| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 6:09:57 PM | *clears throught*
dear my_angel_eyes,
This is a messy ordeal, stringy and so many other metaphors,
I will defend men everywhere and say, we don't simply expect sex, were just much looser about the subject
*do guys talk the talk, and not walk the walk*
We like to talk the talk, followed by soon there after walking the walk, but if the walk is an obstacle course and he's really not into the gauntlet event, it may cause him to back out.
*do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it*
Do you?
were human too, something doesn't fit... to the curb, hence, why men don't have the infimous "skinny jeans" women hold on to in hopes of fitting back in them
Simply it's our way of handeling it
*do you have differnt standards for differnt women?*
yes.... yes we do, much like women have of men. . . one mold does not fit all
Putting it simply a civic will always be a civic no matter how many bmw parts you put on it. So unless your our dream car, expect a bumpy ride | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:04:34 PM | I'm guessing you're high mantainance just from what you said and he didn't know if he wanted to invest that much time with a tease any way. He adverses for sex on another site? Well...guess you know he's not a homo and doesn't mind some of the women you say you're not like...you have too much class.
A big mistake women make when they're interested in a man is thinking they'll play games and it's all about them. NO...what ever attracts you to him attracts your competion as well and perhaps they weren't raised with quite as much "class" In other words...they're the full meal deal while you're just another menu.
I'm not suggesting you jump his bones when you first meet, but you said you're "flirting?" Could that also be construed as teasing?
I don't see this guy as shy. I see him as seeing you with walls that he isn't sure he wants to work that hard to get over. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:24:00 PM | well im soooo not high maintence its laughable!
I flirted - i touched - used my eyes - my speach - dressed sexy ,but classsyI did like him and would have liked things to have gone to another stage. I am not a flirt or a tease.
I dont think a girl has to drool over a guy and/or make a sult of herself in order to get noticed.
I do think there are classy guys out there that want a classy lady! | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:25:37 PM |
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
Personally, it's a no on 1 and 3. I don't have much talk, but what talk I do talk I walk.
2? Yes of course I do. Most normal guys do to one degree or another. He's probably just nervous. He doesn't want to blow what he's got, and he's too damned scared to risk taking it further only to be shot down. He's also lousy at reading the signs you're giving out - it's all fairly typical behaviour.
If he's spending time with you he's probably interested, so there are two ways to look at it. Either discount him as a coward or give the poor sap a break and be so overt that he may just spot the signs. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 2:36:47 PM | Sounds to me like he just seen you as a friend, someone he could flirt with in a friendly/fun manner but that was all.
He was not willing to give you mixed signals and so it didn't go past friendship and that feeling did not change for him. Yes guys might get shy at times, but if they really like you as more then a friend and you have dated them three or four times, they will let you know it. Yes guys have different standards for women, some woman fall into the friend category and some are potentially long term relationship material. It's no different then how women see different guys, some are just friends ect. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 4:25:40 PM | 1) Yes some guys talk the talk but don't walk the walk. Women can be the same way. Most people know this, the trick is being able to quickly discern who follows through and who does not, and what you might do or not do about it depending on your level of interest.
2) Yes some people get shy or get stage fright and are more comfortable acting as a friend even if they really want more. Everyone has issues and nobody is perfect. If you wanted more, instead of waiting for him to make a gesture, it is just as much your responsibility to ask, "Where do you see this going?" or, "How do you feel about this so far?" There is nothing classless about being honest and direct, and there are ways to find out if a guy likes you more than a friend besides sticking your tongue down his throat. Also, you know that funny feeling you get when you like a guy and he puts his hand on yours for the first time? Well, guys get the same feeling when someone does that for them. This is the new milennium and people *really* need to stop expecting other people to read their minds or to always be the pursuer. I can't blame another person for my own failure to act.
3) Yes, a person will have different relationships and reactions/feelings with different people. For example, I don't have the same relationship with all my friends. I have a unique connection with each one of them. And of the women I've dated, the relationship has progressed in a different way and at a different pace with each of them.
