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Posted: 5/31/2008 3:48:40 AM | If I were a guy, I don't think I could ever date her again. The momentum, if it was going good, was ruined. I would always think about the shallow way she reacted to this. That would just kill any feelings I may have had.
You don't have to prove anything to her, you know who you are, but if you really wanted to LMAO you could invite one of her friends to a nice dinner and pay. That would show her ass and you would enjoy the company, so its a win win situation. Oh and pick a cute one with a little depth too.....heehee that would really piss her off.
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:03:47 AM | | Simple rule the person that asks the other out pays. There are women that look at dates as free meals and never pay even if they ask . ( Avoid these type of women) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:09:38 AM | Hey how come there was no mention of how both of you arrived there, that's usually an issue with dating also; I drove this far, he/she only drove that far oh and one more who left the tip
Did she not enjoy your company, that in-itself should be pricless, just think it can cost her 100-300$ an hr to talk with a shrink. #5
I couldn't care what she is used too, her mother used to wipe her ass also. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 5:12:45 AM | If you're not dating ,then you should have paid for your own sprite,& she pay for what she had.
If you'd done this,we wouldn't even be talking about it........................
Cheers,  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 5:20:41 AM | Hey Mike don't beat yourself up....if that were me I would be grateful that when I called you late and you had already eaten you were kind enough to go with me....
I think the little 'tempertantrum' she had is showing some red flags for you. Being deleted from a site? Don't worry, she's just trying to hurt your feelings around this and make you feel guilty. Don't . It's ok...lol | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 5:30:38 AM | This sounded so childish I had to check your age. If she is anywhere near your age she is acting like a spoiled teen.
If she thought you should have paid for your soda why not just say so at the time, instead of going home and getting pissy and then deleting you from myspace.
It's not about dating crazy women.......its about dating women with a level of maturity that this wont happen.
In any event, you werent wrong as she asked you ,but next time offer to pay for whatever you order when a woman calls you.
PEACE | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:32:26 AM | | I would have paid for my own soda. Where I come from, a woman who expects something out of a man in return for sex is called a whore. Since she probably didn't intend to give you sex even if you had paid, and she certainly wouldn't owe it to you, then that puts her about three rungs on the social ladder below a whore. At least whores are honest about what they are doing. I have a very good friend whose girlfriend often invited him to take her family out to dinner. Needless to say, she has since been replaced by a new and improved girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:32:39 AM | Okay, some background to fill in the hole for those who check back.
She's 28 years old, I'm 37. Maybe it's an age difference thing, maybe not?
It was our third time to meet up in two months. Both times before it was for "coffee"(really juice since neither of us drinks coffee) and I paid for it both times. In my mind it was the right thing to do because I asked her to meet up.
Another thing that confuses me is why would it come up 5 days later when we have talked in between? Seriously, shouldn't it have come up before then?
The eighty bucks was just to show that in my mind, a Sprite isn't expensive. I didn't order a ton of alcohol and not pay. Bottled water is more expensive there. Some think it is cheap because I didn't throw in any money. I don't carry cash so should have I asked for a split check? If someone did that to me I'd be insulted more that they won't let me pay for the soda. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:45:38 AM | No I dont believe you were wrong, I feel that because she invited you, she ate, she could have said, "I appreciate you coming out to join me , even though you already
ate and your soda is on me, "
Leave her alone = , lesson learned,  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:46:03 AM | | There is obviously an "area of contention" with her. This is an "issue". This has nothing to do with you, but EVERYTHING to do with her. She busted your balls for something that was done to her in the past.... by someone else. She is passive-aggressive. She is "working thorough" some sort of changed behavior in herself, and using you as a guinea pig, in order to feel her way around a lifestyle in which she feels the most comfortable. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:50:16 AM | Dude, what were you thinking when she called you to go out for dinner ?
Obviously she was expecting YOU to pickup the tab for her dinner as well...
Did you atleast cover the tip ?
I don't think she is mad because she paid for your soda, I think that was the final straw (no pun intended)
I go with 1 & 5
The world has enough nut cases without having to go out of your way to date one.
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:54:58 AM | Call it quits! If your being petty over her being petty, you are both being petty.
I petty you both.  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:57:09 AM | So this petty principessa is 28 years old ???
Wow ~ could have fooled me.
I'd close the book on this brat. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:03:14 AM |
Okay, some background to fill in the hole for those who check back.
She's 28 years old, I'm 37. Maybe it's an age difference thing, maybe not?
It was our third time to meet up in two months. Both times before it was for "coffee"(really juice since neither of us drinks coffee) and I paid for it both times. In my mind it was the right thing to do because I asked her to meet up.
Another thing that confuses me is why would it come up 5 days later when we have talked in between? Seriously, shouldn't it have come up before then?
