| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:54:02 PM | Vicious...
I could have written your post--I truly understand what you mean. It is hard being the last woman standing if you will and you don't want to say anything because it sounds silly. But I'm glad that you all talked and she got it.
I so know what you mean--I've lost female friends who, whenever they get into a relationship, act like you're death on a stick! I have a friend that I've known for 10 yrs and she's tossed that friendship aside for a guy who's lazy, can't hold a job, cheats on her...etc. We saw each other over the holiday for the first time in almost a year--mostly because she wanted my input about her leaving him. I finally said that it was her choice and the last time I said dump him you stayed...so I don't have much to say. Haven't seen/talked to her since. Makes me sad...but I know she has to do what she needs to do for herself! | |
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| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:05:13 PM | well i've been fortunate that she's never cut me out of her life for a guy. she's always become less availible and that's normal. i just found it odd that she could always separate herself from her son since he was really little for a weekend so we could head to the beach or something, but she can't leave her man at home for 2 hours??? it isn't the first time when i've wanted to head out somewhere for a night and she's always wanted to tow her guy along...it's just exasperating since she does see her guy more than me and she can't disconnect herself from him for a couple of hours? especially when she suggested the "girls night out".
anyhoo, it's all good. no relationship, be it family or otherwise is perfect. i read something one time that always stuck in my head...
"Love may be blind but friendship closes it's eyes"
everyone has their faults. when you're in love you don't see them. when it's your friends, you take the faults and love 'em more for it! | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 8:07:45 PM | So many men do this same thing. You just don't listen to what is being said....Sheesh!
We'd listen more if women didn't blather on just to fill every silence.
Anyway, this whole episode highlights one of the many differences between men and women. If I make plans with a guy friend and he brings his gf along, I couldn't care less. | |
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| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:26:54 PM | I feel for you, OP. While I never watched the show, so the movie really wouldn't have much to offer for me, I can understand how you must feel. The movie is a big deal for fans, and I'm sure you were looking forward to it just being a "Girls' Night Out." Even if you like her boyfriend, you were kind of mentally prepared, if you will, for it to just be the two of you. Having a guy along must have set you off-kilter, and that kind of thing can really put a damper on a person's night. If she wanted to bring him along, she should have at least done you the courtesy of asking if you minded first. Even if you were too polite to tell her you didn't really want him to be there, you would have at least been prepared to see him.
Anyway, I'm glad you were able to get things straight between you. Did you ever discuss it with her, or did you just decide to let it go? In all likelihood, she probably had no idea that it was going to upset you. Do you have any other single gal pals? I'm not suggesting you give up your relationship with this friend, but it might help to ease your loneliness a little bit if you have solo buddies you can hang out with when she's having time with the boyfriend. Just a suggestion. | |
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| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:05:12 PM | oh no prob with the suggestions. the thing is, most single women in my age range are still bar stars and that just isn't my style. yes we talked about it...it's all good!
So many men do this same thing. You just don't listen to what is being said....Sheesh!
We'd listen more if women didn't blather on just to fill every silence.
Anyway, this whole episode highlights one of the many differences between men and women. If I make plans with a guy friend and he brings his gf along, I couldn't care less.
women don't necessarily "blather" to fill in every silence. hate to be the one to break this to you, but MEN ARE DENSE and need every little detail spelled out for you so you'll comprehend. otherwise if we give men subtle hints, it goes right over their heads. then you're the ones who have the balls to say to us that we should just come right and say what we want, etc. and don't understand what's bothering us. no matter how we explain something to your species, YOU STILL DON'T LISTEN and if you do, you aren't actually HEARING what it is we're saying!
also, if you and your buds planned a poker night, or a stag party at a strip club and one of them brought their gf along, you'd definitely have something to say about it! | |
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| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:35:22 PM | Why did she bring her bf? I thought it was a girls' night out? That was odd, and I would have been disappointed as well.
Pick yourself up! Do something special for yourseld, and don't allow this "funk" to get the best of you. Everyone goes through this once in a while.
Best,
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| sex and the city and a date...
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:35:43 PM | I have only one suggestion to avoid this kind of thing in the future. Meet more women. If doesn't really matter if you don't like clubs or bars, going with them once in awhile won't hurt. Then they are willing to do things you enjoy.
Being so isolated can lead to depression, plus, it isn't very safe. Gfs are the most wonderful thing in the world for covering your back, being there when you feel like venting, and going out to have fun. The big catch is that you have to be willing to do the same for them. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 5:24:20 PM | | i'm not a complete loner. i don't live in a cave or anything and i do go out on a regular basis. as much as i am "pro-women", in my experience, having chick friends is very volatile. i'm not into drama and i find women tend to be headcases about a lot of silly issues and dwell on them and it drives me nuts (hence i had my moment, i've moved on). also, i've found that chick friends are backstabbers and when it comes to men...OMG! my bff and i do not tend to go in that direction (for the most part) but we do have our moments where our friendship hits a wall (that's normal in any relationship regardless if it is family, SO's etc.)...usually once a year and we're good. thanks for all the advice! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 5:36:48 PM | | you wrote that very nicely... i got to go see it with my gf... we both like the show although she hadn't a clue I did and that's ok.. i was happy to see her arrive at the theatre.. I had seen her at an opposite stop light an knew she was moments behind.. we went to a very late show an it wasn't crowded.. we laughed when we were suppose to.. it was sad at parts that were suppose to be.. it was exciting when that was needed... got out late an walked arm in arm to our cars.. a small kiss so sweet i remember it... and she keeps ticket stubs too.. | |
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