Hope this helps. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:46:57 PM | Angel eyes-- YOUR FLIRTING IS SWEET , NOT RAUNCHY.
How very nice FOR YOU.
Its amusing to read how you try to conjure up all possible reasons & fully avoid facing the reality that this guy was NOT into you AT ALL!
RAUNCHY or AS SWEET AS Marie Osmond -- you were a "pass" in his mind.
STAGEFRIGHT ? What are you talking about .... an audition for American Idol? | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:45:33 PM | I'm just curious to know- did you ever ask him if he was interested in taking things further? It could be that he was terribly shy or insecure and not forward at all wrt intimacy. It sounds as tho you gave him all the *usual* signs to show your interest.
I think I would've asked him outright- in a text or email, you know the really assertive way!
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:04:28 PM | | if the man is really into you, maybe. in this case, he doesn't sound that interested. you were nice company and he was giving it a try. be glad he wasn't a player. :) | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:09:10 AM | So what i am asking is :
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
*- probably not true.
*- sure, but I deal with it and do the thing anyway 'cuz if I don't, then I'm in trouble.
*- nope. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:40:31 AM |
* do guys talk the talk and not walk the walk?
I'm sure some guys do, and I'm sure most don't... Men, just like you lady types, come with a variety of options...
* do you get shy/stage fright or whatever you want to call it
Stage fright would be the wrong term really...
I wouldn't "make a move" until I was fairly sure it would be well received - so I'd probably flirt back and see how you reacted before draging you off to the love lair lol.... I'd need to know that you were comfortable, and genuine - not just flirting because you thought it expected of you...
* do you have differnt standards for differnt women?
No. I'm terrified by all of you lol
Martin. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:10:55 AM | | Most guys simply don't read woman's sexual 'hints' at all. We cannot tell if you're just being nice, or if you want to jump our bones. So, most of the time, we just play it safe. If you like this guy, you're probably going to have to TELL HIM, or do something blatantly sexual, and I mean blatantly sexual as defined by a guy. Hand him your panties or something. That should do it. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:13:55 AM | A few years went by? Maybe he had just gone through a divorce a few years back when you met and was just getting "back into dating." After a while of that maybe he decided he didn't want to jump through hoops and just wanted sex...
It might not mean anything. I myself created a profile at one of those sites about 6 months ago... After looking around a couple of days I figured that wasn't where I wanted to be. Never bothered deleting the profile so it is probably still up there... I wouldn't read too much into it without talking to him about it. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:21:02 AM | | OP...Your problem was that you were playing games or as you women call it "flirting". Men hate game playing ( unless it involves a football, basketball or baseball ). We want a straightforward approach...just tell us what you want without the games. You would have been better off just jumping in his lap and sticking your tongue down his throat, then you would have gotten what you wanted. Don't worry about what other people think or what they might call it ( e.g. "raised with class" as you describe it ). They are not living your life. Ask for what you want and you'll probably get it. | |
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| do guys get shy/stagefright/ etc ?
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:29:26 PM | I have to agree with someone else that it was very likely he was not attracted to you.
Some guys talk the talk and do walk the walk but there's always the blowhard.
Yes, guys do get stage fright. I was once terrified to speak in front of a large croud. Now, I don't relish the idea or even volunteer for such a thing but if I had to do it, it's much easier for me.
Yes, some guys are shy of girls although they would never admit in front of other guys.
Many guys have double standards when it comes to women. For example, it's ok if he cheats but if he catches you looking at another guy, talking more than 30 seconds with another guy, or even shaking hands with another guy you then become the whore he hates. Those guys are psychos.
In this case I don't think a standard came into play. It's easy to talk on the phone. It's just one voice to another with no face to see. One can pretend to be some big man to a woman when he's actually just a mouse. It's quite another to talk with someone else, especially a woman, face to face. He may have found himself intimidated by you.
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