| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:57:00 AM | If you're like me, you'll never get good at it.
And then I try to post and someone says it's too short. Story of my life.
Wow, still too short. I guess they're trying to tell me something here. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:35:05 AM | Wow. Mid 20's......
I think it is like riding a bike... you just get better and better each time you do (ride...!) it. HA!
Take the time to savor all the senses you have while having sex. It's way more than wham, bam, thank you ma'am...
Touch, smell, taste, see and hear what your partner is experiencing... it will come back to you 10 fold... | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:21:25 AM | | You don't have to rely on experience exclusively. There are some great books out there that I recommend reading (even for those who are very good at it, it doesn't hurt to keep learning!) The books by Violet Blue are particularly outstanding. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:46:32 AM | And no one has yet defined "good".What is "good"?
A few replies have given some ideas on time spent but I can think of hundreds of other things that make sex "good". | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:45:41 PM | | I've been told I was good from the beginning. Even when I felt like I didnt know what I was doing. And I always just figured I was being told that because he wanted to be nice. But, the reviews have been fairly consistent... who knows? | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:40:18 PM | Well reseach shows that most first time sexual experiences are quite painful, because of the hyman tearing, and it takes at least one year for the girl to be completely comfortable with it. So those virgins, although the ideal, are a rare few but then there are always the exceptions.
I think from my own personal experience se just gets better the older you get. When you're younger you're (least for me) I was always concerned about body image, if I was thin enough,and thinking about how you look etc..etc. Now as Ive gotten older I think sex is on a whole different level. You're more eager to please you're partner and less inhibited, wayyyyyy more passionate.
All I know is once I hit 30 something damn!! It's like I unleashed all these hormones. But yeh Ive always been pretty good at it straight off the bat but its just gotten better and better since hitting the 30's :) | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:46:47 PM | I'll let you know when I get there. I've been having sex for many years, and I'm still not any good at it.
On the other hand, I rode a bicycle last night for the first time since I was 12, and I still kick ass at that.  | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:01:17 PM | I guess it all depends on the person you are with, and how much trust there is. My boyfriend was a virgin with me, and because we talked aboout it, and everything that came with it. He is here..haha..he says " low down..kiss...go..slow...groap..go..goo..goo..then..Stop" try to make it for 15 mins next time. the longer you wait, the better it is most of the time.
Some people are never good at sex, but if you are with someone who cares about you, then you will enjoy it and so will they. Just my 2-cents | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:04:45 PM | | The more relaxed you are the more you'll enjoy it. Get 'comfortable' with her, and then think about her pleasure before yours. It'll 'come' together... | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:12:47 PM | Ok, serious advice here... I know you'll laugh... Go to the store, and buy a few romance novels. Now, remember that the sex in them is totally romanticized...frou frou, flowery. All that. BUT...it does give you good ideas, and good idea of where to touch a woman, etc.
2 is probably enough.
For advanced reading...esp if you really want to know the way the real world works, read some erotica. Go to amazon and look for "ellora's cave" they are an erotica publisher. You have to pay attention to the titles/summaries b/c you probably don't want the bdsm stories just yet. LOL (that's domination/submisison, bondage, etc). But those books are much better at telling it like it is... using words like tlt, fck, cl*t, etc. oral sex, bj, different positions.
And...a side benefit to all of this reading (esp the erotica) is that you'll start to get an idea of what you really like - what floats ur boat. And an idea of all the different ways to float HER boat.
lastly... *have fun*!!! Sex isn't serious. It's about feeling good and making your partner feel good. Talk, laugh, kiss, lick.
Another more fun way to prolong the sex is to pull out after you've started going at it, and go down on her (oral)...that gives her pleasure, keeps her building toward orgasm, but *slows* yours down. Works really well. Then after however many minutes of that, go back to penetrating her again. You can do this as many times as you like although it might start frustrating her. LOL At some point she'll prob want you to speed things up to the big finish....who knows though, all girls are different.
