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Posted: 5/29/2008 6:51:29 PM | OP, why have you been so generous with the BJs all this time? I'd have said 'well, it's getting late. How about you go home'?
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Posted: 5/29/2008 6:55:43 PM |
Not everybody has the same preferences. Let me ask you this - if the roles were reversed, you didn't like bj's - would you expect him to dump you?
I get what you're saying, but this guy is happy to not only accept BJs from her, he never reciprocates, even though she let him know she'd like him to. Now, I'm not into oral sex, giving or receiving, so I'd never expect a guy to go down on me. Since he doesn't seem to be into giving, maybe he shouldn't have accepted BJs, either. In other words, he should've been honest.
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:17:33 PM | I had the opposite problem with my ex..
I like to eat ****.. maybe it's because I'm a Scorpio and really love to get passionate.
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:22:02 PM | | I'm thinking he is either scared to let you down or the other popular opinion that he is just out for himself. Besides the oral, does he please you ? | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:31:34 PM | | why can`t you just talk to him about it?? It`s amazing how people have sex with each other but can`t have a honest conversation about it...... | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:34:47 PM | | And here I am on the other end my better half is not into oral. I love giving oral and think it is a very important part of a good relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:45:13 PM | Op, i wonder if HE would stick around if the roles were reversed & YOU were the one getting all the oral,but NEVER gave him a b'job........................
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Posted: 5/29/2008 7:48:06 PM | Sex is not THE most important part of a relationship, however, it is a HUGE part of any healthy relationship.
As much as people want to say it's not that big of a deal, we all know it is. If you cannot openly communicate your wants, needs, and desires about everything...including sex, well then I'd have to say the relationship will not last very long.
You should be able to talk about sex in and out of the bedroom.
I know I personally LOVE oral sex BOTH giving and receiving. IF my partner wasn't into it, I would have to say it would be a deal breaker for me. But these are things I would be sure to find out up front before things got to that stage and deep connections started to form.
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| Just eat me already!
Posted: 5/29/2008 8:57:51 PM | | The popular opinion seems to be to dump him, but I think you should at least try and bring it up one more time, but in a more direct manner. And then if he either dodges the issue, or ignores you...you can dump his selfish a$$ | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 9:04:52 PM | | OMG...I'd rather eat pu$$y than food and I'm hungry all the time!! Tell this dude to turn in his man card immediately! | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 9:19:02 PM |
What gives with this guy? Should I dump him? Would you stay with someone who expected to only receive oral and not give?
As one of my ex-girlfriends once told me, ``I give because I like to receive.'' If you take that approach with your boyfriend, I think your situation will resolve itself. I would not date someone who did not like both giving AND receiving. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 9:19:44 PM | WOW talk about a big red flag!!!!!! I wonder what else hes gonna be selfish about??
Thats why a lot of us are on here in the first place is that we didn't heed those warning signs.
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Posted: 5/29/2008 10:03:38 PM | | They say there's one born every minute!! I can't believe that some people are that gulible in life. He's enjoying himself and you??? | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 10:36:15 PM | I agree, if a guy is good with his hands, then oral is just an extra. HOWEVER, if he insists on a BJ, then by GOD he should at least try oral...who knows, he might like it!
PS: maybe he's had a bad experience? Talk about it, and not just with hints ... | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 11:19:17 PM | yea, maybe he's had a 'stinking' bad experience!
Assure him he would be safe down there (stink -free)...but you just need to ask inorder to find out why he has refused to eat 'pudding' all these while.
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Posted: 5/30/2008 6:17:35 AM | doesn't sound good.
at 3 months the tv is more important than you and the fact he just wanted oral sex when he wanted it.
this is maj0r decision time but it is in your best interests. the pros for you are , you are not married and not living together and no kids.
an important discussion with him about your needs should happen. the discussion goes like this -"i (you) need this in our relationship and want ..." and see how he responds.
but you have already been given a lot of insight into where you are in his priority list. below tv and oral sex when he needs it.
take the initiative and have the discussion, you are worth it. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 7:41:33 AM | I would definitely discuss the issue.
Has he used his fingers on you during foreplay? Have you masterbated in front of him? Have you licked his or your fingers during or after? Maybe by showing him it's okay and leading him to what would work, would be a better alternative. If he enjoys that maybe he would be more receptive to giving oral then. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 9:32:17 AM |
I've NEVER understood guys who aren't into oral or pleasing their partner. Don't they realize the more you please them, the more the woman will want to please you?? If my partner isn't having a great time, then I'm not either.
Amen brother! I LOVE giving my partner (female) oral, if I expect to get some I totally realize it is a two way street, plus I just love giving anyway. Huge turn on for me. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 9:35:53 AM | Personally -- I cannot be with any man that cannot give me oral attention at all..........
If he doesn't he's hanging out on the curb in a hazed state of mind with the rest of the ones I have KICKED to the curb! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 9:37:35 AM | | I think you should ask him - if you cant discuss this type of thing with him then maybe he is not the one for you!!! He may not like giving oral but at least you would know!! | |
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| Just eat me already!
Posted: 5/30/2008 9:39:16 AM |
He said, "He wants some oral" motioning towards his member, then I replied, "Don't we all". He just zipped back up and said nothing. And just sat there watching TV.
Ha, that's kind of funny in itself. However, the problem isn't funny.
He sounds pretty selfish. I'd LOVE to find a woman who kept very clean AND SHAVED there. Some people are strange, though. I was with a girl when I was in high school, and not only would she not give oral, the one time I gave it to her, she said that was "gross". Some people are just like that. But it's true, it won't get better. If he doesn't want to do it now, especially the way you keep yourself, then he's never going to want to. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 10:40:52 AM | | guess he didn't want head THAT BAD huh??? selfish lovers are selfish people....i vote dump him | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 10:55:05 AM | I'm with hardngood on this one.  Going down on my partner ranks right up there with oxygen as far as needs are concerned . I couldn't imagine having sex without it .
Can you ladies tell I enjoy it just as much if not more than you do . LOL | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 11:18:49 AM | | If talking with him isn't getting it done for you then dump him and find some one with a motto like mine....."sit on my face and I'll eat my way to your heart!" | |
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