not sure you are). Tell them you'd like to continue dating them and see where your feelings go...or some such thing.
Most people understand that they may not be getting the L word back at them. | |
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