| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:03:50 PM | I am going to cut through the chase! The reason couples argue is simple...Unhappiness! so, if you have arguments too often, you need to really take a close look at your relationship!  | |
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:27:32 PM | At this stage in my life, I think arguing is a total waste of good time and energy. We should be able to communicate what the issues are. I think that as has been said here before, communication is key. There are much better things for a couple to be doing than arguing over whose knickers were left on the floor!
I agree, however, as a kitchen and bath specialist and construction superintendant, I've seen some serious arguments over choices involved with remodeling and building. I think that both he and she should draw some very real lines when it comes to making choices about the project at hand.JMO
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:21:46 PM |
Now I look back on it all and wish with all my heart I could, one more time, wake him up to tell him to go to bed.
Ah! Now you brought tears to my eyes. Me, too.
But we really never fought. We had brief disagreements/misunderstandings. All it ever took was one to explain what they'd *really* meant/intended and hugs/laughter would ensue. One that often got us, was my laughter. I try to defuse things with laughter, which clashed with his childhood experience of being *laughed AT* ~~
We never had a "fuss" which lasted longer than five minutes. Not once.
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:30:16 PM | no more arguing for this guy..you are unhappy? go somewhere else and argue!
Time to enjoy life not hassle about the little things that annoy you.
I refuse to waste another minute arguing about samll issues.
fishin is great in this pond!
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:55:04 PM | I agree with Chocolatebrowne and Krysteene…its definitely miscommunication and compatibility. There are a lot of individuals that find themselves attached to the “react first, ask questions later” method of handling an argument, or even those that are just one-sided with their views. Either way its doesn’t help a relationship unless you’re with someone that will agree with anything to avoid conflict. When it comes down to it, those two are probably the major culprits that can destroy even the happiest relationship. As far as resolving those two issues…I personally don’t think it can be done. Going back to the “react first, ask questions later” issue, that’s an issue itself which can fester into larger problems such as insecurities, trust factors, and etc etc…the list goes on. As far as compatibility, if you’re not compatible, you’re just not..plain and simple.
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:47:20 PM | Ruckus123 it's not cool of you to put all the blame on women. Both parties can equally cause an arguement. Putting blame on one gender i think could cause a fight. Like feeding into stereotyping...
My boyfriend when he see's a bad driver and discovers its a women driving, then he's like " no wonder its a girl ", basically saying all or most women are the bad drivers and also basically saying most guys are perfect drivers... which is BS... i believe guys insurance is higher then women, so what does tht say about guys... | |
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:04:50 AM | Most arguments are caused by one or both parties struggling to "win" .
When you cease to care about winning or losing, the futility of an argument becomes abundantly clear. | |
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| What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:24:43 AM | Respect, or lack thereof. If you respect your spouse, you can disagree without fighting. If you aren't getting respect, you will feel anger and resentment.
RESPECT. That's the key to a good relationship. And lack of respect leads to arguments.
It's strange that I was actually thinking about this last night. Not sure why.
The other cause of unhappiness, aka arguments...
What draws you to a person also leads to unhappiness. That which attracts you can repulse you.
My ex? I liked his braininess. I liked sitting around and discussing theories of life. That attracted me. Well, then he went and decided that was no longer his interest. Instead, it was conspiracy theories and politics. He still wanted to sit around and talk about it....but I couldn't stand that crap. I liked that he was mature and homey...but then I started to hate that he didn't want to go out and have fun.
My current guy...who I really, really like... I was drawn to his independence, his strength, his nurturing of others. All good things. A man I can lean on and go to when I have a bad day. A man that isn't always needy. Sure. BUT...that also means he can be controlling. Talk to me like I'm one of his kids. He wants to nurture me a bit too much sometimes. And...he's so independent, he can't accept help from me when I know he needs it. Very hard for him to lean on me.
See? His strength is also his weakness.
I suspect this holds true in more relationships than we realize...
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