| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:12:34 PM | desertbulldog, when using a sense of humour to help people warm up, it's very helpful to develop an introductory style of humour that is broad and open-ended.
One that is also capable of subtle direction changes and an ability to gauge what your audience's humour preferences are, as well as what pool of standards, measurements, and expectations your audience can relate to.
With that information you can then adapt your humour to your audience.
Humour is largely a balance of subtely, absurdity, and relativity.
Using subtlety to make the absurd sound more logical, through clever use of relationships your audience are familiar with.
Laughter is shown to boost both our mental and physical health.
Think of it as a healing art.
It takes practice. But in the end, you'll be able to find a way to tickle the funny bone of anyone you really like.  | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:25:54 PM | i'm sorry but there are a lot of times that i love to joke around whether it's to make someone smile or lighten up the mood a bit. hell, i used to joke around in bed too....but that was quite a while back.
if a person doesn't have a sense of humor then he's looking at the wrong girl because i not only like to crack a joke once in a while but i like to play around as well. maybe push you in the puddle or into a pile of snow, maybe throw a snowball at you or a cup of ice cold water while you're in a nice hot shower. dare to try me? | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:43:45 PM |
maybe push you in the puddle
Mamma said, "Knock you out!"
The pile of snow, snowball, cold ware while in the shower...ok, unless it's really wet snow. But pushing into a puddle, that's just cruel...I mean there shoes/socks/feet will get instantly wet, not too mention the splash effect. That's just not cool...there's a line, and you crossed it. Now, if they have sandles (not fancy ones) and shorts on, than that'd be ok, as long as you expected to end up in the puddle as well. | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:46:12 PM |
Have you ever lost interest in a guy just because you didn't get the joke (or did not realize it was a joke)?
I've never lost interest in a guy just for these reasons, but I did lose interest when he didn't know when to be serious...
I'm all for humor when it comes to breaking the ice, but when I'm trying to get to know someone on a deeper level, I do expect some form of maturity and serious conversation...
What's the best way to recover should the girl take it the wrong way (or not like the tone of the conversation)?
Like some of the others posters have said...a sincere apology always works... | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:53:18 PM |
It takes practice. But in the end, you'll be able to find a way to tickle the funny bone of anyone you really like.
Advice like this made me realize just how much my sense of humor sucked. Thanks to Vancer, I can make any broad laugh in dismay, shock, and attraction. Thank you, Vancer. You serve mankind well. | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:07:16 PM | AwesomeMan, your power is your humour, and your posts always make me laugh.
The irony is my laughter is boosting my immunities, so that I'll continue to live and do battle with you. 
Your strength is your greatest weakness! Mwa ha ha | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:47:58 AM | 'stubble'....
Nice Fuqqing Mouth..!!
Let's see if it'll fit .. over MINE..!!!
I was in a E-mail Romance, about a year ago...with a Lady from Fla. ..
Very open, honest, frank and fairly Sexually charged ..
I was this >*< close to _Proposing !!!!!
In a particularly Perky mood, one day .. I wrote...:
' Wanna Fukk..?? '
Unfortunately, I failed to add the obvious " ! !!" to it . .
She wrote back .. calling me everything in the Book...[Nothing 'Complimentary']..
Deleted her Profile and disappeared Forever..!!
...I was .. to say the Least .. in a Tremendous Funk .. for Several Days..!!
I couldn't sit for almost a week...after Kicking Myself Silly..!!
{{Dumb-@$$..!!}
Lesson Learned . . Heart-Broken . . Dumb-@$$!!! | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 11:29:28 AM | I've never lost interest over not understanding the joke but I have lost interest if i felt the joke was inappropriate. a difference in sense of humors can really matter.
and recovering from a bad joke depends on the joke. if it was really bad.. say sorry. lol it might help. if it was just totally missed on her part.. just keep goin with the conversation. but it should probably make you curious that she didnt' get you.
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:44:50 PM | "Live and Learn" doesn't apply to everyone. People's social skills evolve as they grow. Some hit a wall in their teens, young adulthood, and if they're lucky can continue to grow well beyond that. In the process of discovering joking as a good socializing tool, some people don't have the capacity to analyze reactions. They think "hey I just said a funny. She'll like that one. It makes me look smarter than not knowing the answer." I've met some people who were very skilled with wit, but after a while, you realise that they're using joking to hide their ignorance, or they simply don't want to address the question.
When I was 20, I had a GF who said "Fvck.... you speak in parables! I don't know what you mean." She was right, I never once said ILU. If she asked me if I loved her, I'd say something like "Is the pope catholic?"
I had another GF who was hilarious. Really. She cracked everyone up all the time. But it didn't stop when we were alone. She just kept at it, looking for an opportunity to let one fly. It got old real fast with me. Others would say "Hey... she was a great gal! Why'd you break off with her?" I'd just shrug. I mean, how the hell do you explain dumping the alpha female, someone everyone wants to be around, and the life of the party?
Don't get me wrong, I love funny, but god damn, who's behind the mask? | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:00:30 PM | hi,
my thought:
well i think it depends on each person who's receiving it of course...and yes in the world of dating, u have people that are feeling sensitive or vulnerable b/c maybe they just ended a long relationship or are looking for true love, or whatever...
but one important interesting perspective is this.....are you simply just out of the blue sharing a joke to engage in good times or are you responding to a question of hers by joking b/c maybe perhaps you're not being direct or afraid to say what u really mean...
i have a sacastic side and i find people that are sarcastic funny...but i think it's wise to have some sensibility when presenting it to others & in relation to the surroundings.... | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:25:01 PM | Are you funny? If so, it's fun. If all you do is "groaners", it sucks.
I once, after some polite giggles, decided I wouldn't "laugh" any more. He proceeded to repeat his "jokes", as if the reason I wasn't laughing is because I'm so stupid I didn't get the "joke". I finally told him "I get the joke, it's just not funny."
Yeah, no second date for me. | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:43:56 PM |
I've lost interest if I felt he wasn't taking the conversation serious in any way.
Joking and having fun is essential, but I want substance and if he's giving me nothing
but one liners and sarcastic replies, I'll move on fast.
There's a fine line with telling jokes to someone you don't really know. To me, it's nothing
but a defense mechanism and tells me the guy isn't ready to go there yet.
I want someone that's ready to open up and show me his stuff. NO, not that stuff. lol.....
Keeping it light is one thing, but if you have nothing to offer but that, then I'd lose interest quick.
I couldn't say it better myself. All my ex did was make things into jokes. There were the occassional serious talks but even then he'd chime in with a joke or two there. There's a time and place for everything. | |
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| To joke or not to joke
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:45:16 AM | | i definately agree.... u cant joke all of the time... there has to be some substance you know? | |
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