Kaylie | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:20:36 PM | Put her needs before yours and genuinely care about her. And you can go for ever if necessary.
This isn't a line or some symbolic sentence. IT LITERALLY WORKS!!
Tell yourself that if you just wanted sex you could jack off to porn or get a hooker.
Once your mind registers that idea you will be able to make love to her indefinitely if necessary. AND it wont just be about sex or penetration.
If you want more info just drop me a line. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:32:50 PM | OP
Nothing wrong with waiting! And believe it or not...some people never get good at it...but they keep practicing 
Most of the people here have it right...take your time, figure out what feels good to you and the lady both, and ask lots of questions. Both sexes suffer from the "shouldn't they know what feels good to me?" syndrome.
Keep practicing...!! | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:00:29 PM | Is this a Catholic thing????? Find a mature partner who can teach you about this aspect of life. Even if it's an act of mercy on their part. You will be grateful.
It's more than "insertee/insertor". | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:14:46 PM | I was awesome right from the begining,30 seconds and its done..
it takes years of sexperience to get good at it...more often than not its by myself just watch alot of porn,they must be good,they do it in the craziest positons... ...you must be physically fit and have a wicked cardio,ya know and squeeze those abs after every thrust....when ya get to 5-10 thousand thrusts per sexsion,then yer goooood... | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:21:30 PM | Re the Opost
How long does it take to get good at sex?
For a guy?
It takes:
1) Inspiration
2) Strong commitment, one has to love ... making love (lol, but I am serious)
3) Willingless to experiement and learn, read, discuss, etc etc
4) Training (a): Masturbation to teach one's penis to follow his master's orders (like training a horse, lol, I am serious).
5) Training (b): Friendlies, like sports teams do in the pre-season.
But at 25 it is a tad late to start the sex sport. Not too late, but late. How can one who can claim to love "the sport" wait so many years to start?
I have run out of advice. Good luck!
PS. And always use a condom. Always. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:55:27 PM | ^^^ Great post.. But to really answer you question it all boils down to the indivdual... Some of us come right out the gate being a stud. Think Tom Brady, Peyton Manning.While others of us may take some time.. Think Eli Manning, Drew Brees..
I was lucky enough to meet a lady in her mid 30's when I was young I think I was 19 at the time. She was a unhappy wife with a stale boring marriage.. Anyhow she literaly would give me lessons on sex. I'd "practice" on her and she'd be like "nope your not doing this right, lets do it again start from the top" That lady made me a Pro ! LOL..The girls my age thought I was porn star after the intense Rocky Balboa type training I got from her... LOL
But just like anything else practice practice practice... | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:39:54 AM | | Control takes alot of years to master and masturbation helps you with it. I come when I want, it's a decision. Could be five minute in, could be five hours. Learning to discipline yourself to go to the edge and come back, and repeat, and repeat, and then please your girlfriend with a huge explosion is not easy. Everytime I see my girlfriend we have a laugh before getting into bed wondering how huge my cumshot is going to be. The sex is great, but we anticipate my cumshot on her tits or face, it's just a mess. | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 2:00:47 AM | Re post 46
Great post (as well)
I was lucky enough to have a similar experience, at 17, with a 24 yo French woman.
May a 25 yo can have it with a 35+ yo woman. Maybe. A good coach is invaluable, at one's early "career". | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 2:18:36 AM | | nothing wrong with being a late starter i didnt loose my virignity til i was 21 and im proud of that!!! it takes time to learn techniques but have fun learning it | |
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| How long does it take to get good at sex?
Posted: 6/26/2008 2:39:35 AM | One thing to learn is that not all women are the same, as I read someone else mention.
Find out what the woman you are with likes, and work on that. Use communication in bed. Let her know you want her to tell you what she likes. But you can also judge this by her reactions. But you should do this with all women, adapt to what they like. A good lover, male or female, will do this, and learn the best ways to please their partner. | |
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