| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:25:32 PM | | It does happen. I have a japanese gf who is married to a black man. She's 4'11 and he's 6'0 -- they are quite the couple when we get together. But as an asian female, you are correct to say that many are attracted to caucasian men -- I know I am. But one of my closest friends is a black man, and I adore him immensely, I just wouldn't date him. Nothing personal to him, but he's just not my type. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:31:44 PM | One of my cousins is a mixed Asian/Black baby. She has the biggest, most beautiful eyes. Like bigger than normal for a baby. And she has cute curly hair that goes every where. She's adorable.
So yeah. It happens | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:13:32 PM | | I hope you find a nice gal who does not argue with you gameguru. I hope that I find a guy who knows how to. Iron sharpens iron if a guy is not willing to defend his position then he is no fun to talk to and most likely a weakling. I use debate to see his brain in action having a guy who can change my mind about something or who can understand my view point is what I need to see. It shows me I can trust him to carefully select the path for us. A very important thing to do before you commit. I am a Air Force brat and as such have the mind set that as soon as I commit to the guy I must stay heck or high water no matter where or what goes down. Most black girls I know are like me. We do not give up on a guy after we commit to him that is why black men are so spoiled. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:08:40 AM | | I can't commet on how often it happens in the states, but over here in Japan it's a very common site. Some Japanese had bad experiances with white guys, and just want to try something different. (that was the case with my wife). Others are into the rap/gansta scene and want to date a 'real' black man. (Rather then a japanese guy that dresses and act like a thug). And some Japanese women are simply colorblind; they see something in a guy that just happened to be black. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:20:30 AM | | I must admit I have not seen many couple, but one of my better friends in college had a serious long-term relationship with an asian girl for some time. I never inquired on why they broke up (probably had to do with distance, he lived in Youngstown and she in Columbus), but I used to see them together a lot and outside of media was my first real experience with interracial dating. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:36:00 AM |
I can't commet on how often it happens in the states, but over here in Japan it's a very common site. Some Japanese had bad experiances with white guys, and just want to try something different. (that was the case with my wife). Others are into the rap/gansta scene and want to date a 'real' black man. (Rather then a japanese guy that dresses and act like a thug). And some Japanese women are simply colorblind; they see something in a guy that just happened to be black.
And what about the Japanese men? Are you seeing them with Black women?
I notice that in a lot of this discussion, the focus has been on Black men dating Asian women. Are Black women invisible or something? | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 8:54:40 AM | I knew a girl who was half black half Chinese, such a gorgeous mix. So it does happen.
Toronto isn't really a melting pot, it's a "mosaic", a lot of people have their separate cultures and for a lot of people (myself included) a different culture is a clash. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 12:26:19 PM | | Ah but some of the Asian men who complain that they are invisible treat BLACK women like they are invisible. This is especially true of those who have been raised in Canada. They whine because White women are discriminating against thme and Asian women are flocking to White men in droves yet they turn around and discriminate against Black women. Like what's up with that? I wish one of these guys would have the balls to come and explain THAT? Notice none of them have done that yet. I wish we were allowed to out people on here. I would call some of them out by name in public if we were. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:32:32 PM | | You want to talk about dating out of your culture try dating an amish man...... Just kidding with ya......... But in my neighborhhod there isnt any asian. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:17:54 PM |
...some of the Asian men who complain that they are invisible treat BLACK women like they are invisible...They whine because White women are discriminating against thme and Asian women are flocking to White men in droves yet they turn around and discriminate against Black women...
Almondcookie:
Why all the anger? Your profile seems really angry too. If those guys aren't interested in you; what's the big deal? If they're interested in caucasian women; so be it. What's it matter to you what those guys are interested in caucasian women?
Everyone has a preference. I'm sure you have a preference too. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 5:53:56 PM | Japanese men dating black women isn't something I've seen a lot of but, I've personally seen it twice while over here in Japan.