The eighty bucks was just to show that in my mind, a Sprite isn't expensive. I didn't order a ton of alcohol and not pay. Bottled water is more expensive there. Some think it is cheap because I didn't throw in any money. I don't carry cash so should have I asked for a split check? If someone did that to me I'd be insulted more that they won't let me pay for the soda.
I am sure that she is used to a lot of things. I would love to still be able to have the things I was used to having as a kid...but things change...lol..
I love the comment about how her mother used to wipe her ass but no longer... i hope.
What happened is that she started talking to her friends.
Her friends are of similar mind to herself.
SHe started telling them what happened, how you didn't pay the 2 bucks and these girlfriends started reinforcing her perception of how things should be.
SHe must have heard it several times over the course of 3- 5 days about how you were a cheap pcirk and that you should have coughed up the 2 bucks.
Of course, nothing was mentioned to her friends about your previous dates where you paid, or the fact that you drove or whatever else. See ,, those things don't count. in her mind anyway
Thus the time delay..
or maybe she is just really really stupid and didn't pick up on the fact that your not paying is something that she usually is pi$$ed at. It's like she got the joke the next day..
You may indeed be a pcrik and a jerk- i have no idea, but this specific incident, as you have related it, is in no way an indication .
On your side, you didn't appreciate the fact that she may not think the same way you do. That things all work out.. AS she never ever thinks of ever doing anything to 'even things out' .
it would have been best had she mentioned it at the time and/or you offered but you both use a different set of tenets upon which to base your decisions.
She keeps track of who does what when how often and to whom. Dating statistics 101.
and when I say "who does what when how often to whom ", I mean "how often you do bad things that somehow inconvenience her in some small way AND her keeping track of all the almost entirely insignificant things she does that give you some small measure of happiness. "
You have to jump through hoops in order to garner a score of " 4", yet she only has to unlock your car door and in her mind, this is a "9" ( out of 10)
YOur way of thinking is more intune with people who play team sports. the " I'll cover you this time, and some where down the line, you ( the other person) will reciprocate. "
YOu've probably been an athlete and maybe still are. Or in the military. Or just a guy who has figured out how to live and how things hsould work.
She on the other hand - either was always the center of attention or never been in a situation where people relied on other people. and reciprocation is the norm.
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:03:55 AM | This is HER issue. Sure, you could have offered to pay for your soda, bu then she would have gotten pissy anyway that you were not throwing in the money for the whole meal..You couldn't win.
Some women have a strong sense of entitlement. She needs to seriously grow up. You paid for the last two beverages. What is wrong with her paying for one of yours? She is a big girl presumably with a paycheck coming in... | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:11:16 AM | banter that she wanted. That's how women test us. They watch how we react to situations. 50,000 years ago, they needed to know if we would survive and protect them in the event of an attack by animals or other people.
So, when she messaged you thanking you for making her buy your soda, your response was key. Think about what you said. Now picture famous actors saying what you said. Can you picture Danny Devito saying it? Gary Coleman? How about Clint Eastwood or Jack Nicholson? Now thing about what you could have said instead.
Now if you want her to go out with you again, call her up and tease her. Women like that. Make light of a light situation. Maybe even make fun of yourself. Invite her to go toss around a football, then panhandle for money until you can both get a soda. If she has no sense of humor and the money really is the deal, then move on. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:11:21 AM | | I vote for #1 and 5. I can't believe people have stated, you should have at least offered to pay for your own drink. Good lord. If you can't pay for a friends??? drink, that came out at 9 at night, just to keep you company, and punished you for it, then yeah, they are waaay up there on the nut case list. I think she invited you thinking you would spring for her food. Sad there's people out there like that. But I can't tell you how many times I've seen men on here saying, I'm not paying for anything, even a cup of coffee, you need to pay your own way. Kind of makes you wonder where some kind of common sense, and common courtesy has gone to. I've never had a personal experience like this, and hope I never do. But if I did, it would tell me all I need to know. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:20:15 AM | | That's crazy. I would send her the $2.00 out of spite and then never talk to her again. That was very tacky of her. She apparently has a low IQ or a real high opinion of herself. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:26:00 AM | | At this point it doesn't matter who is right or wrong. If thats what shes use to and she gets it, she's not gonna date you. Move On...... | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:29:28 AM |
So what should be my resolution?
(1) Let it die. It's better to know what kind of person she is
(2) Get her address to mail her $2. Pay for insurance on the letter so she knows I'm not cheap.
(3) Ask her out again and act like nothing happened and grab the check.
(4) Ask her out again and expect her to pay dutch.
(5) Stop dating crazy women.
I say #2 and #5.......
That really is nuts..... | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 8:36:37 AM | Let it die.
She called YOU because she didn't want to go out to dinner alone . . . or because she is one of the infamous women who use men for dinner.
Unless she is destitute, you shouldn't be expected to pay for a soda when invited out. If she is destitute, then she should have eaten a can of soup at home. | |
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