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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/30/2008 1:15:44 AM | Re the Opost
OMG, this Opost highlights the skewed priorities of the era we live in. An era when we are consumed by things and activities that do not matter really or are supposed to be mens to ends and not ends.
If one does not have the time or appreciation for a lover who is willing and able to commit so much time and energy to love making, oh well, to be honest, then this person should either change priorities and enjoy what really counts in life or let this person/lover find one who does.
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:28:02 PM | I've had g/f's in the past that we could (and did) just hang out in the bed all day and have sex numerous times. We also ordered pizza, watch a movie...sometimes porn...showered together, etc., and it never seemed too long...but over 5-6 hours we might have sex 3 or on a great day, 4 times and each was at least 20-30 minutes...longer in the beginning.
If three hours of intermittent sex is killing you, you need to find an easier to satisfy FWB. But my guess is this guy is putting on a show. Let him know it's OK to not pull out every stop every time.
And if you wanna have some real fun, when he shows up, strip him down and have sex with him almost to the point of orgasm...then tell him it's time to go to dinner, get dressed and go for an evening out on the town with you're body feeling sexed up and knowing he's ready to explode. Finishing him off at home could happen in the driveway, but you may want to save it for the stairwell.
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:41:09 AM | | OP, maybe if you spiced things up a little bit and roleplayed and got more into foreplay, it would be more fun, exciting and you wouldn't be worn out so much. Yes, there are some guys that can recover quickly and there are some guys that can go for hours without even reaching that satisfactory point. Sometimes, you should be in control of the moment. Create instances where you initiate the encounter. You mentioned that he reaches orgasm quicker when you give him oral, therefore to keep yourself from being so exhausted, increase the amount of oral satisfaction that you're giving him. All I'm saying is that you should do whatever it takes to keep both of you satisfied without you being overly tired after it's over. Then again, being exhausted after a night of passion isn't so bad if you don't have work the next morning. | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:29:27 AM | | Your guy sounds normal. Provide your man with more alternative sex like oral and anal until you come up to speed vaginally. See if other positions put less wear and tare on you if the sore spots are localized. Have your girl friends come over to help you out; that’s always a thoughtful gesture. | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 10:59:29 AM | lol.....thanks for all the replies...never thought about supplements possibly being the problem, but he did tell me he just started hitting the gym again recently so that's a consideration. Very good thought...thanks.
Also to whomever mentioned that I block e-mails from people who are looking for an "Intimate Encounter"....That is because I am not looking for a one night stand, this person is a friend not some random stranger off the internet.
Anyway...the coming over earlier thing did the trick...in bed by 6:30 done by 10 and I still had time to watch TV before I went to bed! I was just a little sore on Friday, but Ibuprofen seemed to help. We did some role playing which totally turned him on and sped things up during round 2 and during round 3 I allowed him to explore the anal avenue which seemed to completely satisfy him.
My girlfriends and I relaxed by the pool on Friday and I told them all my "problems" while they laughed, and I texted him their thoughts on the subject. I cannot wait to get hold of him again so he can wear me out again.
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:17:49 AM | | simply put...you two are sexually uncompatible. when it comes to endurance and motivation i lean more towards your FWB's style than yours, and yes it has been a problem when i've encountered men with lower sex-drives or entirely vanilla sexual interest. there's really no "fixing" it, and eventually it'll fizzle because you can't change his libido or amplify yours to keep up. when you get tired of him, feel free to send me his number...i'd like to meet a man who can actually challenge me ; ) | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:34:28 PM | moniquesc,
I wouldn't give out his name if I were you...there are some women on here that will gladly steal him away. LOL
Here's my solution. Bring in another women into the bedroom. This way you'll get a break here and there where you'll be able to grab some water and catch your breath. If he wears the both of you out then add one more...and so on and so on. LOL God bless him....I hope his heart don't give out on him....or yours on you.  | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:59:45 PM | Hi,
I can't say I have ever experienced this problem......Hey I live in hope Ha Ha!! But seriously can't you just talk to him?? If you can have sex/make love with him.......surely you can talk to him? But if you can't and you're unhappy with the way things are then end the friendship.
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:07:39 PM | I think you just need to do some exerice and shape up. I think it's just a case of an inexperienced person who is experiencing this new experience and it may seem overwhelming at first. It happens, it's nothing wrong.
The guy is a love machine, what can we say, thats what it appears to be. It happens, and again not surprisingly it's a guy that is running the marathon.
I wouldn't worry about this OP, you can just talk to him about this and maybe consider taking some more breaks and just tell him that you can't keep up with him to that extent. | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:25:46 PM | | Sounds to me like he's a nymphomaniac... not that I really think there's anything wrong with that (as long as everyone's playing safe and not too promiscuous.) You might not be so compatible together though. Your FWB dude sounds quite a lot like my ex husband. His record was him cumming 9 times one night.... Some people are just like that. Just be careful with your heart. If you're exhausted and your relationship with him starts to interfere with work, or your friends... then I'd recommend getting out. | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:40:52 PM | Crazy woman!!!! Why are you complaining??????
Can someone please explain to me the point of having a FWB if you are not going to have sex? Why did you say, "I have actually started limiting the nights he can come over if there is going to be sex involved." Isn't sex supposed to be involved??? I don't get it.
I've never had a FWB and never will; however, IMO I think the #1 rule of having a FWB is to have sex. | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:05:43 AM |
OMG are you for real? I'm serious, just take your sexually satisfied self and your full of stamina man and be happy that you got it girl. Do you EVEN know how luck you are??? Think about it this way, there are tons of women who aren't getting any at all and when they do, they can't get their man to stay awake after round one, so i'm sorry if you don't see me all concerned for ya. I can't even break out my tiny violins on this one. Life is short and one day your body isn't gonna let you do the things it once did, so take advantage of this now and get it while you got it.
Shoot, i'd handcuff him to the bed. FWB, oh h.ell no, that man would be mine for life.
My only suggestion to you, eat your wheaties and protein shakes and then take it like a woman.
Got a headache from shaking my head on this one!!!
I have to agree with this poster....Enjoy what ya got...quit complaining and have fun! Some people just don't know when they got it too good..... | |
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| The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:40:29 AM | OMG girl... be so very thankful you don't have a 2 minute man. Suck it up (pun intended) and enjoy what you got while you got it!!
I can't believe the girls complaining about getting too much... AHHHHH ladies.. you are making a bad name for the rest of us.
I once had a man that lasted hours and hours, and my god I couldn't get enough of him. We saw each other every night for 3 weeks, I was in heaven! Unfortunately that didn't last, should I find another one, I will lock him to my bed post and never let him go!
Send him my way girl, I'll gladly wear him out for you, hell I make sure he keeps taking supplements!! mmm mmmm mmm  | |
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