A tip on dating an Asian; try learning the local language. Even if you're really bad at it at first, they will think highly of you for even trying. It's a great way to start things off versus an over done pick up line. It also sets you apart from the crowd, which in the bar scene for example , is very important. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:25:47 PM | My family is getting a Tai in law she looks like one of us. I like her and think that she will make a good wife for my cuz.
The Asian men I have dated have all been American. Some were half white or black this made being with them easy they understood my jokes and liked pizza. Until rap came allong and started messing up the line between how to take to a lady and what to say to a pro. Asain guys were cool to date. Now all men have this crazy way of stepping toward a person. Way too close too soon. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:42:15 PM | | I would be open to the idea but I never got the feeling asian men were interested in black women, and me being a bbw I especially assumed they aren't interested in that. I think it might be cultural also. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:51:32 PM |
Almondcookie:
Why all the anger? Your profile seems really angry too. If those guys aren't interested in you; what's the big deal? If they're interested in caucasian women; so be it. What's it matter to you what those guys are interested in caucasian women?
Everyone has a preference. I'm sure you have a preference too.
I haven't posted a profile. Automatically ruling people out based on race is not a preference. It's a PREJUDICE. I am surprised that as an Asian man you wouldn't recognize the difference.
Yes Tequilla Sunrise...I saw that TWO :rolleyes: and one of them was probably me. :roll Told you we are invisible and we don't count.
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:55:38 AM | Maybe I should've worded that differently... I know two isn't the most impressive number in the world. I was just trying to say I have indeed seen Japanese men with black women before.
Before, I had dated a few white women. The dates didn't turn out that well, and I more or less swore off white females. But it wasn't til much later did I realize that reasoning was foolish. To avoid a whole race because you had bad experiances with a few members of that race is childish. Looking back, race really had nothing to do with it. And objectfully, I can admit things didn't turn out well because of things -I- did or said.
It's all to easy to say things like, "ah, it wouldn't of worked out anyway because she's a ___ or I'm a ___" If you find yourself saying things like that, and believing it... maybe it's time to look in the mirror and see if race was the sole factor in a negitive dating outcome.
I perfer Asians, Japanese the most. That doesn't make me a racist, it's just a preferance. There is nothing wrong with that. But to say something like, "I'd never see me dating a Mexican" is very racist. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:54:47 PM | OP...I found the website you seek
asianblacklove.com
It's in the initial stages, with 53 members so far
Maybe you can be member #54 | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/9/2008 5:52:57 PM | My mom is the product of chinese and black ... nice mix ... but like you stated earlier, it is common practice in the West Indies to have such a relationship.
Have you thought about dating an asian woman from the West Indies?
CC. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:24:45 PM | Lots of interesting bits and pieces to comment on, here.
First, in general;
Yea, it does happen but it's pretty rare in my experience. I know in Japan, even as far back as ten, fifteen years ago, people I knew who studied the culture there said Japanese folks considered black folks exotic, and in a positive way. There's also the girls that flock to the military bases in Okinawa and what-not (lot of black men in the military). On the other hand, I have personal experience with Chinese/Singaporean culture (or rather folks from those cultures) openly stating that said cultures (and the folks I spoke to as well), were racist against blacks. In the Singaporean's case, it was a lot of negative experiences with 'low-lifes' from Africa. Apparently that area gets a lot of immigrant traffic and it's a problem. I don't know the extent of it, to be honest. That's just what I was told.
The Westernized Asians that I know would date black guys, no problem.
Now, on to the bits.
They happen whether I am with someone I am dating and they're Asian or if I am just out with an Asian male colleague.
I got those plenty, too. Stateside, if I was with my good friend (Korean woman), all the Asian women would stare. Overseas, when I walked down the street with my ex-wife (Chinese), the guys would stare or occasionally shout various epithets. If I really wanted to rile 'em up, I'd hold her hand.
Yeah that is always the excuse. Someone decides to discriminate and instead of owning it they want to turn around and blame the victim.
True. On the other hand, most of the posts I've seen here from guys who were complaining no one would pay attention to them did actually have attitude problems that surfaced eventually over the course of the thread. I've yet to actually come across someone who wasn't somehow at least indirectly responsible, in part, for their lack of success.
Almondcookie, you sound bitter toward Asian guys.
I'd have to say bitter in general, given her posting history. I've been here for a couple of years and this is the only topic she ever posts on, and it's the same litany every time. (And before you go running to report me to the mods again, it's an observation, not an attack.)
But y'know what they say, 'birds of a feather flock together'. Asians in general are a homogenous group. They dress the same, behave the same, drive the same cars, eat the same food, listen to the same musical artists, etc, so then it's no surprise they'll date within the same race
After being immersed in traditional Chinese culture for six years, and travelling that country for a few months, I have to say it doesn't surprise me at all that it became a communist nation. Japan, China, Korea, are all very rigidly group-oriented cultures (in Japan, they have a saying; "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down"). As an aside, it's why Starcraft and Counterstrike are national sports in Korea. If everyone else is doing it, you have to do it too. No questions asked.
Men are generally able to date "interracially" without the level of personal attack that women face.
I disagree. Nothing like the rallying cry of "they're taking our women" to get the men of *any* race up in arms. I mean, if a white guy dates a black woman, it's not the other sistahs they have to worry about negative attention from, it's the brothas. Will they focus that hostility on the woman more than the man? I dunno, but I'm inclined to say no.
Kimora and Russell Simmons are no longer together.
Hurray! That means I have a chance! That girl's a stunner. 
Hollywood is a horrible place to look for examples of any type of relationship.
True dat. It's a horrible place to look for any examples of *anything* even remotely grounded in reality.
and me being a bbw I especially assumed they aren't interested in that.
I hate to generalize, but yea. It's not just women, though; Asian folks (the ones from the mothership, anyway) are *really* obsessed with weight. My friend is Korean, weighs about 130 or so - beautiful figure that any white woman would kill for. She goes home to visit her family, they're all like "you so fat! why don't you lose weight?". One of the first words I learned in Mandarin was "pang" (fat) - because every time my waistline changed people noticed. My ex used to starve herself for no reason at all, other than she felt she was fat (and like my friend, she was 5'7", 130ish - talk about a statuesque beauty. Still, thought she was fat). I had girls on the street -perfect strangers - in China tell me I was fat.
So in general... I'd have to say in a lot of cases it's cultural problems. Maybe racism, too, which is a shame. We've all still got a long way to go, on this one.  | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:13:08 PM | | I have to agree with your post about pang when I was at 3-5% body fat I dated more China men now it is more White and Black. Why was it that White and Black guys did not ask me out when I was thin? I'm sure it is the same reason that China men do not now. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:27:09 PM | I'd have to say bitter in general, given her posting history. I've been here for a couple of years and this is the only topic she ever posts on, and it's the same litany every time. (And before you go running to report me to the mods again, it's an observation, not an attack.)
This is a bare faced lie, I have posted about a NUMBER of topics including:
- Japan
- sushi
- Reggae music
- The cash flow game
- horse riding
- solo travel
- chess
- international dating
- cruises
- sex before marriage
- widows wearing wedding rings
- the British TV show about finding a mate
- cooking
- instant chemisty
and MANY other topics. Wonkabar you have an axe to grind take it elsewhere and leave me out of it. | |
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| Asian/Black dating does it happen?
Posted: 7/10/2008 8:18:10 AM | Well it took while but I finally saw another couple....Black male/Asian female in the downtown Toronto Chinatown area (Spadina area if you know the area) They were buying stuff from a fruit/veggie market.......I tend to people watch so while I waited for the streetcar.....I observed them for a bit.....I saw little reaction from the Chinese people around them.....except one older couple kept looking at them with a unimpressed look.......then again thats not proof of anything they could be just old and crusty | |
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